chapter 12 (won't be on final-not covered in class)

Question 1

1. Based on the research described in the text, what characteristics should each be looking for in their partner?

Answer 1

If paula is looking for a one night stand, she will be most interested in finding someone that is physically attractive. If pete is looking for a long-term relationship, he will be focusing on personality traits.

Question 2

1. Write a personal ad for each person that reflects these preferences.

Answer 2

paula: looking for someone physically attractive
pete: looking for personality

Question 3

1. Briefly describe one relevant study that sheds light on which partner characteristics Paula and Pete will place the most weight on in that context

Answer 3

Research shows that physical attractiveness is a predictor for how desirable a one night stand is, while agreeableness was the strongest predictor of current and future long term satisfaction

Question 4

2. constructive accommodation

Answer 4

Research shows that physical attractiveness is a predictor for how desirable a one night stand is, while agreeableness was the strongest predictor of current and future long term satisfaction

Question 5

2. how attachment style relates to constructive accommodation

Answer 5

couple with secure attachment styles tend to accommodate more positively than others, overlook partners faults or change their own behavior

Question 6

2. how commitment relates to constructive accommodation

Answer 6

strong commitment feelings lead to more constructive accommodation; strong feelings of commitment can motivate people to overlook their partners flaw, communicate needs, change own behaviors, forgive easier

Question 7

2. how idealization of partner and relationship relates to constructive accommodation

Answer 7

if you hold more positive illusions about your partner you report less conflict and fewer destructive ways of dealing with conflicts; if you see your relationship as superior increase likelihood of staying together

Question 8

2. how belief about relationship relates to constructive accommodation

Answer 8

if you view relationships as achieved, conflicts are to be expected and are overcome them, date a partner for longer, have less one night stands and more likely to constructively discuss relationship conflicts with partner