polarized thinking
“all-or-nothing” or “black and white” thinking pattern. desire to be perfect or your are a complete failure
mental filtering
overgeneralization
focuses on a single event, makes conclusion based on single piece of negative evidence. incorrectly conlude all similar events going forward will result in same negative experience
jumping to conclusions
catastrophizing
personalization
take things personally, which causes a direct and personal reaction to what others do or say, even if it is unrelated. assuming you have been intentionally excluded or targeted
blaming
blaming others, playing victim role, holding others responsible for pain. blame is exernal rathern than on self. takes no responsibility
labeling
assignt judtment to self or others based on one negative incident instead of recognizing your or others made a mistake, you attach a label that is exaggerated and solely based on the single incident
always being right
need to be right. internalize opinoins as facts and go to great lengths to prove
should statements
“should” do, “must” do, “shouldn’t” do statements enforced on self or others. create pressure, imposing a set of expectations likely not to be met
emotional reasoning
any feeling must be true. emotion accepted as fact. lgical reasoning blocked out
control fallacies
fallacy of change
others should change to suit your interest. pressure others to change bc you feel it’ll make you happy. your happiness dependeont on others changing
fallacy of fairness
all things in life should be based on fairness. leads to anger and resentment
heaven’s reward fallacy
rewarded based on how hard you work. will be disappointed bc most things in reality are not fair. this leads to feelings of frustration, anger, resentment