Forgive Yourself Flashcards
How to begin forgiving yourself for staying with Deon?
You have to actively go out of your way to think of the ways in which you have made a mistake as a human being in frailty, in ignorance, that you would not make if you knew more about the situation.
Treat yourself with the same level of forgiveness that you would treat a friend. Imagine a friend of yours gets into a narcissistically-abusive relationship. Would you berate them for being stupid? Would you berate them for being weak? Would you berate them for being cowardly or would you say, “It’s okay. You’re a human being. We all make mistakes and you’re allowed to make mistakes too.”
The best way to heal and move away from that is through forgiving yourself completely, and taking on in all humility that the relationship has failed.
You couldn’t save them, you couldn’t save yourself. It is a loss situation. It is a lost situation that is full of loss, and that is okay. And that you can forgive yourself for that.
