Communication Flashcards
(39 cards)
Contagious: What are the six principles (key STEPPS) that cause things to be talked about, shared, and imitated?
- Social Currency 2. Triggers 3. Emotion 4. Public 5. Practical Value 6. Stories
Made to Stick: What framework can you use make your ideas memorable?
SUCCES(s) Framework - Simple - Unexpected - Concrete - Credible - Emotional - Stories
Influence: What are the six sources (R-CLASS) of influence?
- Reciprocation 2. Commitment and Consistency 3. Liking 4. Authority 5. Scarcity 6. Social Proof
Say It With Presentations: What four things need to be done for every presentation?
- Define the situation 2. Craft the storyline 3. Build a storyboard 4. Check the Audience Bill of Rights
Say It With Presentations: What are the key questions you need to answer to define the situation?
- Why are you giving this presentation? 2. Who will you need to convince? 3. How much time will you have? 4. What is the appropriate medium?
Say It With Presentations: What’s the storyline?
- Introduction (PIP) - Purpose - Why are you giving this presentation? Why are we here? What will success look like at the end of the presentation? - Importance - What makes it so important that we accomplish that purpose today? - Preview - How the presentation structured so we can concentrate on the content and not questioning where we are in the presentation. 2. Structure - Objective - Recommendation - Preview of conclusions - Conclusion A & evidence - Conclusion B & evidence - Conclusion C & evidence 3. Ending - Summary - Spell out the recommendation one more time - Present your action program - Ask for agreement and commitment - Next steps
Crucial Conversations: What defines a crucial conversation?
Stakes are high Opinions vary Emotions run strong
Crucial Conversations: What are the seven steps to mastering crucial conversations?
- Start With Heart - Stay focused on what you really want 2. Learn to Look - Notice when safety is at risk 3. Make It Safe - Make it safe to talk about almost anything 4. Master My Stories - Stay in dialog when you’re angry, scared, or hurt 5. STATE My Path - Speak persuasively, not abrasively 6. Explore Other’s Paths - Listen when other blow up or clam up 7. Move to Action - Turn crucial conversations into action and results
Crucial Conversations: What are the two levers form the basis for recognizing, building and maintaining dialog?
Learn to Look - Improve dialog skills by continually asking whether you are in or out of dialog (falling into silence or violence) Make It Safe - Establish mutual purpose and maintain mutual respect
Crucial Conversations: What do you look for to assess if safety is at risk?
Are people falling into (a) silence or (b) violence
Crucial Conversations: How do you make it safe?
- Apologize when appropriate. 2. Contrast to fix misunderstanding. 3. CRIB to get to mutual purpose - Commit to seek Mutual Purpose - Recognize the purpose behind the strategy - Invent a Mutual Purpose - Brainstorm new strategies
Crucial Conversations: How do you master your stories?
- Retrace my Path to Action - See/Hear - Story - Feel - Act 2. Separate fact from story 3. Watch for the Three Clever Stories (Victim, Villain, Helpless) Tell the rest of the story
Crucial Conversations: How do you STATE your path?
STATE (3 “what skills and 2 “how” skills) - Share your facts - Tell your story - Ask for others’ paths - Talk tentatively - Encourage testing
Crucial Conversations: How do you explore others’ paths?
AMPP (Ask, Mirror, Paraphrase, Prime) ABC (Agree, Build, Compare)
Crucial Conversations: How do you STATE your path?
How will we we make decisions? Who will do what by when? How will we follow-up?
How to Win Friends and Influence People: What are the three fundamental techniques for handling people?
- Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.
- Give honest and sincere appreciation.
- Arouse in the other person an eager want.
How to Win Friends and Influence People: What are the six ways to make people like you?
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Smile.
- Remember that person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- Be a good listener; encourage others to talk about themselves.
- Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
- Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
How to Win Friends and Influence People: What are the twelve ways to win people over to your way of thinking?
- The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
- Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say “You’re Wrong.”
- If you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
- Begin in a friendly way.
- Start with questions to which the other person will answer yes.
- Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
- Let the other person feel the idea is his or hers.
- Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
- Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
- Appeal to the nobler motives.
- Dramatize your ideas.
- Throw down a challenge.
How to Win Friends and Influence People: What are the nine ways to change people without giving offense of arousing resentment?
- Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
- Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
- Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
- Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
- Let the other person save face.
- Praise every improvement.
- Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
- Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
- Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.
To Sell Is Human: What are the ABC’s of sales?
- Attunement - Bringing oneself into harmony with individuals, groups, and contexts
- Buoyancy - Grittness of spirit and sunniness of outlook
- Clarity - Ability to clarify what you’re actually offering
To Sell Is Human: How to you become attuned to the buyer?
- Assume that the buyer is the one with the power
- Focus on understanding the buyer’s thoughts rather than their feelings
- Mimic the buyer’s gestures
To Sell Is Human: What are the three keys to bouyancy?
- Ask yourself questions beforehand (“Can I succeed?”) rather than pumping yourself up (“I am the best”); they encourage your brain to come up with answers, reasons, and intrinsic motivation
- Be mostly positive: it can make the buyer more positive and open to different possibilities (although a little negativity keeps you grounded)
- Be optimistic: believe that rejections are temporary, contained, and due to external factors
To Sell Is Human: What are the five potential frames?
- Less frame — Framing people’s options in a way that restricts their choices can help them see those choices more clearly instead of overwhelming them
- Experience frame — Emphasize the experiences they will gain (not just the material objects)
- Label frame — Pick labels and names carefully as these anchor expectations
- Blemish frame — List a small negative attribute after the positive ones; when individuals encounter weak negative info after already having received positive info, this weak negative info increases the salience of the positive info
- Potential frame — When selling yourself, focus on your potential rather than your past accomplishments
To Sell Is Human: What is Pantalon Technique’s for clarifying another’s motivations?
Ask two questions:
- On a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 meaning “not the last bit ready” and 10 meaning “totally ready,” how ready are you to study?
- Why didn’t you pick a lower number?