Communicating Effectively Flashcards

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Barriers

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  1. Female gender role socialization
  2. Female to female relationship problems
  3. Queen B syndrome
  4. Trashing syndrome
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Communicating effectively

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  1. Most important part of leadership ability
  2. Cannot not communicate
  3. Without good communication skills leader ship skills it’s hot possible
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Barrier

Female gender role socialization

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Women are not as assertive 
Passive 
Dependent 
Subservient 
Emotional 
Socialization
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Barriers

Female to female relationship problems

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Women are more competitive with other women than with men
Unsuccessful support system
Nurses eat their young
Gossip about others

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Barriers

Queen B syndrome

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Hang with male coworkers
Feel superior to other women
Cooperate with men not with women to maintain their position
Protective of own position but don’t make it easier for other women
My way or the highway
Manipulative dishonest destructive

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Barriers

Trashing syndrome

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Divides women against each other
Verbal attack toward another in an attempt to destroy

Manipulative dishonest and destructive

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Challenge to change

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Commit ourselves to be supportive of others rather than destructive

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Highest ranked barriers

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  1. Fear of punishment from colleagues
  2. Can’t differ btw assertive and aggressive
  3. Afraid to be isolated
  4. Don’t want to take the risk of changing behavior
  5. Uncertain about my rights as a nurse to be assertive
  6. Colleagues might not like you
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Ego states

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Parent
Adult
Child

Each has own feelings and behaviors

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Ego States

  1. Parent
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Superego

Controls source of:
Values
Opinions
Rules
Regulations
Codes for living 
Behaviors thoughts and feeling copied from patent or parent figures
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Ego states

  1. Adult
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Ego

Logical thinking, rational, problem solver
Collect info, set goals, impaired alternatives, makes decisions, tests
Behavior thoughts and feelings are a direct response

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Ego states

  1. Child
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ID

Dominated by emotions and feelings
Set of behaviors emotions thoughts and feelings replayed from childhood

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Parent dominated ego state

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Don’t participate in problem solving
Already have the answer
Know what is right and what is wrong

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Adult dominated ego state

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Boring
Work really hard
Little time for fun

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Child dominated ego state

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Do not engage in rational problem solving

Scream and are emotional gets them what they want

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Transactions

Parent/parent

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People share opinions with each other

New grads don’t know what they are doing- that’s for sure

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Transactions

Adult/adult

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Business like

Reasoning together

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Transactions

Child/child

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Emotional exchange

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Transactions

Parent/ child

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One is psychologically superior to the other

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Complementary transactions

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Response to stimulus is predictable and expected

Communication will continue of transaction is complimentary

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Crossed transactions

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Results in closing communication
Response is inappropriate or unexpected
Confuse or threaten the sender

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Why should the nurse be aware of behaviors of other?

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Address it
Encourage it
Recognizing differences to decrease communication problems

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Channels communication

Upward

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Subordinate to superior ( bastholm to Pickard)

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Channels of communication

Downward

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Superior to subordinate

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Channels of communication Horizontal
Same level | Peer to peer
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Channels of communication Diagonal
Diff job description RN to respiratory
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Channels of communication Grape vine
Informal communication within a group
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Games people play
``` Played go get what we want but they actually don't help Learned patterns of behavior Manipulative and insincere Substitute for honest communication Gain of maintain power To gain recognition or validation and it can be a + or a ~ Lack of trust in others avoid reality Winning makes people feel good ```
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Games See what you made me do Theme/ benefit
Blaming others for ones own problems Theme-What I did is your fault and I am blameless Benefit- freedom of responsibility and instilling guilt
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Games The blemish Theme/ benefit
Finding fault in others As picky as necessary Theme- Constantly pointing the finger at shortcomings, real or imagined Benefit- distracts attention from self
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Game Wooden leg
Acquire a handicap real or imagined Theme. What I do is not my fault Benefit sympathy avoidance of responsibility
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Gamess If it weren't for you Theme/ benefit
Blame others for your non achievements People who feel inadequate will blame others for their inability to achieve Benefit is freedom of guilt I didn't join because no one else would join me
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Games Clever me Theme benefit
Boasting about what you have done Benefit Sympathy attention admiration
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Passive style
Lack of respect for ones own needs Avoid expressing own opinion thoughts or feelings Think others can guess your needs Poor eye contact slumped posture Unable to mature and are depressed and hopeless restless because needs are not being met
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Passive beliefs
Unable to stand up for my rights Everyone steps on me Idk what my rights are I'm week and unable to take care of myself
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Aggressive style
Express their feelings to advocate for their needs in a way that violates others. Verbally and physically abusive Criticize blame and attack interrupt and use you statement. Rigid stuff posture Become alienated from others Blame others
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Aggressive beliefs
``` I'm superior and right and your inferior and wrong I'm loud bossy and pushy I can dominate and intimidate you I'll get what I want Idc It's all your fault ```
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Passive aggressive style
Appear pass but act out anger in a subtle indirect way Incapable of dealing directly Smile but set booty trap Mutter themselves rather than confront the issue Use sarcasm Facial expressions don't match feelings Subtle sabotage to get even Give dishonest feedback true feeling shared thru actions not words Become alienated Powerlessness Real issues never addressed
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Passive aggressive beliefs
Weak and resentful so I sabotage frustrate and disrupt | I'm powerless to deal with you head on
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Assertive style
Clearly state their opinion and feelings Advocate for their rights and needs without violating others State their needs and wants clearly. Appropriately respectfully I statements Listen well no interrupting Feel in control Feel connected to others In control of their lives Can mature address issue as guru arise
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Assertive beliefs
Equally entitle to express ourselves respectfully to one another I speak clear honest to the pont J can't. Control others but I can control myself Responsible for getting my needs met 100% responsible for happiness
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Broken record
Stick to your point
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Fogging
Agree with truth and principle rather than being defensive or counter attacking
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Be assertive
``` Most important word is I What you want or need Don't blame Ask don't demand Make it clear Chance of getting what you want or need improves when you let people know what you want or need ```
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Points to remember
``` Feel good about yourself Make your own decisions Accept resp for your choices Speak clear and calm Know how to defend ```
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