Flashcards in Chapter Eleven Deck (39):
Intense arousal and absorption with a partner.
Sternberg's Love Triangle
Triangle (points are intimacy, passion, and commitment).
Includes trust, caring, warmth, honesty, and a deep level of understanding and knowledge about each other.
Sexual desire and physical attraction.
A conscious decision to commit to a relationship, including willingness to make certain sacrifices to maintain that relationship over the long term.
The combination of intimacy and passion, without commitment.
In Sternberg's model, the combination of intimacy and commitment, without passion. More broadly, a relationship based on trust, mutual respect, affection, honesty, communication, happiness, and sharing.
Made up of commitment and passion, without intimacy.
Love that includes all three elements: intimacy, passion, and commitment.
Big Five Personality Traits
Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Openness, and Neuroticism.
Erotic love, or love based primarily on physical attraction and a strong sense of passion.
Game-playing love, in which a person sees love as a game of skill and strategy.
Stable love, typically deep and long-term, based on strong friendship and mutual respect.
Practical love that results from an objective evaluation of the advantages and disadvantages of a particular love relationship.
An obsessive, desperate, and possessive type of love, in which jealousy and doubt prevail.
Deep abiding love that is not without passion, and that is also selfless.
Lee's Love Styles
Primary - Eros, Ludus, Storge.
Secondary - Pragma (storge + ludus), Mania (eros + ludus), Agape (eros + storge).
Geographical closeness to another person.
Mere Exposure Effect
People tend to like others more whom they see more frequently, even if they have not spoken to the person.
Refers to how symmetrical, well-matched, or balanced one side of a person's face and body are, compared to the other.
Waist-hip Ratio (WHR)
Determined by a person's proportions: specifically, how big is the waist as compared to the hips.
Social Exchange Theory
The general principle that, in relationships, we want the best we can get for what we have to offer, and we might "exchange" what we have for something a potential partner is offering.
We use different parts of our self, or different public selves, in different situations.
Refers to population statistics, such as age, race, religion, income level, educational level, and other basic types of information you might find on the census report.
Our tendency to seek out and pay attention to information that supports our preexisting notions, and also to ignore or discount contradictory information.
Our tendency to forget minor annoyances and remember pleasures of a positive experience more vividly over time.
The degree to which we share our private self and various public selves.
Gottman's Seven Principles
Emotional Bank Account,
Managing Conflict Effectively,
Creating Shared Meaning.
A deep awareness of one's partner, based on detailed knowledge of their hopes, dreams, goals, past, and shared experiences.
Emotional Bank Account
Created by continuing to make small, everyday sacrifices and by making efforts to notice and appreciate the kindness of your partner.
The Four Horsemen
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
Negative communication directed at the person (rather than the behaviour), including blame and negative judgment.
Negative communication conveying a strong message of disrespect and superiority.
Avoiding responsibility for a problem, and instead deflecting it back toward the other person.
When one partner withdraws from a conversation, either by clamming up or by physically leaving the room and the discussion.
Beginning a conflict discussion with I-language.
Anything - verbal or non-verbal - that a partner does to try to make things a little more positive and less tense during a conflict.
Getting into a repeating cycle of unproductive and frustrating conflict about a currently unresolvable issue.