Chapter 10 Flashcards
(21 cards)
Relational Value
The degree to which others find their relationships with us to be valuable, important or close.
Maximal Inclusion
people seek out our company and don’t want to do things unless we can come.
Active inclusion
others welcome us but don’t actively seek us out
passive inclusion
Others allow us to be included
Ambivalence
Others don’t care whether we are involved or not
passive exclusion
Others ignore us but don’t avoid us
Active exclusion
Others avoid us and tolerate our existence only when necessary.
Maximal exclusion
Others banish us, sending us away or abandoning us.
Perceived relational value
The extent to which we feel valued/ important to others.
Reactive jealousy
occurs when someone becomes aware of a real threat to a valued relationship.
Suspicious Jealousy
Occurs when one’s partner hasn’t done anything wrong and ones suspicions don’t fit the facts at hand.
Self reliance
Involves efforts to stay cool, and avoid being angry or embarrassed by refusing to dwell on the unfairness of certain situations.
Self bolstering
Boosting ones self esteem by doing something nice for oneself and focusing on new positive qualities.
Deception
intentional behaviour that creates an impression that the deceiver knows to be untrue
Deceiver’s Distrust
When people lie to others they then begin to perceive that recipients are less trustworthy or honest as a result.
Truth Bias
We assume our partner’s are usually telling the truth
Betrayals
disagreeable, hurtful, actions by people who we trusted and from which we didn’t expect such treachery.
Foregiveness
decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with or hold in debt someone who wronged you
Reasons for cheating
Sexuality - need for variety emotional satisfaction Social context Separation/attitudes Revenge/hostility
Double shot hypothesis
suggests that women have a belief that men can have sexual relations without commitment. and that in order for commitment to occur, sex is a prerequisite
Self evaluation maintenance theory (SEM)
The ways in which people view themselves in relationships. more likely to be threatened by a rival that outperforms us in a category crucial to our self concept
