Chapter 3: Learning to Accept Yourself Flashcards
A restrictive, punitive style of parenting focusing on following rules and assuming that the child is incompetent.
Authoritarian parenting
Parents who are involved, warm, and nurturing while at the same time setting meaningful limits and controls for the child.
Authoritative parenting
The person you feel you should be
Ideal self
The belief that one is surrounded by enemies; a belief that one is detestable and deserves to be treated poorly.
Malevolent attitude
A negative inner voice that attacks and judges you.
Pathological critic
The person you feel you actually are.
Real self
Your paradigm about yourself reflected in how you might describe yourself.
Self-concept
A measure of how much you value yourself and feel useful and necessary in the world.
Self-esteem
The degree to which you feel worthwhile as a human being within the standards of your culture.
Self-worth
A psychological characteristic exemplified by consistent behaviors across time, place, and situations.
Trait
The development of virtues and their corresponding signature strengths
Character
The tendency to look for verification to support your existing opinion
Cognitive distortions
Occur when parents judge a child’s values and delivers their love based on the acceptability of the child’s behavior at the moment
Conditional positive regard
When an individual thinks they are worthwhile or lovable only if they behave in certain ways or meet certain standards
Conditions of worth
Describes an individual with chronically low self-esteem
Inferiority complex
Parents who are involved and loving with their children but who fail to set limits or provide meaningful controls over their behavior
Permissive indulgent parenting
Refers to parenting that is not particularly harsh or punitive, but treats the child as if she is not particularly important; uninvolved in child’s life
Permissive-indifferent parenting
Those behaviors and traits which characterize the presence of a virtue in an individual’s character and which can be developed by exercising proactive choice; not the same as talent
Signature strengths
Strengths that are valued in every culture, valued in their own right, and are changeable by choice and exercise of will
Virtues
Occurs when a parent demonstrates acceptance of a child as having intrinsic merit regardless of their behavior at the moment
Unconditional positive regard
