Final Exam Flashcards

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What are the 9 factors of improving communication skills?

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  1. Taking Time 2. Motivation and Concern 3. Empathy 4. Content. 5. Self-Disclosure 6. Clarity 7. Listening 8. Feedback 9. Arguing Constructively
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What does taking time mean in communication?

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  • Being present in the relationship. Taking the time to invest and minimize distractions
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What does Motivation and Concern mean in communication?

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What is the one of communication (not necessarily what we say) it’s feeling based.

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What is empathy in communication?

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Not just being heard but felt. Being validated.

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What is Content in communication?

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No complaining, communicating your displeasure positively

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What is self-disclosure in communication?

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Sharing how we feel, being honest. Revealing yourself.

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What is clarity in communication?

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ASK! rather than misunderstanding say what you need to say or mean to say.

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What is listening in communication?

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Listening to what they have to say- letting someone tell their story.

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What is feedback in communication?

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actively listening (paraphrasing)

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What is arguing constructively in communication?

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Agree to disagree, we don’t always get what we had in mind,

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What is the most important factor in communication?

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Listening

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What was William Ury’s video THE POWER OF LISTENING about?

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Starting a listening revolution. There are three important reasons to listen (1: helps us understand the other side. 2: Helps us build rapport (connect) 3: Makes it more likely that the other person will listen to us)

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What book did Dr. Gabor Mate write?

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Hold on to your kids

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What was Gabor Mates video Hold On to Your Kids about?

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Peers replacing parents, parents need to be the authority. Conservative view: return to the natural parent-child relationship.

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What book did Max Van Manen write?

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The Tone of Teaching.

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What was Max Van Manen’s The tone of teaching about?

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  • Phenomenology we should connect with a child by really seeing the child (creates a relational space) through this a natural parental authority emerges
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What was “what makes a good life?” by Robert Woldinger about?

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A Harvard study of men and how good relationships keep us happier and healthier. It’s not the number of relationships but the quality of relationships.

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In parenting what is socialization?

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The process of learning one’s culture and acquiring personality and personal values throughout the lifespan

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In parenting what is the reciprocal influence?

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We shape our surroundings- we don’t realize we have this.

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what does it mean when it says related but different?

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See the world different; different goals

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What influence do peers have in parenting and adolescents?

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Your peer group is your major influence (social development).

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What are the 3 ways for positive influence in parents and adolescents?

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1- Spend time and talk with them. 2- Set high standards; have high expectations 3- Send Clear messages.

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What are the Four points under leaving the nest?

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Launching, women, difficulties, leaving and mourning.

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What does launching have to do with leaving the nest?

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Moving out on your own. People usually launch around 18 years old.

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What has changed about women launching (leaving the nest)
In the past women launched to marry- now they leave more for independence
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What difficulties are in leaving the nest?
Adjusting (some define stress as adjusting to new reality) Identity (figuring out who we are and where we fit in the world). Issues of loneliness and emotional issues.
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What does leaving and mourning have to with leaving the nest?
It's a loss. The 'you' who was has passed. We are called to mourn.
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What was 18 to life about?
Young couple gets engaged during truth and dare- but then ends up actually getting married despite lack of support from parents.
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What is a major characteristic of communication in sexual relationships?
Sex is a form of communication can be a spiritual union. We can also communicate about sex.
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What are the Misinterpretations about communication and sex?
Inaccurate judgements of a woman's sexual interest are more common among men who consider themselves macho and who perceive sex as an exploitative contest and who like to dominate women.
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What is the circle of fulfillment in communication and sex
being honest about what you want will lead to satisfaction of the sexual relationship which builds intimacy which fuels greater satisfaction overall.
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What do the other rooms in the house have to do with communication and sex>
what happens in the bedroom is not isolated from other rooms. We need to express love in other rooms as well and that leads to a healthier sex life.
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What do positive messages have to do with physical attractiveness?
you express positive messages which makes you more attractive.
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What was the video Finding the G spot about?
Questioning whether the G spot was a real thing.
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What are the factors contributing to a fulfilling sexual relationship?
Intimacy, Commitment, psychological comfort, good communication, knowledge of the sexual response cycle, emphasis on the enjoyment rather than performance, good mental and physical health.
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What is the most important factor contributing to a fulfilling sexual relationship?
Commitment.
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According to the textbook what is culture based on?
Performance- Not just behavioral/physical
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What was the Peterson/Heinz wedding used to show?
Traditional wedding culture. Going down the aisle.
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We talked about studying wedding culture as....
Cultural- as what these artifacts mean
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What is the function of the wedding ceremony?
To ease transitions
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What is the purpose of a wedding ceremony?
It is seen as marking a rite of passage
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What is the "Romeo and Juliet" effect?
fuelling the fire
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What is the function of witnesses at the wedding?
to supervise the pledge
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What is the ring in a wedding for?
seal for authenticity
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What does 'Bride as property' mean?
What is the bridge bringing to the marriage? What is her value?
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What effect have multiculturalism and pluralism had on weddings?
People are changing up the ceremony and traditions are being affected.
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What are possible reasons for parental disapproval?
- Not liking partner Problem (parents feel the person has a problem), Different (faith, religion, politics, race), Age (significant age difference), Married before (the greatest predictor of the future is the past., Hurry (moving too fast)
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What was Monica and David about?
Two individuals with down syndrome getting married and their first year together. Demonstrated the struggle for the couple and their families.
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What are the sources of conflict?
Personal, Physical, Interpersonal, Situational/Environmental
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What is personal conflict?
Something within us that keeps coming up
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What is physical conflict?
Fatigue, physical discomfort, illness (makes us uncomfortable)
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What is interpersonal conflict?
function of being close, struggles for power, not always great storms but built up small things
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What is situational or environmental conflict?
Marked by poverty, not necessarily something in the relationship, caring for someone with chronic illness, stressful events.
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What are the methods of dealing with conflict?
Avoidance, Ventilation and Catharsis, Destructive arguments, Constructive arguments
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What is avoidance?
"if i bring it up it may make things worse" people do this through joking and not directly dealing with problems
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What is ventilation and catharsis
Release the steam rather than letting it build up, can be healthy (feel relieved) or dangerous
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What are destructive arguments?
Go easy on the person hard on the problem is the opposite. Destructive is about winning but everyone loses
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What are constructive arguments?
Looking at the problem together and generating a solution (not competitive but cooperative)
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What was the video 'Children of alcohol' about?
Parents drinking and how it affected the children. The kids were sent to a camp to offer support. Resilience
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What are the effects of abuse?
Psychological effects or issues (feelings of betrayl), stigma surrounding males who have experienced abuse, feeling powerless
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What is resilience?
Ability to cope and/or recover from trauma?
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What is adaptive functioning?
Ability to adapt
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What are the 3 predictors of resilience?
1- Person blames the perpetrator not themselves 2- face the past- but don't dwell on it 3- people can't do it alone; access supports (family, social, intimate)
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What was City of Gold about?
Family traditions, panning for gold in Dawson and how they created their family.
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How do you believe Canadian families will look a generation from now, in 2038. Draw from all of the learnings to inform your predictor.
All of it.
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Who wrote the Post Modern Condition?
JF Lyotard
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Who wrote 'Origin of the family, private property and the state?
Fredrich Engles
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who wrote World Revolution and family patterns?
William Goode
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Who wrote The Division of Labor in Society?
Emile Durkheim
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Who wrote the Protestant work ethic and the spirit of capitalism?
Max Weber
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Who wrote the wealth of nations
Adam Smith
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Who was the 'Power of listening' ted talk by?
William Ury
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Who was 'what makes a good life' ted talk by?
Robert Waldinger
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Who wrote Family and Civilization?
Carle Zimmerman