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the tendency to like a person more if we have been exposed to him or her repeatedly

more-exposure effect

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the tendency to have contact with people who are equal in social status

homophily

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the tendency for men and women to choose as partners people who match them, that is, who are similar in attitudes, intelligence, and attractiveness

matching phenomenon

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a quality of relationships characterized by commitment, feelings of closeness and trust, and self-disclosure

intimacy

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telling personal things about yourself

self-disclosure

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a story about what love should be like, including characters, a plot and a theme

love story

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a state of intense longing for union with the other person and of intense physiological arousal

passionate love

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a feeling of deep attachment and commitment to a person with whom one has an intimate relationship

companionate love

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defining some concept or term by how it is measured, for example, defining intelligence as those abilities that are measured by IQ tests

operational definition

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Berscheid and Walster's theory that two conditions must exist simultaneiously for passionate love to occur: physiological arousal and attaching a cognitive label ("love") to the feeling

two-component theory of love

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when a person in a stage of physiological arousal (e.g. from exercising or being in a frightening situation) attributes these feelings to love or attraction to the person present

misattribution of arousal

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what the speaker means

intent

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what someone else understands the speaker to mean

impact

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a communicator whose impact matches his or her itent

effective communicator

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speaking for yourself, using the word "I'; not mind reading

"I" language

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making assumptions about what your partner thinks or feels

mind reading

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giving specific examples of the issue being discussed

documenting

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telling your partner what you are feeling by stating your thoughts clearly, simply, and honestly

leveling

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censoring or not saying things that would be deliberately hurtful to your partner or that are irrelevant

editing

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saying, in your own words, what you thought your partner meant

paraphrasing

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communication not through words, but through the body, e.g., eye contact, tone of voice, touching

nonverbal communication

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telling your partner that, given his or her point of view, you can see why he or she thinks a certain way

validation

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a set of rules designed to make arguments constructive rather than destructive

fighting fair