P-u Flashcards
(50 cards)
1
Q
Flirting
Statement
Aimed at no one (low risk)
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“That’s a ridiculous statement.”
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Q
Flirting
Tease
Aimed at her (medium risk)
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“Wow, you are a ridculous person for making that statement.”
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Q
Flirting
Flirt
Aimed at us / our relationship (high risk)
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“Wow, you are a ridculous person… I don’t know if we’re going to get along.”
4
Q
Flirting
Flirt Progression (Ex. 1)
e.g. strange interest
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- “That’s a strange interest.”
- “You’re a strange person for being interested in that.”
- “You’re a stange person for being interested in that, and I don’t date strange people.”
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Q
Flirting
Flirt Progression (Ex. 2)
e.g. weird home state
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- “That’s a weird home state.”
- “I’m not quite sure about what that says about you as a person?”
- “Yeah, I thought you were cute, but now I’m not so sure we’re going to get along.”
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Q
Sensual Topics
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- Drugs
- Travel
- Risk Taking
- Breaking the Law
- Adventures
- Crazy “moves, places”
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Q
False Time Constraints
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- “I have to go in a second, but…”
- “I can’t stay super long, but…”
- “I have somewhere to be in a bit, but…”
- “I’m getting tired of this club, I might have to leave soon, maybe a drink or two, but I might not stay all night.”
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Q
Key Lines
Qualifying
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- “You don’t seem like the worst person to hang out with…”
- “It would be fun to take you on an adventure, but I don’t trust you yet…”
- “There is this great place, maybe I’ll take you there, but let’s hang out here a little longer.”
- “I don’t take a lot of people there, maybe one day, probably not tonight.”
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Q
The Wall Exercise
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- L1: keep talking, despite no response
- L2: estabilish premise (e.g. “I like you, but you’re so flat.”)
- L3: H-V frame (e.g. you’re wanted, the wall likes you, you’re used to getting positive social feedback)
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Q
Reminder
Too Much Power
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Once you have enough power, focus on getting to know her and moving forward, not on acquiring more and more power
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Q
Push-Pulls
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- If you say a neg., follow w/ pos.
- If you say a pos., follow w/ neg.
- If you say something neutral, follow it w/ either
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Q
Push-Pulls (Exs)
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- “You’re style is so 80’s, but you seem confident so I’ll let it pass.”
- “You’ve got nice style, but clearly you’re trying too hard.”
- “You’re wearing Bedrocks… Bedrock crew!”
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Q
Openers
Openers (Beginner)
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- “Hey, I like your look, and so I wanted to come meet you.”
- “Hey, you seem very interesting, and so I wanted to come meet you.”
- “Hey, I don’t normally approach strangers, but I was struck by your [smile/energy/style] and I just had to come say hello.”
- “Excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice your book/phone case/t-shirt. I’m also a big fan of [author/band/TV show]. What’s your favorite [book/album/episode]?”
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Q
Openers
Openers (Intermediate)
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- “That necklace is so 20 years ago, but you have some confidence so I’ll let it pass.” (neg → pos)
- “You have a really cool look, but clearly you’re trying a little too hard.” (pos → neg)
- “You’re wearing a black shirt… black shirt crew!” (neutral → positive)
- “You’re wearing a black shirt… we’re too similar… it’s not going to work.” (neutral → neg)
- “You’re wearing a black shirt… really? I little more unoriginal please?” (neutral → neg)
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Q
The 5 A’s
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- Assertive (saying, doing, and standing up for what you want)
- Assured (Being confident that you’re high-value, being a bit cocky, and being confident in making moves)
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Q
Key Lines
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- “I got to go in a minute…”
- “You and I are not going to get along…”
- “Stop loooking at me like that…”
- “You’re trouble…, but what’s your (other person’s) name?”
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“Can you please stop being so cute, I’m trying not to like you.”
- “Look, I’m even holding your hand now… we have to stop.”
- “I have to get up early in the morning, but I guess you could come over for just a few minutes…”
- ‘Cuse me. I absolutley love your look. It’s so v elegant… Miami… but not quite.
- Actually, idk, you and i might not get along, but I feel like you won’t be boring
- “I got to go in a minute…”
- Have set stories, jokes, lines that work, but use them at the right time
- “I could maybe be tempted for a very quick drink with a Russian girl. Could be maybe fun?”
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Q
When to Leave an Interaction
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Expected Value
18
Q
Things to Master
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- Keeping the Frame
- M2W
- Us Together
- Her Chasing Me
- Teasing
- Flirting
- Push-Pulls
- False-Time Constraints
- Cold Reads
- Qualifying Them
- Deescalating
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Q
Closing Lines
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- What are your thoughts on dried fruit?
- “Are you adventurous?”
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Q
Shit Tests
Ways to Pass
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- Agree + Exaggerate
- Misinterpret
- Ignore / Side-Step
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Q
Shit Test Responses
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- “Yes, I say that to every girl. I’ve actually said it 500 times today. It was weird when I said it to my Grama though… do you think I should stop doing that?”
- “Actually I wrote that just for you, and it was so poetic, and now I’m devastated.”
- “Hey, stop looking at my body… my eyes are up here.”
- “What type of girl would ask if you’re so confident? You looking for tips?”
- “Thank you. That’s why I bought it.”
- “And it’s staying on tonight, thank you.”
- “I was taking a page out of your arrogance humor.”
- “Thanks for noticing.”
- “Yep, I have no answer for that. Can we j be normal now?”
- “Glad you like it.”
- “I’m flattered by you for noticing. I guess that’s your thing, right?”
- “I’m glad you like…”
- “I’m glad you’re paying so much attention to me.”
22
Q
Make Her Feel Important
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Make her feel like she’s special, unique, etc. Yet balance this w framing yourself still as high-value
23
Q
Key Lines: 2
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- “This probably isn’t going to go anywhere.”
- “Wow… okay, you can go… Why are you still here? No seriously get out of here.”
- “Yeah, I’m not really into that… I don’t think we’re going to get along.”
- “I love that sweater… I love that you’re trying to bring the 80’s back.”
- “You and I would not get along.”
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Q
Plotlining
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- The storyline with women is meeting them, creating building negative tension, then eventually switching that tension to positive, then becoming attracted to each other (think When Harry Met Sally)
- So, w women, don’t just talk about something and then run out of things to say, find a new topic and repeat… start with a central topic of negative tension (like that you don’t like their type) and then comeback to that throughout
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Disqualify as you Escalate
- “Hey, I got to go in a minute, but anyway…”
- Escalating: sitting down
- Disqualifying: I have to go in a minute
- E.g. “I have to get up early in the morning, but I guess you could come over for just a few minutes…”
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Plotlines
- Definition: a series of events which induce jealousy in a woman
- For women you think **you can get**…
- PL: I don’t want to like you, but you’re making it difficult
- For women **that take more effort**…
- PL: initially push them away / ignore them to the point that they’re not used to it and are trying to get your attention…
- “Normally I’d go after girls like you, but there’s j something about you that I’m not feeling.”
- There are plenty more PLs… research and use one’s you like + work w the situation
- Have a plotline, but not a script
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Implementation, 1
- Add 1-2 New Bits a Night
- Trust yourself for where you are in the process + that you’ll succeed
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Have a Structured Back-up Plan
- The Winding Forest Path
- Also, for set things that happen (e.g. she gets dragged away by her friends), have a plan in place so you know what to do
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Expected Value
- So if you're w/ a 5 who’s really into you, maybe you stay
- So if you’re w/ a 7 who’s not too sold, maybe you leave
- So if you’re w/ an 8, who’s not too sold, maybe you stay
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Free Mental RAM
- Have some things you say often… go-to lines
- Know how to escalate, where you’ll take her next before home, etc.
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Finding Your Own Style
- Imitate before you innovate *⭐️*
- Your style should get you toward your goal
- *What is your end goal w game? What is it you got into game for? ⭐️*
- *What type of interactions do you like? ⭐️*
- *What are you best at? ⭐️*
- No Matter the Style…
- Trail + Error
- You need: Access + Attraction + Follow-Through
- Congruence w Closing
- A Plotline
- Having a Few Canned Things
- Never Stop Learning
- Never Forget How Fun This, Be In Love w Game + Having Fun
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My Best DHVs
- Company website, IG, reviews
- SE Asia stories
- Van life stories
- Skills
- Business success
- Body
- Those I know / am connected with
- Epic photos
- Epic stories
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My Stories
- Helping Caitlin, OA Tour
- Growth, purpose, business owner, knows what I want, extremely thoughtful, outdoorsy, positive, caring, lifestyle design, ideal lifestyle, foundation work situation, thought leader
- Vietnam, Ms. Tu
- V unique, storyteller, adventurous, fun, vagabond / traveler, gives back, extremely independent / self-reliant
- Physics Homework
- Life balance, knows everyone, not a rule follower
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Key Things to Master
- False-Time Constraints
- Keeping the Frame
- M2W
- Us Together
- Her Chasing Me
- Teasing
- Flirting
- Push-Pulls
- Qualifying Them
- Deescalating
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Key Lines, 3
- *“This probably isn’t going to go anywhere.”*
- *“Wow! Okay, you can go…”*
- *“Yeah, I’m not really into that… I don’t think we’re going to get along.”*
- *“Hey, I love your style… I really like how you’re going all in on the _____ vibe.”*
- *“I got to go in a minute…”*
- *“You and I would not get along.”*
- *“You and I are not going to get along…”*
- *“Stop loooking at me like that…”*
- *“You’re trouble…, but what’s your (other person’s) name?”*
- *“Can you please stop being so cute, I’m trying not to like you.”*
- *“Look, I’m even holding your hand now… we have to stop.”*
- *“I could be tempted, maybe, for a very quick drink with a _____ girl. Could be maybe fun?”*
- Set stories
- Set jokes
- Set lines that work
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The Path
* Open
* Premise
* Evaluate
* Close
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# The Path
Open
Goal: create a conversation
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# The Path
Premise
- Goal: get her to like you, size her up
- Frame: man assessing woman frame; there’s a chance we could be together
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# The Path
Evaluate
- Goal: connect, and create the narrative (story between you and her)
- Frame: man assessing woman frame; I like you, but not completely
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# The Path
Close
- Goal: get agreement from her on a future action
- Frame: I’m hard to get, but going to get to know her
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# Open
Pre-Open
- The point where you get the girl’s attention
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- *“Hey, ‘cuse me.”*
- Like she dropped her wallet
- *Pause*
- If no response, follow up pre-open…
- *“No, you…”*
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# Open
Opener
- Tonality
- Pacing
- Be clear, heard
- Not too fast
- Pauses
- *“I absolutely love your look. It’s so v elegant… Seattle… but not quite. I’m guessing… I actually have to go in a minute. Actually, idk, you and I might not get along, but I feel like you won’t be boring.”*
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# Open
Follow-up
- She’s got this look, I’m going to try + describe it, make an assumption about her based on this look
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- *It makes me think you’re like this…*
- Tease
- Push-pull
- Neutral opinion (could be good or bad)
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# Open
Sub-steps
* Angle
* Pre-open
* Eye Contact
* Light Smile
* Opener
* Pause
* Let Her Speak
* Follow-up
* Pause
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# Open
Tips
- Use false time constraints if her focus drifts
- Give her time to talk
- Don’t be overly complimentary
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# Premise
Sub-steps
- MaW Frame
- M2W
- Tension
- e.g. flirting
- Unearth Her Blueprint
- Evaluate / Qualify
- Sexual Tension
- See “The Gateway to Sexual Conversations”
- Next Location (if applicable)
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# Evaluate
Sub-steps
- Converse + Connect
- Showcase the Aspects of you Which Align
- Build Your Narrative
- Who are you?
- Align w/ Her Values
- Quickly unearth her values and present the parts of you most in alignment w them
- Paint the Scene
- Tell stories about your that paint a picture of what it would be like to be with you
- Tell Stories
- Tell Facts About You
- Share Your Opinions
- Physical Connection
- Wheel of Fortune Analogy
- Know when you have enough letters to solve
- 1st Ask for Close
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# Close
Sub-steps
- 2nd Ask for Close
- “Are you adventurous?”
- Number
- Instant date / next location (e.g. drinks, date)
- Go home
- Empathize: Solve the Problem, Don’t Give In
- Showcase Belief in Yourself as an Amazing “Product”
- 3rd Ask for Close
- Number
- Instant date / next location (e.g. drinks, date)
- Go home
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# Flirting
Disagreeing
Strive to disagree for the first 5 mins of meeting a girl, then slowly start to agree more and more
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# Framing
Man to Woman Frames
- How you’d get along
- How you’d be as friends
- What type of relationship you’d have if you had one
- Who would do the laundry at the crib
- Who would choose the places to travel
- Whether she’d be a good… travel partner… or not?
- Climbing partner
- Backpacking partner
- Road trip partner
- Roomate
- Gym partner
- Someone to work w/
- Employee
- Girlfriend
- Mother
- Sister/ daughter-in-law
