chapter 10 Flashcards
(23 cards)
What is reactive jealousy?
occurs when someone becomes aware of an actual threat to a valued relationship
How does it differ from suspicious jealousy?
occurs when one’s partner hasn’t misbehaved and one’s suspicions do not fit the facts at hand
Which attachment style is least related to jealousy?
Those with dismissing style of attachment
Which personality variable is most associated with jealousy?
People who are high in negative emotionality
Who makes us jealous?
Attractive romantic rivals who have high mate value and make us look bad in comparison
Which theory views male jealousy as springing from the importance of insuring that children are their biological offspring?
Paternity uncertainty (Evloutionary theory)
In forced choice questions, women report they would react more to the threat of ______ infidelity and men report they would react more to the threat of ______ infidelity.
Women: emotional infidelity
Men: sexual infidelity
What is poaching?
Behavior that is intended to lure someone away from an existing relationship
Who poaches?
Horny, extraverted people who are low in agreeableness and conscientiousness and who approve of adulterous promiscuity
How frequent is it that someone tries to poach a relationship partner?
54% of men, 34% of women
What are the personality traits of mate poachers?
In general, mate poachers are horny, extraverted people who are low in agreeableness and conscientiousness and who approve of adulterous promiscuity
Mate poachers are high in which Dark Triad traits?
Mate poachers are high in which Dark Triad traits?
What do women do when they want to poach someone? What do men do when they want to poach someone?
Women: advertise their good looks and sexual availability
Men: publicize their power and willingness to provide their lovers desirable resources
Two important strategies for overcoming unwanted jealousy are self-reliance and …..?
Self-worth
Those who lie to others can begin to perceive the recipients of the lies as less honest and trustworthy. This is called
Deceiver’s trust
What most often gives away liars?
Lying is usually apparent in changes in a person’s ordinary demeanor
What are constructive responses to betrayal?
Know what is required in apologies/how to make forgiveness possible
If someone wants their betrayal to do the least harm to the relationship, they should do what?
Admit our wrongdoing without being asked
Make your responses as truthful as possible
Don’t contradict the truth
What is forgiveness?
a decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with, or hold in debt, someone who has wronged you
What does it involve doing?
Sincere contrition (feeling of remorse)
Desire to continue the relationship
Let go of anger and resentment
To be explicit, telling them of your decision and inviting discussions of the event and its consequences
What type of person is most likely to forgive?
Secure people, those high in agreeableness, people with self control
Are apologies helpful in forgiveness?
Forgiveness is less likely to occur when excuses are given or when an apology seems half-hearted → apologies are helpful in forgiveness
What role do expressions of shame and regret play?
Victims are more likely to forgive those who betray them when offenders offer a meaningful apology by acknowledging their wrongs, accepting responsibility for their actions, offering genuine atonement by expressing shame, regret, and remorse for their misbehavior, and promising better conduct in the future
