Chapter 11: Attraction, love and communication Flashcards

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Mere-exposure effect

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The tendency to like a person more if we have been exposed to them repeatedly.

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Homophily

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the tendency to have contact with people who are equal in social status.

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Matching phenomenon

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The tendency for people to choose as partners people who match them, that is, who are similar in attitudes, intelligence, and attractiveness.

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Fluctuating asymmetry

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Asymmetry of bilateral features that are on average symmetrical in the population.

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Intimacy

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A quality of relationships characterized by commitment, feelings od closeness and trust, and self-disclosure.

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Self-disclosure

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Telling personal thing about yourself.

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Eros

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According to love styles theory, a powerful physical attraction to the loved person.

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Ludus

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According to the love style theory, a playful type of love.

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Storge

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In love styles theory, a very stable, reliable type of love.

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Passionate love

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A state of intense longing for union with the other person and of intense physiological arousal.

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Companionate love

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A feeling of deep attachment and commitment to a person with whom one has an intimate relationship.

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Two-component theory of love

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The theory that two conditions must exist simultaneously for passionate love to occur: physiological arousal and attaching a cognitive label (“love”) to the feeling.

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Misattribution of arousal

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When a person in a state of physiological arousal attributes these feelings to love or attraction to the person present.

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Intent

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What the speaker means.

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Impact

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What someone else understands the speaker means.

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Effective communicator

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A communicator whose impact matches their intent.

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“I” language

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Speaking for yourself, using the word “I”.

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Mind reading

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Making assumptions about what your partner thinks or feels.

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Documenting

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Giving specific examples of the issue being discussed.

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Leveling

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Telling your partner what you are feeling by stating your thoughts clearly, simply, and honestly.

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Editing

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Censoring or not saying things that would be deliberately hurtful to your partner or that are irrelevant.

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Paraphrasing

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Saying, in your own words, what you thought your partner meant.

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Nonverbal communication

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Communication not through words, but through the body.

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Validation

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Telling your partner that, given their point of view, you can see why they think a certain way.

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Fighting fair

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A set of rules designed to make arguments constructive rather than destructive.