Lecture 1 Flashcards
(21 cards)
What are the five love languages?
words of affirmation
acts of service
receiving gifts
quality time
physical touch
What is Sternbergs triangular theory of love?
love has three components: intimacy, passion, & decision/commitment
intimacy (emotional or affective component)
passion (motivational component)
decision/commitment (cognitive component)
What are some example feelings related to intimacy?
- desiring to promote the welfare of the loved one
- experiencing happiness with them
- having a high regards for them
- receiving emotional support from the
- etc.
What are some drives of passion?
- psychological and physiological needs\
- sexual needs
- self-esteem
- dominance or submission
- self-actualization
What are the two main decisions related to commitment?
- short term: love someone or not
- long-term decision: maintain love or not
What are the 4 pure types of love in relation to the triangle theory of love?
- Nonlove: none
- Liking: just intimacy
- Infatuation: just passion
- Empty love: just commitment (final stage of longterm or beginning of arranged relationship)
What are the 4 types of complicated love in relation to the triangle?
- Romantic love: intimacy and passion (like puppy love)
- Fatuous love: passion and commitment (romeo and juliet style, courtship)
- Companionate love: intimacy and commitment (long-term)
- Consummate: all of the above
What is the color/styles theory of love?
Lee 1988
Eros
Agape
Storge
Pragma
Ludus
Mania
What are the three primary love styles in the color theory of love?
Eros: intense, passionate love (sex, powerful attraction)
Ludus: game-playing love (lack of commitment, playing with each others feelings)
Storge: friendship love (stable affection, sex-shy)
What are the three secondary love styles in the color theory of love?
Pragma (storge + ludus): practical love, businesslike, partner selection is logical
Mania (eros + ludus): possessive love, obsessive and jealous
Agape (eros + storge): compassionate love, obligation towards partner, altruistic, all-givi g
What is the prototype theory of love?
- Mental version of the best or ideal type of love
- Sets a prototype (like from past experience or imagination) –> searches for traits that match that prototype
- Example: maternal love, traits:
trust
caring
honest
respect
loyalty and commitment
What are the four main differences between passionate and companionate love?
- Emotion: intensity or intimacy
- Time length: fragility or durability
- Sexuality or closeness
- Biochemistry/brain activities
Describe emotional intensity in passionate love:
- emotional intensity: physiological arousal + caused by partner (stimuli –> physiological arousal in combination with cognitive interpretation –> emotions)
Describe time length in passionate love:
- time length: unstable, breif, quick to develop but quick to break, declines through habituation (getting used to the same interactions
Describe biochemistry in passionate love:
- pheromones secreted outside body by individual –> affects behavior of receiving individuals
- sex hormones: chemicals produced by sex organs and glands (e.g. testosterone or estrogen)
- neurotransmitters: serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine)
Describe sexuality in passionate love:
- sexual desire is the key feature
- partners with sexual desire more likely to be in passionate love
Describe emotional intimacy in companionate love:
- primarily positive and less intense emotional experiences (warmth, trust, care, loyalty, supportiveness, respect, etc)
- intimacy + commitment
- respect, admiration, interpersonal trust and reards
Describe time length in companionate love:
- more durable, inherently stably, just gets stronger over time but slowly
- steady development, may grow stronger
- passion replaced by commitment
- love scores high regardless of time
Describe biochemistry in companionate love:
- Peptide hormones: oxytocin & vasopressin (neurotransmitter + hormones)
- oxytocin: promotes relaxation & reduces pain
- vasopressin: increase the flow and circulation of blood
- Sexual activity, reproduction, and social bonding
Describe closeness in companionate love:
- High degree of interconnection or interdependency in thoughts, feelings, and behavior between partness
- Mutuality
- Direct influence on each other
