Interpersonal Flashcards
(53 cards)
Buber’s Seeming/Being
Seeming is when someone is not portraying themselves as their authentic self.
Being is when someone is authentic in their portrayal of themselves to others
I-it/I-thou
I/it- When you use relationships as transactions or a means to an end
I/thou- When you have genuine relationships with others and have respect for other
James’ me vs I
Me- False Labels for oneself and how you present your self to other not always accurately
I - True self, your conscience at work making decisions
Cooley’s looking glass self
Social perceptions from others and ourselves influence our development of self.
Stewarts Spiritual Child
When two people meet a child is born as the relationship and it will have traits of both individuals.
Friendship and experiences play a role in ourselves and development
5 steps in handling emotions and coping mechanisms
1.) Recognize Emotions
2.) Understand your emotions
3.) RECOGNIZE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FEELING, TALKING, AND ACTING
4.) Accept Responsibility for Feelings
5.) Consider appropriate way to express feelings
Emotional Intelligence
The ability to recognize, understand, manage, and influence your own emotions and others.
Actor/Observer Attribution Bias
Observers minimize environmental factors and maximize person
Example- Thinking that the person is at fault rather than external factors
Actors maximize environment ad minimize person
Example- thinking that environment is at fault rather than the person
Hopper’s constructing the face of the other (Extreme distinctiveness bias)
We take another person/ group and PERCEIVE them as negative attributes and label them as other
ex- skin color, gender, age, ability
Broome’s empathy (CAP)
Sympathy- feeling pity for someone
Empathy- actively engaging with and understanding the emotional experience of others, without necessarily feeling that same emotion yourself.
Responding to the Other
-Mindful Listening
-Dis confirmation
-confirmation
-Affection/Relational Currencies
-Support Responses
-Shift Responses
-Encouraging Assessments
-Nonverbal comforting
-Apologies
What is Mindful Listening
It means giving your full attention actively listening
showing genuine interest in what the other person is saying.
What is Confirmation and Disconfirmation?
Confirming- Acknowledging another and validating their experience
Disconfirmation- does not acknowledge others experience
Types Disconfirmation?
- Indifference
denial of presence
not acknowledging someone - Avoiding involvement
Avoid contact - Rejecting communication
talk in monologue
avoid questions - Disqulaification
Speaker disqualification
message disqualification
Types of Conforming Behaviors
Recognition
-Eye contact and nonverbals
Acknowledgment
-Response
Endorsement
-express acceptance
What is Affection?
Contributes to psychological esteem, satisfaction, ability to build and maintain relationships.
lack of affection can lead to depression and a dysfunctional relationship
What are support vs. Shift responses
Support- A turn that keeps attention on topic and person
Shift-A turn that shifts attention to current speaker and creates opportunity to change topic
-Conversational Narcissist
Types of Support Responses
- Background acknowledgment
-Yeah, and Oh really - Assertion
Statement that confirms what they say - Question
asking for further information
What are encouraging assessments
-Two types of encouraging assessments
-When you use encouragement like “that’s great” and continue on the topic
-The Second is when you use an encouraging assessment then direct the conversation elsewhere
What are non-verbal Comforting strategies?
-hug
-attentiveness
-close proximity
-being there
-instrumental activity (getting a Kleenex)
-Eye contact
-Increase touch
-Concerned facial expression
-Pats
-cry
-setting the environment
-task activity (reduce distraction)
Relational States and talk of platonic relationships
1.) Strangers
2.) Acquaintances
3.)Casual friends
4.)Intimates
Strangers
- Do not talk at all
-Walk past each other unless small town
-Goffman Civil inattention
Acquaintances
- People we recognize but share little else
-Communication is short, predictable, little beats and little depth, Ritualistic
Casual Friends
-Slightly less predictable
- slightly less short
-Small talk
