Nov 12 Flashcards

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power

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ability to EXERT influence on the other partner to obtain desired outcomes

and being able to RESIST their influence

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influence strategies

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various methods or tactics that individuals use to AFFECT the:

a) behaviour
b) thoughts
c) feelings

of others

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influence strategies vary along 2 dimensions

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  1. VALENCE (positive vs negative)

^ use promise of rewards or punishments

  1. DIRECTNESS (direct vs indirect)

^ overt, visible, unambiguous or subtle

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4 negative direct strategies

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  1. coercion
  2. autocracy
  3. manipulation
  4. negative affect without explanation
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coercion

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NEGATIVE DIRECT

criticism and blame

indicate negative consequences, threaten punishment

express negative affect

yelling, cursing

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autocracy

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negative direct

make CLEAR demands from a POSITION OF AUTHORITY

exert SUPERIORITY, invalidate partner

patronizing, sarcasm, condescending, interrupt, reject partner’s arguments

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manipulation

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negative direct

attempt to make partner feel GUILTY

ie. remind of past favours or partner transgressions, appeal to obligations, commitments or fairness

appeal to partner’s LOVE & CONCERN

ie. “don’t you love me?”

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negative affect without explanation

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negative direct

silent treatment, sulking, pouting

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positive direct strategy

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USE LOGIC AND RATIONAL REASONING

ie. suggest solutions, assess consequences, weigh pros and cons

explain behaviour or POV in way partner would find REASONABLE

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positive indirect strategy

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“SOFT” POSITIVE

“soften” persuasion attempts by pointing out good characteristics of partner, minimizing the problem

ie. “it’s not that big of a deal, but I’d appreciate it if…”

encourage partner to express POV & feelings about situation

be open to, acknowledge, validate partner’s views

be charming & express positive affect

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generally, we don’t like it when…

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partners try to change us (PARTNER REGULATION ATTEMPTS)

communicates that we aren’t living up for partner’s IDEAL

but how this is DONE MATTERS

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partner regulation attempts: how they’re performed matters

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NEGATIVE influence strategies can:

a. convey CONTEMPT & DISREGARD

b. ESCALATE conflict

c. lead to more NEG EVALUATIONS of relationship quality

INDIRECT influences strategies:

a. LACK sufficient FORCE (problem goes unsolved)

b. can OFFSET negative effects of regulation behaviour, convey care and regard

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social power theory: 6 bases of power

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  1. reward power
  2. coercive power
  3. legitimate power
  4. referent power
  5. expert power
  6. informational power
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reward power

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target perceives that agent has ability to provide them with desired rewards if target adopts certain beliefs, attitudes or behaviours that the agent desires

almost like a bribe

often associated with use of positive reinforcement

IF THEY OBEY/AGREE, they GET REWARDED

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coercive power

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target perceives that agent has the POWER TO PUNISH them for:

a) doing something the agent doesn’t like

b) NOT doing something the agent wants

ie. THREATS OF PUNISHMENT

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legitimate power

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target perceives that agent HAS THE RIGHT to affect them

feel they SHOULD COMPLY with agent’s request

influenced by SOCIAL NORMS

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legitimate power is influenced by what social norms?

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  1. norm of social responsibility

(obligated to help those who can’t help themselves)

  1. norm of reciprocity

(do unto others as they have done unto us)

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referent power

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target wants to EMULATE AGENT

who is someone they ADMIRE GREATLY

ie. celebrity endorsing certain products, popular kids at school

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expert power

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target perceives that agent has ability to PROVIDE them with VALUABLE KNOWLEDGE

ie. if person is psych major and target wants personal mental health advice

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informational power

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target perceives that agent has SPECIFIC INFORMATION that may be USEFUL

but target MUST COOPERATE with the agent to get it

ie. someone has a copy of last year’s exam

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interdependence theory account of power

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in interdependent relationships, we DEPEND ON EACH OTHER for OUTCOMES

means partner have power over each other (COUNTERPOWER)

exercise diff amounts of power in diff domains

principle of lesser interest, fate control, behaviour control

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counterpower

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fact that partners in interdependent relationships have POWER OVER EACH OTHER

because they depend on each other for outcomes

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principle of lesser interest

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(interdependence theory of power)

partner who is LESS DEPENDENT on relationship (who desires it less) has MORE POWER in that relationship

recall: DEPENDENCE = outcomes - CLalt

^ thus, partners who have better alternatives have greater power

^ likely to eventually leave relationship unless partner can provide special outcomes

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interdependence theory: 2 types of control when making a JOINT DECISION

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  1. fate control
  2. behaviour control
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fate control
(interdependence theory of power) ONE partner TOTALLY determines outcomes of the other partner can draw on any of the six bases of power
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behaviour control
(interdependence theory of power) one partner can MAKE IT MORE REWARDING for the other partner to change their behavioural choices usually draw on REWARD POWER make it more appealing for other partner to engage in a certain behaviour, more compromise-based
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happy couples tend to rely on what type of control when making joint decisions?
behaviour control (not fate control)
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interdependence theory: partners may use different strategies to increase their power
1. increase quality of their own alternatives 2. decrease apparent quality of partner's alternatives 3. improve value of rewards they can bestow on partner 4. reducing partner's perceived qualities & skills (to make them feel more dependent on the rewards that influencer can provide) 5. devaluing what the partner can offer to oneself
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relational consequences of power imbalances
1. relationships with high imbalance in power tend to be characterized by: a) LOWER SATISFACTION b) LESS STABILITY c) GREATER CONFLICT 2. power affects our EMOTIONAL experience and how we RELATE to others ^ may feel guilty about imbalance
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approach/inhibition theory of power
2 behavioural systems that help us navigate our world 1. behavioural approach system 2. behavioural inhibition system power influences BALANCE of TENDENCIES to approach and inhibit
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behavioural approach system
moves us TOWARDS desired outcomes like a green light: go, go, go! triggered by presence of REWARDS & OPPORTUNITIES
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behavioural inhibition system
aka avoidance system moves us AWAY from threats yellow light: slow down, be vigilant triggered by PUNISHMENT, THREAT, UNCERTAINTY
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power influences balance of tendencies to approach and inhibit...
1. power is associated with greater access to rewards, freedom of interference ^ thus, higher power ACTIVATES approach-related tendencies ^ more focused on SEEKING REWARDS, without any care for constraints 2. lack of power elicits feelings of THREAT ^ thus, lack of power is associated with INCREASED INHIBITION ^ more VIGILANT and CAREFUL in making judgments/decisions
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theory predicts that power will decrease...
perspective taking don't need to rely on accurate understanding of others to accomplish goals don't need to pay attention to others, because you aren't reliant on others for your outcomes
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perspective taking experimental study
1. Ps primed to feel MORE or LESS powerful ie. recall incident where you had power over others VS recall incident where others had power over you 2. draw an E on your forehead RESULTS: those primed to feel powerful were LESS LIKELY to TAKE DIFFS IN VISUAL PERSPECTIVE into account
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perspective taking and power: other studies
1. less accurate in DECODING emotional expressions 2. less likely to take into account that others don't possess their privileged knowledge ie. read following scenario - co-worker recommends restaurant - target has terrible time - when asked how it was, responds sarcastically "just marvelous" - will the co-worker understand the sarcasm? ^ more confidence that they'll understand in the high power manipulation
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approach/inhibition theory of power further predicts...
that power should make people BEHAVE IN LESS CONSTRAINED and at times MORE INAPPROPRIATE ways ie. upper class individuals more likely to break law while driving ie. partners who perceive themselves as more committed to relationship (lower in power) more likely to refrain from hostile behaviour during conflict discussions, less likely to retaliate ie. the more powerful partner in relationship is more likely to be aggressive BUTTTTT partners who have low power & desire for power may also engage in coercive controlling tactics (esp when they're men)
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partners who have low power and desire more power may...
also engage in COERCIVE/CONTROLLING TACTICS esp when they're men
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does power always corrupt? experiment setup
1. measured extent to which PS were COMMUNALLY-ORIENTED or EXCHANGE-ORIENTED 2. manipulated power by having Ps sit in a fancy professor CHAIR or plain chair 3. following power manipulation, asked to complete series of QUESTIONNAIRES with another participant
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does power always corrupt? experiment results
HIGH POWER CONDITION: ^communally-oriented Ps performed most of the task while exchange oriented Ps shirked work LOW POWER CONDITION: ^no effect of communal vs exchange orientation
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does power always corrupt? experiment CONCLUSION
power doesn't corrupt, it REVEALS
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participants who considered themselves less committed than their partners were more likely to engage in hostile behaviours...
1. IF they were experiencing MORE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS 2. or if HIGHER on NEGATIVE interpersonal TRAITS ie. high trait anger, chronic jealousy, low agreeableness
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power doesn't inherently lead to negative behaviour...
it DISINHIBITS amplifies pre-existing inclinations SITUATIONAL (ie. feeling more negative emotions at the time) or DISPOSITIONAL
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aggression
PHYSICAL or VERBAL behaviour intended to HARM a person who doesn't want to be harmed
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violence
term that's sometimes but not consistently reserved for ACTS intended to cause EXTREME PHYSICAL harm ie. severe injury or death but this course and textbook use aggression and violence interchangeably
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3 types of violence
1. situational couple violence 2. coercive controlling violence 3. violent resistance
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situational couple violence
stems from angry verbal exchange that ESCALATES to physical altercation in the ABSENCE of general intent by either partner to dominate and control the other 1. often (not always) characterized by MILDER forms of aggression (pushing, grabbing) 2. women EQUALLY LIKELY to engage in this type of violence (severity of injury caused by men is higher though) 3. often MUTUAL, with both partners involved
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situational couple violence is a ______ form of violence...
reactive reflects FRUSTRATION and HOSTILITY evoked by a verbal argument
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coercive controlling violence
form of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE in which ONE partner uses EXTREME forms of aggression to DOMINATE the other 1. more likely to be perpetrated by MEN 2. PROACTIVE form of violence: reflects systematic & sustained strategy to intimidate and control another person 3. more likely to be ONE-SIDED, PERVASIVE in relationship & ESCALATE over time 4. more likely to result in SEVERE INJURIES, attempted MURDER, and DEATH
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alternative names for coercive controlling violence
intimate terrorism battery
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where situational couple violence is reactive, coercive controlling violence is...
proactive ^ systematic & sustained strategy to intimidate and control another person
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characteristics and warning signs of coercive controlling violence
1. feelings of FEAR/CONFUSION 2. INVALIDATION/BELITTLING (emotional abuse, minimizing behaviour) 3. attempts at CONTROL (isolation, economic abuse) 4. THREATS (intimidation) & AGGRESSION
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characteristics/warning signs of coercive controlling violence: FEELINGS OF FEAR/CONFUSION
ie. avoid certain topics out of fear of angering partner ie. feel emotionally numb or helpless
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characteristics and warning signs of coercive controlling violence: INVALIDATION/BELITTLING
ie. perpetrator humiliates & insults the other ie. blames the partner for own abuse
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characteristics and warning signs of coercive controlling violence: ATTEMPTS AT CONTROL
ie. excessive jealousy & possessiveness ie. keeps partner from seeing friends & family ie. limits access to money, car, etc
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characteristics and warning signs of coercive controlling violence: THREATS & AGGRESSION
ie. volatile & unpredictable temper, aggression, threats of killing self or partner
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cycle of coercive controlling violence
1. tension building phase 2. explosive, acute battering phase 3. contrition phase repeats over and over
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tension building phase
hostility erupts in angry outbursts often response to jealousy & desire for control
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explosive, acute battering phase
tension unleashed in act of rage & aggression often in context of disagreement or frustrating moment
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contrition phase
perpetrator apologizes, promises to change tries to convince victim that abuse will never happen again
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intimate terrorism perpetrators BACKGROUND
(intimate terrorism = coercive controlling violence) where situational couple violence is often product of destructive couple dynamics that can be addressed in couples therapy... coercive controlling violence is more of a PERVASIVE INDIVIDUAL problem
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intimate terrorism perpetrators are more likely to...
more likely to be diagnosed with PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDERS - esp ANTISOCIAL or BORDERLINE personality disorder
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antisocial personality disorder
lack of regard for others, laws & social norms impulsivity and lack of control over anger (more common in intimate terrorism perpetrators)
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borderline personality disorder
intense fear of rejection & abandonment emotional instability & difficulty regulating emotions impulsivity
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intimate terrorism perpetrator common characteristics
1. insecurity, hypersensitivity to rejection, jealousy ^ over attribute critical/rejecting thoughts to women 2. easily provoked to anger 3. more violent & more likely to see violence as justifiable 4. traditional gender attitudes 5. narcissism 6. more likely to abuse drugs/alcohol 7. experiences of aggression and violence in family of origin
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narcissism
inflated/unstable sense of self esteem sensitivity to ego threat proneness to respond with aggression
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coping with intimate terrorism: contrary to popular belief...
battered women make efforts to stop the abuse must understand intimate terrorism & response thereto in the context of an ongoing, committed romantic relationship it's not a single response, but an unfolding process of growing recognition & development of coping strategies may confront partner, try to reason with them, change their own behaviour to avoid triggers MAJORITY (70%) SEEK HELP FROM POLICE, COUNSELLORS, MEDICAL PERSONNEL
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violent resistance
occurs when partner FORCIBLY FIGHTS BACK against intimate terrorism women who defend themselves are TWICE AS LIKELY to sustain INJURY thus, attempts at violent resistance may be short-lived
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leaving coercive relationships: longitudinal study
43% of women facing intimate terrorism left within 2.5 years
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considerations when thinking about escaping relationships with intimate terrorism
1. escaping safely may take time (may make multiple attempts) 2. entrapment due to psychological & economic abuse, isolation, fear of even greater violence & retaliation 3. may be deterred by continuing attachment & commitment to partner, emotional dependence 4. common belief that they'll be worse off (but people are happier after leaving abusive partner than they'd expect)
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situational couple violence - more a product of...
couple dynamic influenced by situational factors may engage in SCV in one relationship but not another strongest predictor of violence is receiving violence ^ negative reciprocity, as exists in verbal conflict
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attachment and anger - interpersonal violence
ANGER = strong predictor of interpersonal violence from ATTACHMENT PERSPECTIVE: a) anger is a FUNCTIONAL RESPONSE to SEPARATION from an attachment figure IF it deters unreliable attachment figure from LEAVING & RE-ESTABLISHES warm relations b) but intense, destructive, vengeful anger has potential to DESTROY relationship
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anger of hope
anger is a functional response to separation from an attachment figure IF: a) it deters unreliable attachment figure from leaving b) re-establishes warm relations
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attachment anxiety & anger
attachment anxiety > high levels of relational anger 1. react with ANGER & hostility to AMBIGUOUS cues 2. more likely to RUMINATE on anger-provoking thoughts (less effective emotion regulation) 3. more EMOTIONAL SPREADING (activation of one negative emotion leads to activation of other negatively valenced but unrelated emotions)
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anxiously attached individuals use anger/violence to...
gain attention and proximity
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avoidantly attached individuals anger causes them to...
create distance
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attachment avoidance & anger
DISSOCIATED ANGER (don't report high anger but physiological markers show higher anger) rely on DISTANCING STRATEGIES to cope with anger: a) may discourage outright aggression, but avoidants can become violent when involved in intense negative reciprocity & demand-withdrawal dynamics (most likely when paired with anxiously attached partner)
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dissociated anger
seen in avoidantly attached individuals don't always REPORT high levels of anger in response to anger-eliciting events BUT exhibit more PHYSIOLOGICAL SIGNS of anger arousal, greater hostility, appraise others' negative behaviours as having hostile intent
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distancing strategies employed by avoidants when they're angry may... but...
MAY discourage outright aggression BUT avoidants may become violent when involved in intense negative reciprocity and demand-withdrawal dynamics ^ most likely when paired with anxiously attached partner
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I3 model
SCV influenced by 3 factors 1. instigating triggers 2. impelling influences 3. inhibiting influences
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I3 model - instigating triggers
events that AROUSE ANGER ie. betrayal, insults
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I3 model - impelling influences
factors that make it MORE LIKELY one will experience violent impulses when provoked ie. family history of violence, impulsivity, attachment insecurity, alcohol/drugs
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I3 model - inhibiting influences
factors that COUNTERACT aggressive impulses ie. good problem solving skills, commitment & accommodation
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violence in sexual minority couples
while some studies have found comparable rates of violence in same sex and straight couples... others suggest GREATER RISK OF VICTIMIZATION for gay & lesbian individuals impact of violence for sexual minorities may be COMPOUNDED by: a. lack of supportive services b. hesitancy to disclose
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highest rates of victimization observed for...
bisexual individuals related to perpetrator bi-negativity and perceived/real infidelity bi-negativity relates to neg stereotypes about promiscuity