Leadership for Worship chapters 2 + 3 Flashcards

1
Q

The questions that you get asked in an interview reveal a great deal about your _____ and the ______ they have experienced with past staff members.

A

pastor, problems

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2
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The most important questions–from either side– of the pastor’s desk are those that clarify ________.

A

expectations

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3
Q

The relationship between associates and senior pastors has a lot of parallels to the ______ _______.

A

marriage relationship

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4
Q

It is important to identify our ________ before the first interview.

A

expectations

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5
Q

It’s time to leave (your church position) when you can no longer be your pastor’s ________!

A

cheerleader

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6
Q

________, ________, _________ is required to avoid issues with differing expectations.

A

communication, communication, communication

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7
Q

The guy out front is the one who gets shot down ____. It may seem that the pastor gets all the respect, but he/she also catches most of the ____.

A

first, flak

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8
Q

Like a marriage, a church staff relationship must be based on ____.

A

trust

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9
Q

Trust and _____ ______– the glue that holds a staff together.

A

mutual respect

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10
Q

How to betray a pastor’s respect in 7 easy steps:

A
  1. Discuss agreements between you and your pastor with members of the congregation.
  2. Challenge his/her leadership publically.
  3. Spread abroad the news about who came for pastoral counseling, what was said in a staff meeting, and other areas of confidentiality.
  4. When you are considering leaving, let the pastor hear it from friends, other staff members, or congregation members before he hears it from you.
  5. When you have a confrontation with someone in the church, don’t tell the pastor about it. Let him find out through the grapevine or, better still, in a board meeting.
  6. Don’t follow through on assignments or projects you are asked to do.
  7. Take your youth choir to Las Vegas!
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11
Q

It’s vital for pastors and associates to pray together and not just over ____ and ______ but over ______ and family needs as well.

A

plans, programs, personal

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12
Q

No matter how good our relationship is with someone, it is hard to accept ______. Somehow even so-called ________ criticism doesn’t feel very constructive. Regardless of how it feels, it is what we do with _______ that counts.

A

criticism, constructive, criticism

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13
Q

Admittedly there are pastors who feel threatened by _______ associates.

A

successful

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14
Q

How to make sure your pastor doesn’t feel threatened by success:

A
  • Express your support
  • Compliment him
  • Show him you’re on the team
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15
Q

Glean from criticism, _______ or otherwise what there is to glean and try to let the rest ___. Easier said than done.

A

constructive, go

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16
Q

There are only a few options available to us when we are having relationship problems. Here are three:

A
  1. Confront
  2. Stay out
  3. Leave
17
Q

Whatever option you choose, do it ______ and ______. God will give you the grace–and that’s a promise.

A

carefully, prayerfully

18
Q

One of the biggest shocks in ministry has been the discovery that people are very ______. Self-esteem is something most people work a lifetime to attain, and many never get a good grip on it. Even ________, overachievers can actually have a very thin veneer that is often brittle and easily shattered.

A

fragile, over-confident

19
Q

If you find yourself in this [tough] situation, you must make every effort possible to communicate the true intention of your ______.

A

motives

20
Q

I find that good, competent, talented singers in volunteer choirs and Christian schools have a much lower assessment of their musical abilities than I. There are exceptions! But most of the time, I feel that they need me to_______ them and to let them know that I ______ in them.

A

challenge, believe

21
Q

But for most people, nothing is more emotionally transparent than the _____…singing publically makes us exposed and vulnerable.

A

voice

22
Q

Cultivating excellence in music is a _____ goal, but it must not take _______ over the people who make the music.

A

worthy, precedence

23
Q

“People need people who _____ in them, trust them, and ______ much of them.”

A

believe, expect

24
Q

The challenge when dealing with people-related problems is to correct the problems without _______ or _______ the person. Remember, we never have the right to ______ embarrass someone in order to curb their undesirable behavior.

A

alienating, offending, publicly

25
Q

Staying Out of the Middle:

A
  1. Recognize psychological games
  2. Pray for wisdom
  3. Know where your loyalties lie.
  4. Encourage face-to-face discussion
26
Q

Use the sandwich method for confrontation:

A

First, say something you sincerely like or appreciate about the person. Then address the problem. Close with another positive statement letting the other person know you value him/her.

27
Q

When you have to confront:

A
  1. Realizing that timing is important.
  2. Understand that privacy is necessary.
  3. Think through the problem.
  4. Begin with a positive statement.
  5. Listen to the other person.
  6. Be specific.
  7. Don’t respond in kind.
28
Q

Dealing with the pastor’s wife or family is a ______ and _____ situation.

A

delicate, touchy

29
Q

A sense of humor helps too. Laughter has been described as the _______ of life.

A

lubricant

30
Q

“Humor can be used to patch up ______, apologize, say ‘no,’ _______, gain cooperation, dissolve a _______ confrontation, and keep a small misunderstanding from escalating into a big deal.” (William Ellis)

A

differences, criticize, hostile

31
Q

Some ways to put more laughter in your life:

A
  1. Smile, laugh, be cheerful. Poke fun at yourself. Don’t confuse your sense of responsibility or dignity with taking yourself too seriously.
  2. Spend time with family and friends, especially ministry colleagues, who laugh.
  3. Collect things that make you laugh.
  4. Be on the lookout for inside jokes in your family, on staff, and in your musical groups. Shared humor creates a sense of belonging.
  5. Try to look at even your most difficult problems with the eye of an observer seeking out the smallest element that could be seen as amusing, silly, downright hilarious.
  6. Remember that humor isn’t always appropriate, and avoid laughter that hurts another person.
32
Q

Matthew 10:16

A

“Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.”

33
Q

Be shrewed, or “wise.” Recognize the_____ people play.

A

games

34
Q

“You can’t expect to be a ______ employee if you don’t make yourself ______.” -Donald Trump

A

valuable, valuable

35
Q

“Graduating from college is a _______, not an ending.”

-Donald Trump

A

beginning

36
Q

“A know-it-all is like a _____ door. Don’t be a know-it-all.”

A

closed

37
Q

“The more I ______, the more I realized I don’t know.”

A

learned

38
Q

Where to find new music:

A
  • Praisecharts.com
  • Gospel Maps
  • IBC Live
  • UPCI music
  • Ntimemusic.com
39
Q

Colossians 3:23

A

“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as unto the Lord, and not unto men;”