chapter 10

Question 1

What is reactive jealousy?

Answer 1

occurs when someone becomes aware of an actual threat to a valued relationship

Question 2

How does it differ from suspicious jealousy?

Answer 2

occurs when one’s partner hasn’t misbehaved and one’s suspicions do not fit the facts at hand

Question 3

Which attachment style is least related to jealousy?

Answer 3

Those with dismissing style of attachment

Question 4

Which personality variable is most associated with jealousy?

Answer 4

People who are high in negative emotionality

Question 5

Who makes us jealous?

Answer 5

Attractive romantic rivals who have high mate value and make us look bad in comparison

Question 6

Which theory views male jealousy as springing from the importance of insuring that children are their biological offspring?

Answer 6

Paternity uncertainty (Evloutionary theory)

Question 7

In forced choice questions, women report they would react more to the threat of ______ infidelity and men report they would react more to the threat of ______ infidelity.

Answer 7

Women: emotional infidelity
Men: sexual infidelity

Question 8

What is poaching?

Answer 8

Behavior that is intended to lure someone away from an existing relationship

Question 9

Who poaches?

Answer 9

Horny, extraverted people who are low in agreeableness and conscientiousness and who approve of adulterous promiscuity

Question 10

How frequent is it that someone tries to poach a relationship partner?

Answer 10

54% of men, 34% of women

Question 11

What are the personality traits of mate poachers?

Answer 11

In general, mate poachers are horny, extraverted people who are low in agreeableness and conscientiousness and who approve of adulterous promiscuity

Question 12

Mate poachers are high in which Dark Triad traits?

Answer 12

Mate poachers are high in which Dark Triad traits?

Question 13

What do women do when they want to poach someone? What do men do when they want to poach someone?

Answer 13

Women: advertise their good looks and sexual availability
Men: publicize their power and willingness to provide their lovers desirable resources

Question 14

Two important strategies for overcoming unwanted jealousy are self-reliance and …..?

Answer 14

Self-worth

Question 15

Those who lie to others can begin to perceive the recipients of the lies as less honest and trustworthy. This is called

Answer 15

Deceiver’s trust

Question 16

What most often gives away liars?

Answer 16

Lying is usually apparent in changes in a person’s ordinary demeanor

Question 17

What are constructive responses to betrayal?

Answer 17

Know what is required in apologies/how to make forgiveness possible

Question 18

If someone wants their betrayal to do the least harm to the relationship, they should do what?

Answer 18

Admit our wrongdoing without being asked
Make your responses as truthful as possible
Don’t contradict the truth

Question 19

What is forgiveness?

Answer 19

a decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with, or hold in debt, someone who has wronged you

Question 20

What does it involve doing?

Answer 20

Sincere contrition (feeling of remorse)
Desire to continue the relationship
Let go of anger and resentment
To be explicit, telling them of your decision and inviting discussions of the event and its consequences

Question 21

What type of person is most likely to forgive?

Answer 21

Secure people, those high in agreeableness, people with self control

Question 22

Are apologies helpful in forgiveness?

Answer 22

Forgiveness is less likely to occur when excuses are given or when an apology seems half-hearted → apologies are helpful in forgiveness

Question 23

What role do expressions of shame and regret play?

Answer 23

Victims are more likely to forgive those who betray them when offenders offer a meaningful apology by acknowledging their wrongs, accepting responsibility for their actions, offering genuine atonement by expressing shame, regret, and remorse for their misbehavior, and promising better conduct in the future