Final Flashcards
(94 cards)
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disappointments (2)
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- momentary feeling of regret with regard to expectations, especially involving people
- thoughts of sadness, mild hurts, and/or emotional pain
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cure for disappointments
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refocusing on God and his plan for your life
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disappointments unchecked can lead to…
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discouragement
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discouragement (2)
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- temporary times of feeling hopeless or disheartened
2. being deprived of confidence in another, in something, or even one’s self
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cure for discouragement
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strengthening your faith
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bitterness (3)
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- angry and resentful state of mind directed toward God or man
- anger and hostile outlook on life expressed in resentment
- sinful response to the emotion of anger
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causes of bitterness (3)
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- result of incorrectly handling anger
- result of responding to a different circumstance of life without a biblical perspective
- result of resisting God’s design, power, and grace
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consequences of bitterness (4)
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- physical bodies
- emotional
- mental
- spiritual
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physical bodies of bitterness (2)
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bones and facial features
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emotional consequences of bitterness (2)
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- weakens our souls
2. defiles our souls (Jonah)
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mental consequences of bitterness (4)
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- Cain
- Esau
- Herod; John the Baptist
- Joseph’s Brothers
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spiritual consequences of bitterness (3)
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- inability to love God
- doubts regarding relationship with God
- can lead to additional sinful behavior
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cure for bitterness (3)
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- confess sin
- ask God to gain the surrendered ground of our soul
- show mercy by forgiving our offender
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anger is a ___-____ emotion
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God-given emotion
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definition of anger
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normal involuntary reaction to displeasing situations or events
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how must anger be controlled
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by the Holy Spirit
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when is anger uncontrolled
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when the flesh or the soul seeks to manage this emotion
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God’s anger is always…(4)
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- justified
- directed at sin
- balanced
- show in coming
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when is anger righteous (2)
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- directed by sin
2. controlled by the Holy Spirit
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God’s anger is…(7)
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- controlled, with purpose
- not selfish
- expression of concern
- corrects/curtails behavior
- not to break up relationships
- at injustices
- directed toward disobedience
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Man’s anger is…(7)
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- uncontrolled, w/o patience
- selfish
- expression of indignation
- destroys the individual
- usually breaks and/or hinders relationships
- at violations at self
- directed at those that cross me
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when is anger a sin (3)
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- when emotion of man has greater influence than the Holy Spirit
- when the response of anger is an ungodly reaction
- when one controlled by anger gives praise to the devil
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anger can come…(6)
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- when we are not dealt with fairly
- when we see others treated improperly
- when we know the sins of others
- from the fear of losing our standing with others
- when we feel under pressure, inconvenienced, or interrupted
- from others when we expose sin
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what does anger do to a person (8)
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- seeks revenge
- bears grudges
- accuses falsely
- can make us smolder
- destroys like a flood
- brings sinful actions
- destroys friendships
- produces bitterness
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what action must I take when feeling anger (4)
1. handle skillfully
2. emotion is to be slow in coming
3. deal with it as you must with all emotions
4. identify the source
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rules for processing anger responsibly. Agree... (6)
1. that anger is valid
2. to allow the other to be angry
3. that verbal/physical attacks are never appropriate
4. to seek an explanation before passing judgement
5. to seek a resolution
6. to affirm your love for each other
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depression (3)
1. long-term condition
2. hopelessness, sadness, unhappiness
3. consequence of not strengthening faith
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cause of depression - body
physical; fatigue, chemical imbalances
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cause of depression - soul
psychological; mind, wrong-thinking
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cause of depression - spirit
avenue for temptation
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characteristics of depression (DEPRESS)
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Disillusionment
Energy loss
Pleasures are lost
Resigned hopelessness
Exclusion
Sleep patterns change
Sense of Abandonment
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disillusionment
disillusioned with circumstances
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energy loss (physical)
lethargic, less motivation, lack of sleep or diet
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pleasures are lost
not happy with pleasures from yesterday
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resigned hopelessness
nothing is going to change
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exclusion (isolation)
often push away those that want to help
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sleep patterns change
insomnia or oversleeping
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sense of abandonment
just a feeling
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overcoming depression - physical body (3)
1. take care of your temple
2. does involve rest, diet, exercise
3. enjoy life
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overcoming depression - soul (3)
1. establish your thoughts (directional and intentional thinking)
2. face depression as a problem
3. invest in Godly influences
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overcoming depression - spirit
1. being alone with God
2. confess and deal with the sin of depression
3. rejoice in your new life in Christ
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how to help someone who is depressed (6)
1. stay in their world
2. be careful not to condemn them
3. encourage with hope
4. engage in activity
5. do not become an irritant
6. get them into God's Word and pray with them
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forgiveness is... (2)
1. at the heart of Jesus Christ
| 2. is part of walking with Christ
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forgiveness is a channel for (4)
1. personal happiness
2. joy
3. contentment
4. peace
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biblical forgiveness (3)
1. a promise which one person declares that they will not bring up in others offense or hold it against them
2. to untie, release
3. is a costly event and process to forgive
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two levels of forgiveness
1. God word
| 2. Man word
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why do i need to forgive (4)
1. example of Christ
2. command to forgive
3. because of God's forgiveness
4. is the only way to have a free conscience and to serve and love God
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who is responsible to forgive
the one who has been offended by another
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what if some will not forgive me (4)
1. allow Gods forgiveness to be adequate
2. trust him to intervene
3. acknowledge what we've done to another and talk to someone
4. realize that forgiveness takes time
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Five steps to forgiveness
1. realize forgiveness cannot be done without God's help
2. acknowledge our hurt and pain to God
3. rely upon God
4. cancel debt
5. seek to render good for evil
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biblical steps in how to offer forgiveness (3)
1. acknowledge the wrong
2. accept the responsibility
3. seek reconciliation
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how do I know if I have forgiven my offender (3)
1. do not tell others about the offense
2. do not dwell on it
3. do not keep reminding yourself of the offense
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why do we not forgive? (3)
1. we want to make the person suffer
2. want to make sure there is the fruit of repentance
3. choose to render evil for evil
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ordained authority includes...(3)
1. government officials
2. church
3. family
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two relationships of authority
1. ordained
| 2. delegated
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why submit to authority (3)
1. they are ordained of God
2. ministries of God
3. for our conscience sake
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purpose of an appeal (3)
1. when asked to do something
2. authority is doing or about to do something wrong
3. disagree with an authority
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prerequisite of an appeal (5)
1. right standing before authority
2. timing
3. right response
4. right attitude
5. right wording
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procedure of an appeal (5)
1. ask to have your appeal considered
2. reveal the situation
3. recommend a solution
4. wait for the decision
5. accept the decision
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types of relationships (4)
1. convenience
2. of mutual activities
3. third party
4. milestone
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developing friendships that last. Purpose...(6)
1. that those that love Christ should love you
2. verbally identify with Christ when asked to compromise or violate convictions
3. to let God choose your friends
4. to learn to identify positive qualities
5. that our relationships with others in order to have a right relationship with them
6. to have healthy relationship
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how to have a healthy relationship (4)
1. respond positively to challenges
2. clear communication
3. honor commitments
4. learn to express love appropriately
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friendships that need caution
1. non-believers
2. not walking with God
3. dishonest
4. always tries to outdo you
5. act like a parent or who need a parent
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five levels of leadership
1. positional
2. permission
3. production
4. people development
5. personal
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leadership (defined)
someone who has followers
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natural qualities of leadership (8)
1. self-confident
2. knows man
3. make decisions
4. ambitious
5. originates methods
6. command others
7. motivated by personal considerations
8. independent
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spiritual qualities of leadership (8)
1. confident in God
2. knows God
3. seeks God
4. self effacing
5. God's methods
6. obeys God
7. motivated by love for God
8. dependent
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leadership skills can be cultivated and developed (4)
1. using one's spiritual gift
2. as we seek to obey Christ's commands
3. leadership
4. training
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positional leadership (5)
1. lead because of a title
2. appt. to position gives authority
3. leadership is really "control"
4. leadership is limited to stated position
5. usually produces low morale and has little influence to lead unless leader continues to climb the levels of leadership
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permission leadership (4)
1. trust and respect are the basis
2. inter-relational skills are essential
3. solid, lasting relationships sustain effective leadership opportunities
4. if overlooked, a leader will always be training new leadership
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production leadership (4)
1. produces increase from followers
2. leadership is by 'team-work' yet followers understand their root position
3. followers are productive
4. avoid the danger of measuring success by what is produced
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people development leadership (4)
1. has the ability to empower followers
2. leaders are developing others who will do the work of leading
3. followers who have been personally developed will respond with loyalty
4. growth must be in all areas as the leader
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personal leadership (3)
1. draws followers because of personal character of the leader
2. leaders are admired and emulated as what others desire to become
3. very difficult to obtain
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responsibility in positional (3)
1. accept responsibility
2. be a team player
3. excellence
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responsibility in permission (3)
1. genuine love for people
2. include others
3. work to make others successful
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responsibility in production (3)
1. initiate personal responsibility
2. communicate what is expected
3. clear goals
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responsibility in personal development (4)
1. realize people are our greatest asset
2. develop people as a high priority
3. give key roles to key people
4. be a model so others can follow
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successful development of others (4)
1. value people for who they are
2. commitment to people
3. integrity
4. desire for others to grow to their potential
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two keys for people development
1. encouragement
| 2. correction
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how to encourage (3)
1. affirmation
2. recognition
3. personal interest
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goal of correction
personal growth
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reason for correction
we all make mistakes
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method of correction
1. confronting
2. education
3. reprimand
4. punishment
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how to confront (3)
1. resisting assessing blame
2. have all the facts
3. assume innocence
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how to educate (3)
1. communicate clearly your expectations
2. deal only with what the person can change
3. strive for personal eval
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how to reprimand (4)
1. clear
2. consistent
3. considerate
4. compassionate
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goal of punishment
restoration
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two parts in communication
sending and listening
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how to send the message (2)
1. control your tongue
| 2. speak to build others up
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controlling your tongue (4)
1. reckless words
2. grumbling/complaining
3. falsehoods
4. gossip
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speak to build others up (10)
1. choose the right time/place
2. believe the best about the other
3. talk in person whenever possible
4. plan your words
5. use the 'I' word rather than 'you'
6. be objective
7. use the Bible carefully
8. ask for feedback
9. offer solutions/preferences
10. recognize your limits
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listening involves... (4)
1. sensing
2. attending
3. understanding
4. remembering
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SOLER of listening
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Squarely
Open
Lean
Eyes
Relax
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improving listening skills (10)
1. find areas of interest
2. judge content
3. hold your fire
4. listen for ideas
5. be flexible
6. work at listening
7. resist distractions
8. exercise your mind
9. keep your mind open
10. capitalize on thought speed
