Midterm

Question 1

Statistics on divorce

Answer 1

overall- 50%
church- 45%
temple- 38%-40%

Question 2

How high does the average BYU-Idaho newlywed rate their marriage?

Answer 2

“miserable”

Question 3

Most divorces happen after how many years?

Answer 3

2

Question 4

What are some explanations for the rising divorce rate?

Answer 4

conditional love, finances, expecting happiness to breed from getting married

Question 5

The most common reason cited for divorce is

Answer 5

unrealistic expectations

Question 6

Why are happy marriages good for us?

Answer 6

lead to a happy life, help us feel fulfilled, feels good to love & be loved

Question 7

What is the completion theory?

Answer 7

we are looking for a partner who will fill our holes

Question 8

What is emotional intimacy?

Answer 8

an emotional connection

Question 9

What are emotional holes?

Answer 9

our baggage/unmet emotional needs

Question 10

What is emotional honesty?

Answer 10

the ability to be emotionally honest with ourselves

Question 11

What is real love?

Answer 11

charity/christlike, love towards spouse/kids/pets

Question 12

What is attraction?

Answer 12

wanting to be with someone all the time; temporary

Question 13

What hormones drive the attraction experience?

Answer 13

dopamine, serotonin, norepinephrine

Question 14

What is the nature of real love? What hormones are involved?

Answer 14

family, attachment; serotonin & oxytocin

Question 15

Why does it matter if you are an idealist, a realist, or a romantic?

Answer 15

it determines how you love & need to be loved

Question 16

Why is attraction important?

Answer 16

it tells us who we are physically attracted to & weeds out relationships strictly built on hormones

Question 17

What is counterfeit revelation?

Answer 17

revelation not meant for you

Question 18

Why is faith & obedience critical to receiving revelation?

Answer 18

you must be committed to receive the blessings

Question 19

Why is receiving revelation tricky when it comes to matters of the heart?

Answer 19

it can be intermingled easily with hormones

Question 20

What can we do to hear, recognize & discern the voice of the Lord?

Answer 20

have true intent and remember He only wants to help

Question 21

What are some principles of revelation that can guide us?

Answer 21

action/knowledge, real intent, humility, obedience, not going against doctrine, & only receiving it for oneself

Question 22

What are social skills and why do they matter?

Answer 22

the ability to make people comfortable & leads to understanding of the opposite sex

Question 23

What are the emotional needs for guys?

Answer 23

physical/verbal reassurance, recreational companionship, attractive, admiration, needed

Question 24

What are the emotional needs for girls?

Answer 24

romance & affection, emotional closeness, respect/safety, family connection, cherished

Question 25

What is the most important emotional need for each sex?

Answer 25

Guys- to be needed | Girls- to be cherished

Question 26

Why is physical appearance important when dating?

Answer 26

society says it is

Question 27

How does the value we put on attractiveness impact us?

Answer 27

the things that are supposed to matter won't & it takes away the possibility of progression

Question 28

How important is what we think of ourselves when it comes to our attractiveness and confidence?

Answer 28

important but confidence is key

Question 29

What makes a quality first date?

Answer 29

honesty, openness, respect, true to oneself, no "front"

Question 30

How can you make a positive impression on a date?

Answer 30

touch, smile, show you care, listen, be yourself

Question 31

What are the areas of the RAM model?

Answer 31

rely, commit, touch, know, and trust

Question 32

Name a few red flags

Answer 32

manipulation, pressure, lack of conscience, spending habits, self-centered, high maintenance, deceitful

Question 33

Why is personality style important?

Answer 33

your personalities need to mesh well

Question 34

What is the active dependent personality style?

Answer 34

extreme reliance on others

Question 35

What is the passive dependent personality style?

Answer 35

lack of self-confidence & self-reliance, depends on others

Question 36

What is the narcissistic personality style?

Answer 36

takes charge/dominates, conscience doesn't regulate behavior

Question 37

What is the avoidant personality style?

Answer 37

not comfortable with conflict & will do anything to avoid it

Question 38

What is the passive aggressive personality style?

Answer 38

makes others pay for their avoidance

Question 39

What are some of the schizoid traits we are seeing in young men today?

Answer 39

don't socialize well, extreme avoidance, hermits, addicted to video games

Question 40

What do communication studies on boys and girls age 2-4 reveal?

Answer 40

boys- 60% verbal, 40% sound effects, facts, 12,000 words/day | girls- 100% verbal, explore relationships, 25,000 words/day

Question 41

What is the cave?

Answer 41

the nothing box in a guy's mind, a place to escape when stressed, emotionally safe

Question 42

Why do men and women communicate so differently?

Answer 42

each gender is socialized to communicate/feel differently

Question 43

Why is it important to understand the communication difference between men and women?

Answer 43

their needs are different, men want to fix but women want to listen