exam 3

Question 1

can you spoil your child with love

Answer 1

no

Question 2

what is the strongest and most consistent predictor of childrens mental health, adjustment, happiness, and well-being

Answer 2

the level of involvement

Question 3

parents should be involved in their children’s lives but not

Answer 3

intrusive

Question 4

what can help alleviate some of the stressors on single mothers ?

Answer 4

social supports like material items such as diapers, food, and babysitting

internal support such as a friend to talk to about children

Question 5

what is a traditional family

Answer 5

a two parent family with a mom and dad who are usually in their 30s or 40s raising their biological children

Question 6

what is the next biggest family structure group?

Answer 6

single parents

Question 7

what percentage of families currently are traditional

Answer 7

59%

Question 8

what percentage of mothers work outside the home

Answer 8

65%

Question 9

what percentage of these mothers are the primary breadwinners for the the family

Answer 9

40%

Question 10

of single parents which is more common- single mothers or fathers ?

Answer 10

mothers

Question 11

why a mother is singe greatly influences what?

Answer 11

1. the quality of parenting

2. how the children are influenced

Question 12

what are the 3 main reasons that a parent might be single

Answer 12

1. the parent never married
2. the parent has been separated or divorced
3. the spouse died

Question 13

what are the 4 main stressors of single mothers

Answer 13

1. financial problems
2. troubled relationships
3. demands of parenting
4. lack of time for rest or other self care tasks

Question 14

compare typical single fathers to married fathers

Answer 14

single fathers are usually younger, less educated, less affluent

Question 15

why is a father most likely to be single ?

Answer 15

divorce

Question 16

list 5 description descriptors of teen mothers

Answer 16

often competent caregivers

warm and responsive

can discipline reasonably

less likely to talk to and cognitively stimulate their infants

experience pregnancy and parenthood as a crisis (unintended)

Question 17

list the 5 types of adoptions

Answer 17

domestic 
international 
foster care or special needs 
transracial
kinship

Question 18

how can gay and lesbian parents become parents

Answer 18

• already has a child from a previous heterosexual relationship
• ART
• Adoption

Question 19

major difference between adoptive and biological parents

Answer 19

♣ Adoptive parents have to be certified as fit parents whereas biological parents do not

Question 20

two types of parents

Answer 20

emotion dismissing

emotion coaching

Question 21

predictors of life longevity

Answer 21

not genetics; the quality of your closest relationships

Question 22

cons of labeling kids

Answer 22

labels become a self fulfilling prophecy, kids believe almost anything parents tell them

Question 23

5 steps of emotion coaching

Answer 23

♣ Become aware of the child’s emotion
♣ Recognize the emotion as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching
♣ Listen empathetic, validating the child’s feelings
♣ Help the child find words to label the emotion he is having
♣ Set limits while exploring strategies to solve the problem at hand

Question 24

what is mindful parenting

Answer 24

parenting that is intentional, where the consequences of your actions toward your child are the ones you’ve actually intended rather than those that just happened by chance

Question 25

good parenting is parenting that fosters

Answer 25

♣ Psychological adjustment ♣ helps children succeed in school ♣ deters children from antisocial behavior ♣ helps protect children

Question 26

fundamentals of parenting are the same regardless of what

Answer 26

♣ Gender of child ♣ age of child ♣ sibling status of child ♣ gender of primary parent

Question 27

o Children will always follow the rule, do as I say not as I do…right? Which part of Principle 1 would either support or contradict this statement?

Answer 27

♣ As a parent you are always “on stage”. Children look to parents as a guidance in a wide variety of situations. Children are inclined to mimic their parents behavior.

Question 28

can you spoil your children with love

Answer 28

no

Question 29

o What we often think of as the product of “spoiling a child” is NEVER the result of showing a child TOO MUCH LOVE. It is usually the result of things like:

Answer 29

♣ Leniency (children need limits) ♣ Lowered expectations (do this as a way to try to be nice) ♣ Material possessions (toys or food or gifts used to substitute for genuine affection or attention)

Question 30

o The STRONGEST and MOST CONSISTENT predictor of children’s mental health, adjustment, happiness, and well-being is…

Answer 30

the level of involvement

Question 31

o Of all the ways parents can be involved in their children’s lives, probably the most important is

Answer 31

their schooling

Question 32

o Parents should be involved in their children’s lives, not…

Answer 32

intrusive

Question 33

o Good parenting is _________ and needs to be tailored to fit with children’s stage of development.

Answer 33

flexible

Question 34

o The 4 major spurts TEND to (not always) happen during 4 big transition periods, usually around:

Answer 34

``` ♣ 2 or 3 ♣ 6 ♣ 12 ♣ 16 These are physical and physiological growth spurts. ```

Question 35

o The most important thing that children need from their parents is….LOVE! A close 2nd is …

Answer 35

structure

Question 36

o What is THE most important deterrent that parents have against their children getting into trouble?

Answer 36

♣ is knowing their children’s activities, companions, and whereabouts.

Question 37

o When should monitoring occur related to a child’s plans away from home?

Answer 37

Before- what children’s plans are before they head out During- having an understanding about how you all will handle times when there is change of plans or when a situation did not develop as you thought it would. After - know what actually happened when children were away from home

Question 38

millennial are going to college and entering the workforce more or less prepared than ever?

Answer 38

less prepared

Question 39

why are millennial burned out as freshmen and sophomores in college?

Answer 39

It is possible because, as a culture, we have focused so much on children’s success (by our definition of success) that we have quit focusing on the children themselves.

Question 40

what is something levine really focuses on in the book?

Answer 40

to not just be happy but have well being

Question 41

what does our definition success usually involve

Answer 41

academics

Question 42

what is part one of the levine book primarily about ?

Answer 42

exploring how we currently define success and the pros and cons of that definition

Question 43

what is part 2 of the levine book primarily about?

Answer 43

the 3 distinct periods of childhood: elementary school, middle school, and high school

Question 44

what is a task of early childhood that weaves together many of the important points from levine's book?

Answer 44

remembering to play

Question 45

many children are not give enough opportunities to __________ in age appropriate ways. this leads to a sense of overconfidence in abilities instead of being able to recognize areas that may need improvement

Answer 45

fail

Question 46

bouncing back from failure ; not inborn, must be learned

Answer 46

resilience

Question 47

what current practices tend to focus on

Answer 47

our children being smart | would you rather your child be SMART or GOOD

Question 48

if one had to label the parenting style levine describes throughout this book it would be true ________

Answer 48

authoritative parenting style high expectations, and high levels of warmth, acceptance, and involvement

Question 49

in Dr Rutledge's review she states that Levine's book is a useful practical resource but it is also a __________

Answer 49

battle cry for us to wake up and recognize the DISSERVICE that our society is doing to children

Question 50

what can we do about the situation of sending children into the future ill-prepared and burned out?

Answer 50

reframe our expectations redefine success rethink the way we parent

Question 51

parent that disengages, ridicules, or curbs all negative emotions, feels uncertainty and fears feeling out of control, uses distraction, feels that emotions are unhealthy, uses the passage of time as a replacement fro problem solving is a ___________

Answer 51

emotion-dismissing parent

Question 52

o Pros and cons of parents apologizing to their children

Answer 52

Pros: showing your kids that you as a parent are not perfect either; reassuring them that it is okay to not be perfect; not setting unrealistic expectations Cons: having them take advantage of the situation in proving you wrong

Question 53

in the key steps of emotion coaching, step 5. set limits while exploring strategies to problem solve, list the 5 steps

Answer 53

1. set limits 2. identify goals 3. think of possible solutions 4. evaluate your solutions based on family values 5. help child choose a solution

Question 54

to become aware of your child's emotion, you must

Answer 54

be aware of and comfortable with your own emotions

Question 55

recognizing emotions as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching for children shows them

Answer 55

that you are their ally and they don't have to face their problems alone

Question 56

what are some ways to listen empathetically and validate the child's feelings

Answer 56

- with ears for information - with eyes for physical evidence - with imagination to see from their perspective - with words to reflect and help label emotions - simple observations

Question 57

helping the child to find words to label their emotions goes hand in hand with _______; it is NOT telling kids how they _______ to feel

Answer 57

empathy ; OUGHT