Coaching Fundamentals Flashcards

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ICF Definition of coaching

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coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential

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LLCA Definition

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Coaching is the relationship between a highly trained coach and client in which the coach guides the client to uncover personal truth, discover their own answers and reach agreed upon outcome through clear action

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coaching competencie

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ethics, personal integrity & honesty, sensitive to client’s identity, uses language that is respectful, maintains confidentiality, maintains distinction between coaching & therapy

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LLCA competenties

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doesn’t provide advice or tell people how to live,, determines when a client is not appropriate for coaching, doesn’t coach 2 clients where there might be potential for conflict, does her own work and not air personal matters during coaching calls, maintains clear boundaries between client & coach, doesn’t enter into business arrangements with clients

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LLCA coaching self care

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willign to set and maintain bounaries, understand non-negotiables, clear on your vision & goal, move boy, meditatate, etc & have fun

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coaching vs therapy

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coaching is partnering with client, visioning success, moving toward future. thereapy emphasizes emotions & the past to understand the present. coaching is performance improvement. therapy is working through trama.

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coaching is not

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giving advice, recieivng praise or being a hero

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coaching mindset

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  1. open curious, flexible, client centered,
    2 acknowldges that clients are responsible for choices
  2. engages in ongoing learning & development
  3. develops ongoing reflective practice
    5 remains aware of and open to influence of context & culture on self and others
    6 uses awareness of self and intuition to benefit clients
    7 develops and maintains the ability to regulate ones emotions
  4. mentally and emotionally prepares for sessions
  5. seeks help from outside sources when necessary
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coaching supervision

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where coaches reflect on their coaching work - for the purpose of observation & exploration of biases, agendas & blind spots

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key reflective coaching elements

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how are you showing up as a coach, who are you being with the client - eg worried about being liked, what is being triggered within you, are you actively listening, reflecting back and guiding client to their own ansers

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cleint oriented mindset

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assume client is biggest expert of their own lives and you can guide them to remove the obstacles that stand in their way.

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maintinaing presence

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listen actively for what is being said and what is not being said, minime distractions & provide space for client to reflect and move forward with their goals

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icf competency - maintainig presence

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fully conscious and present, remains focused, observant & empathetic, demonstraights curiosity, manages ones emtions, demonstrates confidence, comfortable in working in a space of not knowing, allows space fo silence, pause or reflection

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icf competency - listens actively

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focuses on wha tlient is saying and not saying, considered the clients context, reflects or summaries what client says to ensure clarity and understanding, recognizes & inquires when there is more to what the client is communicating, notices, acknowledges * explores the clients emotions, energy shifts, non-verbal cues or other behaviors, integrates the clients words, tone of voice and body language to determine the full meaning of what is being communicated, notices trends in clients behaviors and emotions across sessions to iscern themes and patterns

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icf competency - curiosity

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asking questions, clarifying and listening actively. embrace I don’t know, be open to other perspectives, be humble

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active listening doesn’t include

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listening from a place of judgement, agenda or purpose

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tools to improve active listening

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consider where you are listening from. wait to respond. reflect back your clients workds. ask clarifying questions. introduce problem solving.

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steps to suspending judgement

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1 - recoginize internal dialogue
2 - identify where judgement is coming from
3 - separate fact from fiction
4 - find compassion and focus on actively listeing
5 - Acceptance not resistance
6 - seek clarification

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coaches role in effective communication

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evoke greater awareness, lead your clients to their own discoveries and providing direct feedback while keeping personal agenda out of the conversation

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ICF core competency - evokes awareness

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1 - facilitates client insight and learning by using powerquestions, silence, metaphor or analogy
2 - considers client experience when deciding what might be most useful
3 - challenges the client as a way to evoke awareness or insight
4 - ask questions about the client
5 - ask questions to help client explore beyond current thnking
6 - invites the client to share more about their experience in the moment
7 - notices what is working to enhance client progression
8 - adjust the coaching approach in response to clients needs
9 - helps client identify factors that influence current and future patters of behavior, thinking or emotion
10 - invites client to generate ideas about how to move ward and what they are willing to do
11 - supports client in reframing perspectives
12 - shares overvaions, insights and feelings

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4 components to creating awareness

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1 - embodyng a coaching mindset / coaching presence
2- listen actively
3 - ask powerful questions
4 - direct communiation

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powerful questions definition

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open ende questions that invite the client to clarify, action and discovery. they create possibility fo expanded learning and fresh perspective allowing the client to go deeper and come to their own conclusions.

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powerful questions usually start with

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what, where, how, when & if as long as their designed to lead to new ideas (NOT what/if or why). what if & why invites story

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powerful question vs clarifying question

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powerful questions invite client to go deeper / clafidying questions clarify a situation an provide details so the coach can ask powerful questions

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purpose of sharing
to provide a precise point / take concreat concepts and make them real
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sandwhich method
propuarlarized by ken blanchard. item to be improved is between two things the person did well.
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anatomy of a coaching call
Intoduction - settle into call check in aout prior week step / lesson - help with perspecive process or exercise - bypass subconscious mind identify clarify action step (homework) close - acknowledge self & set up next time
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components of a goal
specific, achivable, realistic
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Boundaries definition
limits you set around what you will and will not do, accept or tolerate.
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What happens when you don't set boudaries
the truth comes out sideways as self sabotage, self descrution or illness
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short term discomfort trade-off
long term resentment
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who is boundary coaching meant to help
over givers, over achievers, people pleasers
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10 steps
``` 1 - Own That It's you who's been crossing your boundaries 2 - Teke your boundary inventory 3- conquer codependence 4 - excavate your unconscious mind 5 - get comfortable with short ter discomfort 6 - envision your empowered future 7 - right your scripts 8 - choose your beginner boundaries 9 - set your bottom line boundary 10 - repeat until free ```
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define boundaries and how they are the foundation for freedom
limits aorund wha tyou will or will not do, accept or tolerate. they allow you to consciously currate what you want in your life and what you want to keep out of your life. they allow you to live a life of your own choosing, where your needs are met. where you end and where someone else begins
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order to consider yourself
1st consider yourself as much as you consider others 2nd - consider yourself more than you consider others 3rd consider yourself first before you consider others
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it's you who' been crossing your boundaries - key points
own that it's you who's been crossing your bounaries it's no one else's job to respect, uphol and maintain your bounaries taking ownership of boundaries moves you from blame and victim to responsibility and empowerment locating yourself and placing yourself at the cent erof your life your values / non negotiables more and evening retine of self locating / self connection
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purpose of centering exercises
to let go of distrractions of the day and bring awareness to the present moment
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where do you first feel boundaries
emotions or in your body
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a boundary is not
wanting someone else to change
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what is putting yourself at th center of your life mean
what do i want, what do i think and what to I need (internal focus)
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what does locating yourself mean
locating is getting to know yourself as you identify and prioritize your values, need and wants. discover your non-negotiables - behaviors, activities and attributes you must have in yourself or others - your no mater whats.
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non-negotiables
- behaviors, activities and attributes you must have in yourself or others - your no mater whats.
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boudaries are between you and...
boundaries are between you and you. they are about what you want, what you need and how you will honor yourself
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foundational pillars of boundary coaching
1 - it's a ntural impuls to tend to ourown needs & desires 2 pillar - everything in your life will thrive when you are willing to put yourself first 3rd pillar - repressed feeling will demand to be felf
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what happens when anger, resentment and frustration are repressedd
you rsort to numbing strategies like alcholo, food, shopping, social media, etc
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codependancy
taking responsibility for others to an extreme degree. denying your own wants and needs in hopes of meeting thiers. putting someone else's needs ahead of your own. looking to someone else to emotionally regulate you.
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concuring codependence
about holding others capable of tending to their own needs
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Guilt is
a sign you are honoring yourself
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3 sisters that support you in honoring yourself
selfish, self love and self care
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disowned qualities
qualities that you hide or reject in yourself or overcompensate in order to receive the love and acceptance. You project these qualities onto others and emphatical say you are not or on't want to be these things
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projections sounds like
judgement
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you'll contune to be tested until
you are no longer triggered
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what do you do to nuetralize a trigger
own an integrate the disowned quality
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why do you look for the quality benieth the behavior
because you may not exhibit or express the quality the way others do
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steps to find a disowned quality
1 - think about someone that triggers you 2 - name the behavior that aggrivates you 3 - identify the specific quality that is under the triggering behavior 4 - ask - how do i express this same quality 5 -how do i overcompensate for the rejection of this quality 6 - accept this quality by saying I am X 7 embrase the quality and honor the gift it offers you to reclaim and integrate it
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Shadow beliefs
beliefs that are outside of your consious awareness. hidden in the recesses of your consciousness. Shadow beliefs are based on conclusions we drew as children because we didn't understand what was going on.
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common shadow belies
i'm not lovable; im not worthy, i'm not good enough
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underlying committments
promises made to ourselves when we were young usually as a result of a limiting belief. they are strategies or coping mechanism put in place to make us feel safe and loved
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excavating your conscious mind consist of
disowned qualities shadow beliefs underlying committments
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setting boundaries requires facing what
short term discomfort
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facing short term discomfort allows us to avoid
long term reentment
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bariers to setting boundaries
fear discomfort conflict
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what are the things that are on the other side of boundaries
LEO - List of Exillerating Outomes
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parts of a boundary script
Plan A Plan B Copany Line
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What is Plan A
Statement of how you feel & Your Request I feel X when you do Y, are you willing to Z
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What is Plan B
Your declaration of intention if the person doesn't meet your request I feel X when you do or say Y. In order to take care of myself I'll do W since you are not able to meet my request
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What is The company Line
what you repeat if someone challenges you. as i said in order to take care of myself I will do W. this is used to avoid getting drawn into an argument
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Keys to making the script work
avoid over explaining avoid language that blames the other person just express your boundary. keep the focus on yourself and your feelings avoid being self righeious don't make excuses don't make empty threats
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what are all of the bad things that might happen if you sel a bounary
dreaded list of consequences
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keys to being a boundary badass
attention - noticing how it ffeels in your body compassion - gentle and compassionate with yourself willingness - willing to feel how we feel, willing to say no, etc
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when are boundaries set naturally
when you are living in alignment with your truth
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what happens when you are living in alighmtment with truth
boundaries are set naturally