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The author claims that our worst moral headaches often come from the people closest to us? What do you think? Why? /2

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As an individual, you make up your own personal rules and go along with them with no one noticing.

Friends on the other hand, make expectations of you and if mistaken, you’ll be called out for your actions immediately.

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The author says that one of the reasons we have so much moral confusion around our friendships is because of misunderstood expectations. The author claims that our culture doesn’t have rituals for friendship (like children)? What do you think? /2

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The author is right from a technical perspective but did not consider the nuances.

Some people get along for the sake of business or ulterior motives knowing the other can provide unknown assistance; however, in adulthood some friendships can develop rituals later on such as handshakes, codes of communication, traditions, etc.

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Do your friendships manifest themselves differently depending on the identity of the people involved? If so, does that mean you are fake or insincere? /2

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I believe so but only because of societal expectation when it comes to creating a bond with someone.

Friends expect you to always support them with little hesitance. Therefore, you put a front even if your morals say otherwise.

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The author says mutual affection is only one of the reasons for a friendship. What, according to the author, are some others? /5

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respect

admiration

loyalty

shared interests

shared history

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What is the Schadenfreude test?

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happy feeling you get when you hear another’s misfortunes, sort of like having a superiority complex.

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What are the three caveats that the author gives about the schadenfreude test? /3

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Schadenfreude is part of the human condition. Ask yourself WHAT sustains the relationship

Liking is a sometime thing.

Not liking ANY of your friends suggests a serious gap in your life. Time for some difficult self-reflection

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What is mutuality? /3

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a two-way street

sharing equally between parties

differs friendship from romantic love

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What is reciprocity? /2

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exchanging things with others for mutual benefit such as privileges

this for that/tit for tat

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The author says that the distinction between mutuality and reciprocity is another good indicator about the status of a friendship/ Why? /3

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Reveals the sort of people you consider ‘friends’.

Friends don’t ‘owe’ or ‘reciprocate’.

Friends are mutual, we help them because we care not because we expect something in return

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Three types of pseudo friendships that violate the principle of mutuality /3

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center of the universe friend

deflating friend

presumptuous friend

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What is the center of the universe friend? /5

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violates mutuality of interest

problem driven

expect you to agree that their current catastrophe is THE MOST significant event now occurring in the universe.

excessive amounts of detail

make it clear that you’re tired of listening without being heard, of giving and never getting

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What is the deflating friend? /7

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violates mutuality of enthusiasm

Excitement vanishes

Views life as an eternal critic, as if they are experiencing the lowest of the lows, pessimistic (sometimes)

Rarely attacks head-on

Absent minded and kill your fervor with neglect

Can be extremely helpful ad sympathetic when you have a problem BUT refuse to share your zeal

Leach away your passion and destroy your spirit

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What is the presumptuous friend? /4

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violates mutuality of resources

Never has the slightest shyness about asking you for things

Doesn’t go out of his way to think about your needs

Exploits the friendship for personal reasons

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What are the strengths of old friendships? /2

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shared history; provided you with important tacit information about each other

read each other’s gestures, body language, moods

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What are the weaknesses of old friendships? /4

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different values

different tastes

different aspirations

TLDR: you have so little in common

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Why does the author find it important to have interesting friends?

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It’s the best way to learn about any subject, other than direct personal involvement

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Why does the author find it important to have happy friends? /3

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Happy friends make for a happier life

Helps sustain optimism

Amplifies pleasure by sharing it

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What are Aristotle’s 3 categories of friendship? /3

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friendships based on mutual interests

friendships based on mutual pleasures

friendships based on mutual values

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What is a friendship based on mutual interests? /3

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make up a large part of our lives

commonly as acquaintances

have no long-term security

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What is a friendship based on mutual pleasures? /3

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friends with whom you enjoy hanging out with

most common form of friendship

have no long-term security

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What is a friendship based on mutual values?

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truest of friendships

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Why do we have an obligation to address our friend’s values?

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someone who does not address it can result in the friendship to fall apart as a means of neglecting someone’s well-being and shallow

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How do you address a friend’s values? /2

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address them but as a form of persuasion rather than imposing

appeal to them as a friend, not as a parent or enforcer.

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What makes a best friend according to the author? /2

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Friends who care about what’s best for you

Based on shared values

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The author says that having an enemy can be a good thing, so long as you choose him/her wisely. Why does he say that?
choose them wisely as intense passion can transform into hatred—an obsession that undermines emotional balance and perverts your judgment
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What can an enemy do for you (positive)? /3
An enemy can excite your passions intensely Be a source of inspiration to work harder Become the central motivation to succeed
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What do you think is the significance of the anonymous quote: “People who are sensible about love are incapable of it”? /3
Sensible refers to being practical, almost calculated; however, that does not apply to love. Love is anything but predictable as it depends on individual emotions, circumstances, and experiences. Someone who makes a practice out of it will never truly understand what love is
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What are the dangers to excessive attention to love? /3
love-adultors view love as “the poetry of the senses” and the highest of all humans’ achievements. those who loved and won know that love does conquer all
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What are the dangers of insufficient attention to love? /2(4)
cynicism about romance such as: - Feminists - left-wing political theorists - religion
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How can we differentiate between love and lust? /2
Lust is replaceable love has no substitutions
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What is lust? /3
fungible (replaceable without any change in value) Attracted to a person’s physical features and anyone else with the same attributes would do as well Satisfy your sexual cravings
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What is love? /3
no substitutions withstand an essential change of personality activity of the head—more control over our emotional affections than over our physical desires.
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Is falling in love a choice? /2
a responsible decision determine whether to allow lust to turn into love
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According to the author, what are we dishonest about? /3
our values "how you talk reveals your values" we are too lazy to indulge in them
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How would more honesty help? /3
engage in honest self-appraisal the pay-off of being more honest is more productive conversations avoiding pointless repetitions of discussion
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The 3 types of talk? /3
chicken talk bull talk elephant talk
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What is chicken talk? /3
small talk light and easy facilitates socialization
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What is bull talk?
exchange genuine information and our questions are personal
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What is elephant talk? /3
deepest realm of conversation content is weighty questions are accompanied by the body language of dramatic gestures
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Why is chicken talk important? /3
signals that you recognize the social cues of the community you’re safe to deal with cement civility and community
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Why does the author think that “we have a moral obligation to take language seriously? (67) (denotation vs connotation, framing, euphemism and hyperbole) /2
words have meaning but can be lost when used irresponsibly failure to make distinctions perpetuates a dangerous lack of moral proportion
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What are 2 key ingredients to good listening? /2
asking questions repeating in your OWN words what the other person said a.k.a paraphrasing
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Why is it so hard to listen?
The difficulty of listening comes from the idea that one has superior intellect over the other “notice that while one person speaks, the next person gets ready to lob [throw in] his own comment
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What are the 2 type of people you should never argue with? /2
perpetual arguers squanderers of passion
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Who are perpetual arguers? /4
live to argue cynical does not care which side wins, but loves to win the argument viewed as adolescent and tiresome
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What is the principle of falsifiability? /3
a statement of fact [about the world] is meaningful only in principle can not be disproved NOT a proposition that is true or false by definition or pure deductive logic
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What role should the principle of falsifiability play in arguments?
when someone argues a case, they also have to tell you what it would take for them to admit their wrong—evidence that would weaken his position
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What are the two seemingly good reasons to exclude emotions from the domain of morality? /2
alleged personal matter
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What does alleged mean when excluding emotion from the domain of morality?
morality comes into play only when people interact with each other
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What does personal matter mean when excluding emotions from the domain of morality?
emotions are conceived as things that happen to you, not things over which you control
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Why are the two seemingly good reasons to exclude emotions from the domain of morality WRONG? /2
emotions belong to you ALONE YOUR attitudes, emotions, thoughts, and desires all reveal YOUR ethics, central to YOUR character.
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Our society promotes the morality of 'doing the right thing, but not of feeling the right thing'. Do you think this is true? /2
I believe this claim to be true, as “doing the right thing” refers to what society deems to be right disregarding your personal opinion on the matter.
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How is 'doing the right thing, but not feeling the right thing' compatible with virtue ethics? /3
Virtue ethics refers to how actions equate to character if someone were to do the right things according to society, then they have good character if they refused to according to their personal beliefs and feelings, then they would be seen as the antagonist.
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Between the immediate reflexive response and reflective response, which one does the author think is true? /4
both are true reveal an individual's values Sometimes we manage to control our emotions, sometimes we don’t, but in either case we can still wonder what our true beliefs are. Morality is determined by how well we organize our conflicting feelings and beliefs.
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Why is the sin of envy unique? /4
results in no joy or satisfaction after being acted upon considered resentful and inferior—envy is humiliating highlights what we don’t have reveals our true values to which we wish to stay hidden
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Can envy have a positive effect? /2
reflects our values by showing us what we would do to get what we want, underlined passion. becomes a strong incentive for our own ambitions (like an unspoken rivalry)
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What does it mean: “When you change your values you change your emotions?”
How we perceive and value something is accompanied with how we feel about it. ex. If person A views aftercare as insignificant, then they feel bothered/annoyed when a partner tries to make it a topic of discussion. BUT, if person A values aftercare, they are more inclined to feel passionate and considerate for their partner.
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What are the author's 3 'theoretical underpinnings' of emotions? /3
Emotions are feelings aimed at targets Emotions require beliefs Emotions involve evaluations
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What are the seven questions that the author thinks we need to consider when evaluating our emotions? /7
Is this emotion directed at the proper target? Is this emotion proportional to its target? Has this emotions outlived it’s appropriate life span? Do you need this emotion? Do you need this emotion now? Is this emotion demeaning (degrading)? Are you using this emotion as an excuse?
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What are the 4 key traits of emotional intelligence? /4
self-management self-awareness social awareness relationship management
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What is self-management? /5
control impulsive feelings and behaviors manage your emotions in healthy ways take initiative follow through on commitments adapt to changing circumstances
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What is self-awareness? /4
recognize your own emotions how they affect your thoughts and behavior know your strengths and weaknesses have self-confidence
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What is social awareness? /5
have empathy understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people pick up on emotional cues feel comfortable socially recognize the power dynamics in a group/organization.
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What is relationship management? /5
know how to develop and maintain good relationships communicate clearly inspire and influence others, work well in a team manage conflict
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The author claims that ours is a “culture of narcissism”, but that this does not extend to our moral lives. Why? /2
Narcissism refers to focusing on yourself, but morally that is impossible. Societal expectations and virtue ethics has you place the importance of THEIR views on you over your own. “obsessively scrutinizes [her] personality, searching for defects agonizing over each imperfection […] monitors [her] life with indefatigable devotion” (104)
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What is the story of Iphigenia? /2
A woman from 200 B.C Athens who believes she is the best of the best (beauty, talent, sexuality) but no one agrees or notices her. Has unusual moral beliefs compared to the normalcy of Athens’ people at the time (abolish slavery, giving women the right to own property and vote).
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What does Iphigenia's story say about moral views? /2
validity of moral views do not depend on the support of others values belong to the individual themselves and no one else.
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What is a moral non-conformist?
pays little attention to the popularity or unpopularity of their moral positions.
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Is it bad to be a moral non-conformist? /3
no keep to themselves most of the time indifferent to how others perceive them
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What is moral consistency?
keeping the same belief for a long-period of time without considering other options
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What is moral wisdom? /2
the mental capacity of integrating intelligence with morality can result in a change in beliefs
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Which is better moral consistency or moral wisdom? /4
strive for an equal balance of both sticking to one is considered bad as an extremity if something has changed, your belief has to as well, but don’t change it too often (like the weather)
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What does it mean: "guilt only occurs when we violate our own standards, not those of other people"? /3
shows our lack of self-control as humans No other species has the advanced intellect to reflect on their own actions when we set a code for ourselves and break it, it reveals a lot about our character “what a weak-willed…” (113)
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When is guilt appropriate? /2
appropriate only for behaviour whose wrongfulness you UNDERSTAND, which is ultimately your own, strangers—we don’t know them intimately, their experiences, beliefs, values, etc.
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Why is guilt vital to a 'full moral life'? /2
guilt results into a confession—self or other brings our behaviour right up against our true values, the ones we SHOULD have.
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The author says that “to forgive yourself too easily is to destroy your self-esteem”. Why? /2
We need to suffer humiliation of guilt before we are ready to forgive ourselves. Can not be forgiven hastily
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What is moral pride? /2
positive sign of self-respect
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What is moral vanity? /2
about ranking caring solely about being better than everyone else NOT the achievement
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How is moral pride different from moral vanity? /2
Moral pride requires humility—low view of one’s own importance something vanity can not risk.
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Cite two reasons why many of us are reluctant to judge other people. /2
religious tradition such as an omniscient supreme being is the only position to judge from hypocrisy: “you are judged by others […] Judge others so that you may be judged” (126)
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Why is religious traditions an invalid reason for judging others? /2
illogical as moral judgements are unavoidable if you live among other human beings not everyone believes in an omniscient being or follows a religion in general
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What is the author implying in the phrase: 'people have a right to be punished'? /3
people must be treated as adults with responsibility not downplayed like children or poorly trained house pets refusing to judge someone equates to not taking them seriously
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What is a justification? /2
claiming that in that prevailing circumstance, your choice of behaviour was correct you will not apologize for it
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What is an excuse? /3
feeling apologetic about your actions offer an excuse to soften the blame not sincere
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What are the 3 common evasions? /3
deep-downing "as long as it makes her happy" "he may be smart, but he's morally stupid"
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What is deep-downing? /5
easy terribly selective softens people's perception of someone's indecent actions ex. "gets carried away but DEEP DOWN (truthfully) they mean well" some people don't mean well no matter how far you interpret their actions
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What is "as long as it makes her happy"? /3
displays a charitable attitude and well-meaning CONDESCENDING, patronizes her not a reason to compromise her beliefs and standards of truth
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What is "he may be smart, but he's morally stupid"? /2
Moral thinking requires talent and determination Morally stupid = morally lazy, temptation, and prejudiced
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What is a psychological egoist? /4
Don’t be naïve Selfish pursuits justified through bravado (boldness) Equates doing something because you want to do it with selfishness Ask: “what a non-selfish act looks like?”
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What is a self-hater?
How we treat others reflects (to some extent) the way we think of ourselves
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Why do the psychological egoist and the self-hater serve as warnings about the shortcomings of 'people tailor their morals to fit their lives and not the other way around'?
invent a moral philosophy to support your desires and prejudices
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Can people be read like a book? /2
NO People regularly misread others [on the basis of their looks]
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What are the methods of judging others? /2
meeting the family emphatic extrapolation
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What is the method of 'meeting the family'? /2
no matter what, we remain our parents’ child dynamics of parent-child relationships continue deep into adulthood
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What are the 2 subcategories of emphatic extrapolation? /2
emotions and moods philosophical convictions
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What are emphatic extrapolation: emotions and moods? /2
outlook fluctuates in response to what is happening in life rarely tray too far from our personality norm ex. Boredom vs. enthusiasm
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What are emphatic extrapolation: philosophical convictions? /4
determine a person’s moral life think differently about social institutions, human nature, death, relationships (friends, family, marriage) imagination is crucial to empathy and therefore, morality achieve a deeper appreciation of the way other people view their lives
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Does empathy play a large role in society? /2
YES "Everyone is having a hard time" (143)
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Why is forgiveness important?
displays a level of understanding but can not be excused for every conflict.
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What does it mean: "happiness is having what you need, not what you want"? /2
True happiness is the satisfaction of genuine and distinct needs. It depends on individual experience
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The US declaration of independence guarantees all citizens the right to the pursuit of happiness and not the attainment of happiness. Why does the author think that this distinction is significant?
much of our happiness is in the pursuit itself
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What is an instrumental good? /3
valuable results in an intrinsic good, such as material comforts. the payoff is worthy even if it costs us
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What is an intrinsic good?
something that has value in itself; your happiness
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Why is instrumental goods and intrinsic goods mixed up? /2
too much effort and energy in instrumental goods too little time enjoying the intrinsic goods they’re supposed to serve.
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What does the author think of whether or not there is such a thing as universal values? /2
we all share the same basic aspirations and values BUT we differ in the expression of those values.
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What are the three things the author suggests we consider as we try to figure out “the essential values we share with humanity”? /3
beware the seduction of mass culture study moral philosophy make your values part of something bigger
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What is significant of "beware the seduction of mass culture"?
the entertainment industry defines for most people what counts as “the good life”
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What is the significance of "study moral philosophy"? /2
do not disregard the work associated in the conclusion of philosophical issues opponents will be substantial and provocative
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What is the significance of "make your values part of something bigger"? /3
remember that you are part of a community (family, friends, country, planet) the scope and meaning of your life expand YOU decide
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Why does the author think that being confused is a virtue? /3
you are: - rational - morally sensitive - honest intellectually and spiritually
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What, according to the author, does it mean to be a leader? /8
Assume the qualities AND RISKS of leadership. Accept responsibility for their actions Take chances where the risks are greatest Accept mistakes as a process of learning Have realistic goals and strategies to achieve them Practice what they preach Work out their views in the real world of action—theory and practice Learn to live with confusion and doubt

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