amma, dom and yazz - female relationships Flashcards
yazz puts courtney down in conversation
“that’s a non-sequitur… she herself is a big fan of the non-sequitur… Yazz excused herself to go to the toilet”
‘the unfuckwithables’ make fun of courtney’s “farm girl looks”
“sparkling eyes… translucent skin… milkmaid breasts”
yazz obsessed with comparing suffering
“she’s the only one yazz can’t tell to check her privilege”
courtney develops as a socially conscious person and feminist and yazz is almost competing
“courtney replied that roxane gay warned against the idea of playing ‘privilege olympics’ and wrote in ‘bad feminist’ that privilege is relative and contextual”
the internet has developed online dating into a competition for mates, further objectifying women
“it’s unfortunate that she’s coming of age as one of the Swipe-Like-Chat-Invite-Fuck generation where men expect you to…”
internet’s expectations of women have made yazz self-conscious so she competes with all the women on the internet, also insulting them
“she’s having to compete with images of girls on fucksites with collagen pouts and their bloated silicone tits out”
for all yazz’s feminist proclamations, she’s participating in the marginalisation of women in relationships
“unfortunately he’s also got a girlfriend in chicago”
uses her marginalised status as a black women to put down other women
“everyone’s at it, right? yazz said, hands on hips, so why are you targeting us in particular, giving courtney a look rich with subtext”
describes her friends with a tone thick with condescension and a holier than thou attitude
“whole tubes of mascara to thicken already forested eyelashes”
positions herself above others because of her feminist beliefs
“we don’t tolerate that here”
resentful tone when describing men in the street admiring courtney and courtney’s reaction to it
“they boldly slow-stripped courtney… courtney got off on it, loving the attention / yazz didn’t want to break the news to her”
yazz obsessed with waris’ unique position above her (on yazz’s social class system) as waris is more oppressed - jealous
“waris is the deepest of them all”
judges her mother for polygamy
“proper commitment with a view to a monogamous relationship in the long term (her mother she is not)”
feels superior in judging what others wear, despite a cornerstone of feminist ideals being the right to self-expression, and her own upbringing - effect of the internet
“a mad old woman look”
yazz condescends to her mother when amma takes food to her, wishing for a heteronormative, ‘conventional’ childhood
“almost like she realises she’s not been the perfect picket-fence mum”
