Chapter 7: Friendship Flashcards
(10 cards)
Friendships are complex because they annoy you but you’re fond of them they…
Know you quite well and meet the criteria for intimacy
You have substantial knowledge of friends…
You have high trust and commitment toward them; there may not be as much interdependence, responsiveness, and mutuality, but all four ARE present
Romances have some ingredients that friendships lack like…
Friendships are an indiscernible source of pleasure and support
36% of unmarried young adults consider their friendship to be their “closest, deepest, most involved and most intimate current relationship”
47% said that their partner was the most important partner but friendships were obviously significantly important as well
Best times occurred when…
Both their partners and friends were present
Attributes of Friendships
Affection for one another (Like, trust, and respect each other, value loyalty and authenticity, both feel free to express themselves without pretense)
Communication (give and receive meaningful disclosures, emotional support, and practice assistance, and they observe a norm of equality, with both partners preferences being valued)
Companionship (Share similar interests and activities, and consider each other sources of recreation and fun)
Beverly Fehr (1996, p. 7) defines friendship as…
a voluntary, personal relationship, typically providing intimacy and assistance, in which two parties like one another and seek each others company
Difference between Friendship and Love
Both liking and love has positive and warm evaluations of ones partner
, but romantic love also involves fascination with ones partner, sexual desire and a greater desire for exclusivity. More signet standards of conduct and we are more willing to help lovers than friends.
Social norms that regulate frienships are…
less confining than those that govern romantic relationships, and friendships are easier to dissolve. In addition, friendships are less likely to involve overt expressions of positive emotion, and friends, as a general rule spent less of their free time together than romantic partners do.
Friends overall are…
less obligated to one another and usually do not have sex, even with the opposite sex, although some do FWB
