Personal Relationships Flashcards
(36 cards)
1
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Describe the processes of romantic attraction.
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Describe the processes of intimate relationships.
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3
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Explain Sternberg’s triangular theory of love.
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- Consummate love: intimacy, passion, commitment
- Companionate love: intimacy + commitment
- Empty love: commitment alone
- Fatuous love: passion + commitment
- Infatuation: passion alone (starts to fade after 6-30 months)
- Romantic love: intimacy + passion
- Liking: intimacy alone
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What are the 5 love languages?
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- Words of affiirmation: verbal compliments, words of appreciation, straight forward or indirect statements that help someone feel worthy or loved
- Quality time: focused and full attention, quality conversation and activities done together
- Giving gifts: inexpensive or expensive, purchased or handmade
- Acts of service: housework, yard work, organizational work, buying groceries, doing what partner has asked you to do in past month
- Physical touch
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What are signs of emotional abuse?
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- Attempting to control various aspects of your life
- Frequently humiliating you and making you feel bad about yourself
- Wanting to know where you are and who you’re with at all times
- Becoming jealous or angry when spending time with friends
- Threatening to harm you
- Trying to coerce you into doing what you’re not comfortable with
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What is physical monogamy and emotional monogamy?
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- Physical monogamy: defined as exclusive physical sexual experience with one’s partner
- Emotional monogamy: sets boundaries around emotional connections and affairs with others outside of primary relationship, can include relationships at work, friends, and online
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What is social and serial monogamy?
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- Social monogamy: perception of being monogamous by others
- Serial monogamy: where committed monogamous relationship is entered into until the relationship ends and another monogamous relationship beings
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What is polyamory and an open relationship?
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- Open relationship: partners agree to sexual involvement with others outside of primary relationship
- Polyamory: acceptance of having intimate relationships with more than one person at a time, with both knowledge and consent of everyone involved
9
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What is cohabitation?
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Couples that live together (common-law relationship)
10
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What are the 7 key factors used to determine whether people are cohabiting?
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- Shelter: share accomodation
- Sexual and personal behaviour: intimate interdependant relationship
- Services: share traditional functions of family
- Social: portray themselves as couple to the world
- Societal: how are unmarried partners treated by their community?
- Children: do unmarried couple see children as part of their home and interact parentally with each other’s children if there are any?
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What is sexual identity? What is gender? What is gender identity, presentation, and roles?
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- Sexual identity: biology or personal self-identificaiton perspective (who they are attracted to)
- Gender: built on role we play by society in which we live
- Gender identity: person’s internal sense of themselves where they may identify as being male, female, or transgender
- Gender presentation: influences way individuals manage their appearance, dress, behave, and present gender identity
- Gender roles: socially determined behavioural rules and standards assigned to men and women in our society
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How do people identify their gender?
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- Male
- Female
- Androgynous: identify as neither male or female
- Intersex: people who were born with male and female anatomy
- Transgender: umbrella term for people whose gender identity or expression differs from sex assigned at birth
13
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What is sexual diversity?
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- Bisexual: attracted to both sexes
- Heterosexual: primary sexual orientation is toward members of opposite sex
- Homosexual: person who is sexually or romantically attracted to individuals of the same sex
14
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What are the different types of sexual activity?
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15
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What are the different types of sexual behaviour?
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16
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What is sexual harassment? What does the research say?
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17
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What is sexual victimization of students?
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18
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What are the factors associated with rape/acquaintance rape?
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19
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What can be done to prevent sexual violence?
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20
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How can you support someone who has experienced sexual violence?
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21
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What is sexuality and the various dimensions?
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22
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Why do men and women have sex?
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23
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Why do lesbian women have sex?
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24
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Why would someone not have sex?
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25
Is masturbation a risky activity?
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What are the pros/cons to having sex?
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What are STIs prevalent?
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What are the behavioural, social, and biological factors that contribute to the spread of STIs?
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What are women more susceptible to infection?
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What are STIs more common for university students? Which ones are?
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How do you protect yourself from a STI?
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32
What is friendship?
- Basic source of happiness
- Those with more close friends and those who have a greater support network have better psychological health
- Connection to a larger world
- Source of solace in times of trouble - see us at our worst but never lose sight of our best
- Transcends boundaries of distance and difference
- Enhances feelings of warmth, trust, love and affection
- Human beings of every culture make friends
- Friends of adolescence and young adulthood are the strongest of our lifetime
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What are the types of casual relationships?
- FWB: know an acquaintance, move into a physical relationship, friendship where you are able to satisfy sexual needs with each other
- FB: friends with benefits but with less respect and focus on just having sex
- ONS: someone you don’t know, alcohol involved
- BC: midnight, someone texting you, planned or random
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Discuss hooking up and its consequences.
- Sexual activity with a casual partner who may be a friend/stranger
- Term describes a variety of sexual behaviours
- No commitment of exclusivity
- Perhaps occurs less often than we perceive?
Consequences for women:
- Depressive symptoms and causal sex
- Females felt shame and regret if they didn’t know partner and risks/sexual history were not discussed
- Lack of future contact increase shame and anger against self
Consequences for men:
- Males regretted hooking up with an unattractive or undesirable partner or someone labelled as promiscuous
- Men report more positive and less negative reactions to casual sex than women
35
Discuss long-distance dating relationships.
- Living apart for not less than 3 months
- Being on average 321 km apart
- ⅕ end
- 20% become more difficult
- 18% said distance improved their relationship
- Fewer but longer, more intimate conversations
- More idealization = honeymoon effect, more satisfaction?
- Less conflict sometimes because you don’t want to ruin conflict
- Not any less satisfactory than relationships in person
- Quality of relationship stayed high if they used more video-media technology
36
Discuss attraction.
Factors for finding someone attractive:
- Warmth and kindness
- Desirable personality
- Something specific about the person (unique)
- Reciprocal liking (we tend to like people who like us)
- Designed to motivate us to want to spend more time together = focus on one person = emotional attachment = passionate love = we mate
- Euphoria but decreased productivity in other areas
- Not sustainable long-term = evolutionary reason is or else we wouldn’t get anything else done
