intimate relationships test 3 Flashcards
test 3 (122 cards)
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What are the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse? What are aspects of each?
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criticism, defensivness, stonewalling, contempt
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Criticism
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attacking the partners character/personality
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Examples: attacking partner personality
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attacking partner character
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Defensiveness
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defending innocence
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stonewalling
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refusing respond or engage
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contempt
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aggressive disrespect to be hurtful
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What are the main types of cheating?
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physical, emotional, emotional and physical.
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Sexual
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Emotional
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A mix of both
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What are the types of money management systems that couples often engage in?
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pooling, partial pooling, allowance. whole wage, independant management
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Whole Wage
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Allowance
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Pooling
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Partial Pooling
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Independent Management
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Jealousy can manifest in many ways. What are the three types of jealousy introduced in the textbook?
anxious jealousy, reactive jealousy, possessive
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Reactive
Triggered by an actual event that leads to negative emotions (e.g. anger)
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anxious
Stems from ruminating and daydreaming about potential threats. Causes feelings of worry
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possessive
An individual purposefully works to prevent contact between their partner and ‘perceived threats.’ Can lead to isolation
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An individual purposefully works to prevent contact between their partner and ‘perceived threats.’ Can lead to isolation
violence
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Intimacy Healers
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**Build the house that creates a strong relationship. Add the level title and describe what it looks like.
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Level 7: Shared meaning
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Level 6: Make life dreams and aspirations come true
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Level 5: Manage conflict
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Level 4: Positive perspective
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Level 3: Turn towards
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Level 2: Share fondness and admiration
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Level 1: Build love maps
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According to Gottman
most arguments end the same way they begin. What are some techniques that couples can use to better manage conflict?
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Soften start-ups
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Complain but don’t blame
and accept partner’s flaws (avoiding contempt)
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“I” statements
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Recognize repair attempts
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Individual soothing techniques
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Seek a win/win outcome (not a win/lose outcome)
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What are the five love languages? What is one example of each?
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Physical touch
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Example: Hugging
kissing
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Quality time
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Example: Spending one on one time together
date nights
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Words of affirmation
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Example: Saying I love you without prompting
compliments
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Receiving gifts
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Example: Gifts at birthdays/anniversaries
making something for the partner
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Acts of service
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Example: Doing chores without having to offer
filling up gas in the car for partner
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LGBTQ+
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Describe each term based on prior knowledge and information learned in class.
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Heterosexual: A person who is attracted to the opposite gender/sex
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Homosexual: A person who is attracted to the same gender/sex
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Cisgender: A person who identifies with the sex assigned at birth
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Transgender: A person who does NOT identify with the sex assigned at birth
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Asexual: A person who feels little to no sexual attraction towards other people
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Bisexual: A person who is attracted to two or more genders/sexes
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Highlight the correct answer for the true or false prompts.
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Coming out is a one time event. true/false
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Families either accept or reject their LGBT+ child
as there is no nuance. true/false
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LGBT+ parents are equally
or sometimes more
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Long Distance Relationships
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What are the two major types of LDRs?
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Adjusting commuters
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Established commuters
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**What are three couple-level stressors and strains? Then consider what each means in terms of the relationship.
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Potential answers: Loss of da-to-day intimacy
poor technology communication
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What are three couple-level resources/coping strategies? Then consider what each means in terms of the relationship.
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Potential answers: Compartmentalize
partner is friend
