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Passionate Love

Intense arousal and absorption with a partner.

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Sternberg's Love Triangle

Triangle (points are intimacy, passion, and commitment).

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Intimacy

Includes trust, caring, warmth, honesty, and a deep level of understanding and knowledge about each other.

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Passion

Sexual desire and physical attraction.

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Commitment

A conscious decision to commit to a relationship, including willingness to make certain sacrifices to maintain that relationship over the long term.

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Romantic Love

The combination of intimacy and passion, without commitment.

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Companionate Love

In Sternberg's model, the combination of intimacy and commitment, without passion. More broadly, a relationship based on trust, mutual respect, affection, honesty, communication, happiness, and sharing.

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Fatuous Love

Made up of commitment and passion, without intimacy.

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Consummate Love

Love that includes all three elements: intimacy, passion, and commitment.

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Big Five Personality Traits

Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Openness, and Neuroticism.

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Eros

Erotic love, or love based primarily on physical attraction and a strong sense of passion.

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Ludus

Game-playing love, in which a person sees love as a game of skill and strategy.

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Storge

Stable love, typically deep and long-term, based on strong friendship and mutual respect.

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Pragma

Practical love that results from an objective evaluation of the advantages and disadvantages of a particular love relationship.

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Mania

An obsessive, desperate, and possessive type of love, in which jealousy and doubt prevail.

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Agape

Deep abiding love that is not without passion, and that is also selfless.

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Lee's Love Styles

Primary - Eros, Ludus, Storge.

Secondary - Pragma (storge + ludus), Mania (eros + ludus), Agape (eros + storge).

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Proximity

Geographical closeness to another person.

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Mere Exposure Effect

People tend to like others more whom they see more frequently, even if they have not spoken to the person.

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Symmetry

Refers to how symmetrical, well-matched, or balanced one side of a person's face and body are, compared to the other.

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Waist-hip Ratio (WHR)

Determined by a person's proportions: specifically, how big is the waist as compared to the hips.

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Social Exchange Theory

The general principle that, in relationships, we want the best we can get for what we have to offer, and we might "exchange" what we have for something a potential partner is offering.

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Self-monitoring

We use different parts of our self, or different public selves, in different situations.

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Demographic

Refers to population statistics, such as age, race, religion, income level, educational level, and other basic types of information you might find on the census report.

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Confirmation Bias

Our tendency to seek out and pay attention to information that supports our preexisting notions, and also to ignore or discount contradictory information.

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Rosy Retrospection

Our tendency to forget minor annoyances and remember pleasures of a positive experience more vividly over time.

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Self-Presentation

The degree to which we share our private self and various public selves.

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Gottman's Seven Principles

Communication,
Positive Attributions,
Emotional Bank Account,
Shared Power,
Managing Conflict Effectively,
Overcoming Gridlock,
Creating Shared Meaning.

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Love Maps

A deep awareness of one's partner, based on detailed knowledge of their hopes, dreams, goals, past, and shared experiences.

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Emotional Bank Account

Created by continuing to make small, everyday sacrifices and by making efforts to notice and appreciate the kindness of your partner.

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The Four Horsemen

Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.

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Criticism

Negative communication directed at the person (rather than the behaviour), including blame and negative judgment.

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Contempt

Negative communication conveying a strong message of disrespect and superiority.

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Defensiveness

Avoiding responsibility for a problem, and instead deflecting it back toward the other person.

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Stonewalling

When one partner withdraws from a conversation, either by clamming up or by physically leaving the room and the discussion.

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Soft Startup

Beginning a conflict discussion with I-language.

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Repair Attempts

Anything - verbal or non-verbal - that a partner does to try to make things a little more positive and less tense during a conflict.

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Gridlock

Getting into a repeating cycle of unproductive and frustrating conflict about a currently unresolvable issue.

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Liking

Intimacy by iteslf