Chapter 1

Question 1

Humans have two contrary selves within us, a “lower” and a “higher”…. Which tends to be stronger?

Answer 1

The Lower self

Question 2

The Ancient Greek word for “mind” or “intelligence”, the force that permeates the universe creating meaning and order

Answer 2

Nous

Question 3

Like everyone, you think you are ________, but you are not.

Answer 3

Rational

Question 4

Whenever anything goes wrong in our life, we naturally seek ________________.

Answer 4

An explanation

Question 5

The first step toward becoming rational is to understand our ____________.

Answer 5

Fundamental irrationality

Question 6

For millions of years, living organisms depended on finely tuned ________ for survival.

Answer 6

Instincts

Question 7

It has been shown that ________ can feel envy and desire for vengeance, among other emotions.

Answer 7

Chimpanzees

Question 8

The mammalian brain is composed of three parts. ________ __________ ___________

Answer 8

Reptilian, old mammalian/limbic brain, neocortex

Question 9

Instinctive part of the brain that controls all automatic responses and regulates the body

Answer 9

Reptilian

Question 10

Part of the brain that governs feeling and emotion.

Answer 10

Old mammalian/limbic brain

Question 11

Part of the brain that controls cognition, and for humans, language.

Answer 11

Neocortex

Question 12

__________ people rush into action without carefully considering the ramifications and consequences.

Answer 12

Irrational

Question 13

When it comes to hiring an assistant or partner, rational people will use _________ as a barometer.

Answer 13

Competence

Question 14

Acquiring rationality is a _______ step process

Answer 14

Three

Question 15

First step of acquiring rationality

Answer 15

Must become aware of low-grade irrationality.

Question 16

Second step of acquiring rationality

Answer 16

Understand the nature of high-grade irrationality

Question 17

Third step of acquiring rationality

Answer 17

Enact strategies and exercises that strengthen the thinking part of the brain

Question 18

I look at the evidence and arrive at my decisions through more or less rational processes. Finding evidence that confirms what we WANT to believe.

Answer 18

Confirmation bias

Question 19

I believe in this ideas so strongly. It must be true.

Answer 19

Conviction bias

Question 20

I understand the people I deal with; I see them just as they are.

Answer 20

Appearance bias

Question 21

My ideas are my own. I do not listen to the group. I am not a conformist

Answer 21

The group bias

Question 22

I learn from my experience and mistakes.

Answer 22

The blame bias

Question 23

I’m different. I’m more rational than others, more ethical as well.

Answer 23

Superiority bias

Question 24

Name the 5 inflaming factors

Answer 24

1.Trigger points from early childhood
2.Sudden gains and losses
3.Rising pressure
4.Inflaming individuals
5.The group effect

Question 25

The emotional self thrives on ______

Answer 25

Ignorance

Question 26

Accept people as ______.

Answer 26

Facts

Question 27

Ancient Greek metaphor for proper ratio and balance

Answer 27

The rider and the horse

Question 28

Our survival and happiness depends on the ________ we form with others.

Answer 28

Bonds

Question 29

People who lack a coherent sense of self.

Answer 29

Deep narcissists

Question 30

When is the key moment in constructing a “self” that we can hold on to and love?

Answer 30

Between the ages of 2-5 years old

Question 31

The nightmare for deep narcissists generally arrives in their _________?

Answer 31

Twenties and thirties

Question 32

A variety of narcissist who is more dangerous and toxic due to the levels of power they can attain.

Answer 32

Narcissistic leader

Question 33

We are all on the spectrum of ______________.

Answer 33

Self-absorption

Question 34

____________ have a stronger, even more resilient sense of self. They tend to hover closer to the top of the scale and recover quickly from wounds and insults.

Answer 34

Healthy narcissists

Question 35

The four components of the empathic skill set?

Answer 35

1. Empathic attitude 2. Visceral empathy 3. Analytic empathy 4. The empathic skill

Question 36

When we make a mistake, we attribute it to circumstances that pushed us into doing it. But when others make a mistake, we tend to see it as a character flaw, as something that flowed from their imperfect personality. This is known as?

Answer 36

Attribution bias

Question 37

This kind of empathy depends largely on mirror neurons- those neurons that fire in our brain when we watch someone do something.

Answer 37

Visceral empathy

Question 38

The physical effect of mirroring people on any level and will draw out an empathetic response from them.

Answer 38

The chameleon effect

Question 39

There are people out there who are not worth the effort—-

Answer 39

Supreme fools or true psychopaths

Question 40

Who said “I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.”

Answer 40

- Abraham Lincoln

Question 41

What are the two types of feedback regarding empathetic skill?

Answer 41

Direct and indirect

Question 42

What are the two types of feedback regarding empathetic skill?

Answer 42

Direct and indirect

Question 43

What are the 4 examples of narcissistic types?

Answer 43

1. The complete control narcissist 2. The Theatrical narcissist 3. The narcissistic couple 4. The healthy narcissist (mood reader)

Question 44

A highly strenuous dance that included much squatting and kicking.

Answer 44

The Gopak