2025-02-11 - I Messages

Question 1

Before doing any activity, what should you do

Answer 1

Go over rules of engagement

Question 2

When giving praise or criticism, one should

Answer 2

Stress the deed, not the doer

Question 3

Why use I messages?

Answer 3

To provide non-blameful description of behaviour.

Avoiding transferring frustration nto a label of students character.

Question 4

What are the 3 + 1 parts to I-Messages

Answer 4

non-blameful description of behaviour

feeling/emotional state associated with behaviour

Tangible concrete effect of the behaviour

The solution

Question 5

What should you avoid when using I Messages

Answer 5

Using “I feel” words.

“I Feel you should” - turns into a YOU statement

Question 6

What are some critical elements of I-Language

Answer 6

Speaks from teacher perspective

Explains why behaviour is a problem

Gives data on the behaviour

Communicates respect for student

Question 7

What are some cautions of I-Messages?

Answer 7

Involves self-disclosure, which can make a teacher vulnerable