final Flashcards
(56 cards)
3 Types of Opening Lines
- Innocuous ,ex. Can you pass me that drink.
- Flippant ,could be too sweet or too offensive.
- Direct Approach ,“Hello, want to meet up tonight?”.
an individuals discomfort and or inhibition in interpersonal situations that interferes with pursuing and interpersonal professional goal
shyness
part of your personality
disposition
Specific environmental circumstances that develop feelings, physical reactions, and thoughts that create a state of anxiety, discomfort, and inhibition.
Situational Shyness
6 dimensions associated with the strength of ones want to commitment
perceiving a rewarding future, identifying with the relationship, perceiving fewer attractive alternates, willingness to exert effort for the relationship, investing more in the relationship, accepting responsibility for your commitment
7 ways to effectively communicate commitment
- repeat commitment over diff. ways
- unqualified absolute statement ,i’ll love you forever.
- talk about future relationship awards,
- make public statements about commitment to relationship
- make statements of commitment more permanent
- things that show effort
- initiate at least as much as you respond
unique speech patterns that distinguis the relationship ,pet names, inside jokes.
Personal Idioms
2 Functions of personal idioms
- serves to make the pair a more concise unit, 2. help couples to define relationship norms
8 Categories of Idioms
- expressions of affection ,squeezing hand.
- teasing insults
- partner nicknames
- names for others outside the relationship
- requests and routines
- confront actions
- sexual invitations
- sexual references and euphemisms, nicknames for sexual things.
3 Patterns of successful comforting
- talk about feelings
- talking about value of person being helped
- signals that underscore the authenticity of the helpers response
Lee’s Theory of Love - main points
1 - Love can mainfest itself in different ways 2- Different people have different styles of loving
Love of beauty - Lee
passionate and intense
Playful Love - Lee
Love to play the game.
Love is not a top priority;
Want to maintain control and independence; Seek variety & good times
Companionate love - Lee
Patient, Stable, Predictable; based on friendship and having someone to spend time with
Obsessive Love - Lee
Passion & desire. very needy and dramatic; love is like an addiction
Realistic Love - Lee
Combines Control & manipulation of playful love with companionate love; guided by practicality and logical thinking more than feelings. Think online dating sites like eharmony that match you based on combatibility/ shared goals and values
Altruistic Love - Lee
General compassion for others; Unselfish, generous, kind; place others’ needs above your own
Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love - 3 traits
Commitment, passion, intimacy
Consummate love - STT
intimacy, commitment, passion
Companionate love- STT
intimacy and commitment
Fatuous Love -STT
commitment and passion
Romantic Love - STT
intimacy and passion
Empty love - STT
commitment
Infatuation love - STT
passion