Confession

Question 1

In the process of confessing your sins to Sharon, you must first confess your sins to

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God

Question 2

Your confession validates that you (Gary) created and

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perpetuated a mentally and emotionally abusive marital relationship

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Your marital abuse of Sharon is a real and pervasive problem that threatens

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Sharon’s mental and emotional health

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Sharon was brave and justified to escape from

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you

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You confessed that your tried to shift the blame for your own inadequacies, your own shortcomings, and your failures, fears and sin onto Sharon. This is called

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Gaslighting

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When you confessed that you tried to convince Sharon that she was at fault, when you were, you were confessing to a behavior known as

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Gaslighting

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When gaslighting was successful, you confessed that you did not need to change or to grow up. Life was much easier when

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Sharon owned the blame.

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Sharon was wise and justified in leaving me for

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my gaslighting behavior

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Half-truths, quarter-truths, parallel to the truth, but not the truth are all examples of

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Distorting the truth

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You confessed that when distorting the truth, you first easily convinced yourself that the distortion was the truth, then second you

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told Sharon the distortion like it was the Gospel truth.

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Telling Sharon that a distortion was the Gospel truth is

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sinful, and good grounds for separating from me.

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Taking what is true and twisting it to line up with my thinking is a

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Perversion of the truth

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You confessed that Sharon is right to leave, because she could never

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trust you.

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You confessed to making up stories to reinforce your way of thinking. This pathology is called

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Inventing the truth

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By inventing the truth, you confessed that

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Sharon is right to leave me for my sinful childish thinking.

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“Nope, that’s not right, this is” is a classic form of

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Denying the truth

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You confessed that denying the truth

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Is a sinful tactic you used to keep from facing the truth.

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Denying the truth is

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as sinful as lying

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You confessed that denying the truth is as sinful as lying and that

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Sharon is not required to stay together with a liar.

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You confessed that even when confronted by your lies, you persisted in

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believing, repeating and emphasizing the lies as truth.

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About your lying, you confessed that Sharon

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is not required to stay together with a liar

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Presupposing your agreement with my ideas, thoughts and goals

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is disrespectful and sinful

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Vocalizing to others your pre-approval to my thought, idea, or goal before speaking to you is

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disrespectful and sinful

Question 24

Vocalizing to others your pre-approval to my idea without speaking to you, is what type of tactic

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a sinful, manipulative tactic

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The end product of my sinful, manipulative "pre-approval" tactic led to:

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Much strife and emotional turmoil on Sharon.

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You confessed that to guard her own heart, Sharon is

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Certainly right in getting away from my sinful "pre-approval" tactic.

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Only asking for the small thing, then pushing for the big thing is

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manipulative, and sinful

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You confessed that Sharon has no call to live with your

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sinful, manipulative behavior

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You confessed that by being a bully to Sharon, you

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showed yourself not as a true man of God, but as an illusion, and Sharon is correct to separate and leave you.

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Taking Sharon's "no" answer to mean "maybe", and her "maybe" answer to mean "yes" is

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Manipulative and Sinful.

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You confessed that your behavior to wear Sharon down by being adamant and trying to force your will upon her was

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Sinful bullying, and that Sharon is correct to leave you and separate.

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Instead of being a wise and godly man and finding a solution to Sharon's increasing social isolation and the challenges of caring for Hannah,

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You controlled her by allowed her to remain isolated and burdened.

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You confessed that Sharon does not deserve to be treated to your

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controlling behavior, and her judgement to leave you is correct.

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You confessed that you used displays of anger and two-year-old tantrums to prevent Sharon from:

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Voicing her concerns or ask questions, and that Sharon did not deserve to be treated this way and her judgement to leave you is correct.

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You confessed that you did not take the time or effort to fight for Sharon, and that you lacked

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Emotional fortitude

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When you should have listened to Sharon with respect and honor

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You showed disregard for her thoughts

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You confessed that you discounted Sharon's opinions and

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sinfully assigned little value to her sacrificial service

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You confessed that no one should be subject to the disrespect you showed Sharon and

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Sharon is right to leave me in this fashion.

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Your pride blinded you to the greatest worldly treasure that you will ever come close to, and

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her name is Sharon.

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Your pride drove your marriage apart, and

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has damaged all involved with me.

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You confessed that pride has

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caused Sharon to walk out, without blame.

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You confessed that more than just feeling puffed up with pride, you arrogantly put yourself on display as a good and successful man with a good strong marriage. Actually

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This is a lie and Sharon was right to expose you as the fraud you are and to leave you.

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You confessed that you selfishly put yourself first and did not consider Sharon as an equal. And further,

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your selfishness is due cause for Sharon to rightfully walk away and stay away.

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The one safe and appropriate place where Sharon should have been able to show her hurts and fears, her joys and tears was :

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the last place that Sharon felt safe

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You confessed that you walked all over Sharon's feelings and emotions, and

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It is appropriate for Sharon leave a man who treated her feelings and emotions like rubbish.

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Raising your voice at Sharon in an aggressive and threatening manner

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Is the definition of Verbal Abuse

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Verbally abusive behavior is unacceptable, and when directed at your spouse constitutes:

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the very definition of an emotionally abusive marriage.

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Increasing vocal volume and intensity, and the use of imperative verbs spoken as commands are examples of

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verbal abuse

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Your tone of voice and your nonverbal communication at times would escalate in pitch and intensity and

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would seek to intimidate Sharon into agreement

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Large broad gestures with your hands, arms and shoulders and leaning into Sharon's personal space

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are aggressive and menacing, and you confessed that Sharon is so right to leave such abuse.

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You confessed that all your sins against Sharon showed a total disregard of

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Sharon's God given boundaries

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You confessed that your behavior was not worthy of

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Sharon's love and trust.

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You confessed that your tantrums caused Sharon to feel:

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unsafe, so much so that she rightly left.