Advanced Cold Reads Flashcards
In what situation can you use a cold read?
In any situation - professional, romantic, or purely social. Basically a read is an observation about someone that makes him or her feel as if you understand them in a very deep level.
What is a cold read?
Plain and simple, it is a tool to get a result. In this case it is a conversational tool to get an emotional result in the person you are “reading”
Why should we use cold read?
The perception that you understand them on a much deeper level than anyone else. This makes your subject very comfortable with you, because they feel like you understand them, automatically this leads to a sense of chemistry. In other words you’ll feel that click.
Applying the Pandora’s box Axes to cold reading
I. Time and mate optimization
Her dating strategy (for finding optimal male)
Tester and Investor
Applying the Pandora’s box Axes to cold reading
II. Coping strategy for sex and emotions (plain and pleasure).
Justifier and Denier
Applying the Pandora’s box Axes to cold reading.
III. World view and contributive style .
Realist and idealist
Direct cold read
“You are___.” You tell her what you already know about her.
Indirect cold read
“I am___.” You pace her worldview by talking about yourself, prompting her to think or say “ Me too! This guy must understand me because we are the same.”
Her contribution- how she needs to nurture and keep her man
Realist
Asses personality in the “now”
Her contribution- how she needs to nurture and keep her man
Idealist
Future projection role playing
How she copes a balances sexual emotions with potential pain and past trauma.
Justifier
Focus the read on her personality, as if you see something no one else does.
How she copes a balances sexual emotions with potential pain and past trauma.
Denier
Focus the read on her sensuality/ sexuality, as if you see something no one else does
Tester
Direct or indirect read?
Time to use indirect read -“I” pace her reality by talking about yourself.
Investor
Direct or indirect read?
Be very direct, use the read as the reason you like her
