Phase 1 - Initiation Flashcards
(44 cards)
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What is the primary goal of Phase 1?
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The goal of Phase 1 is to initiate the interaction, assess mutual attraction, and lay the groundwork for building rapport and trust.
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How should you display your intent in Phase 1?
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- Use subtext, both verbally and nonverbally, to subtly communicate interest.
- Maintain confidence and assertiveness while initiating contact.
- Verbally express light compliments and playful banter to show attraction.
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What are some nonverbal cues to display intent in Phase 1?
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- Stand slightly closer than usual but maintain an open posture.
- Use sultry voice tone and prolonged eye contact to convey interest.
- Initiate light, playful touches early in the interaction.
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How can you verbally express interest in Phase 1?
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- Engage in playful banter and teasing to create a flirtatious atmosphere.
- Employ witty observations and self-amusing humor to keep the conversation light and engaging.
- Occasionally call out that you’re hitting on her through jokes or playful remarks.
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What is the importance of earning her trust in Phase 1?
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Building trust establishes a foundation for further interaction and ensures she feels comfortable and safe in your presence.
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How can you make an emotional connection in Phase 1?
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- Share parts of your life gradually while maintaining an air of mystery.
- Use inclusive language and “we” statements to foster a sense of unity.
- Initiate light, playful touches according to Phase 1 rules to build rapport.
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Why is showing vulnerability important in Phase 1?
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- Showing vulnerability demonstrates authenticity and confidence.
- It allows her to see you as a three-dimensional person and fosters a deeper connection.
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How can you tell if you’ve earned her trust in Phase 1?
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-She engages in playful banter and reciprocates your touches comfortably.
-(Share who you are while maintaining an air of mystery.)
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What is the main objective of Goal B in Phase 1?
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-The main objective is to balance intent and initial flirting with passive forces.
-It’s crucial to lay the foundation for further escalation by earning her trust.
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What are the methods for emotional connection in Phase 1?
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- Share who you are while keeping part of your life a mystery.
- Use “we” statements to subtly imply a connection.
- Initiate Phase 1 touching sparingly and playfully.
- Show vulnerability without shame.
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How should you share information about yourself in Phase 1?
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- Share one or two pieces of information at a time, maintaining an air of mystery.
- Avoid oversharing to keep her intrigued and prevent being perceived as a friend.
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What is the purpose of using “we” statements?
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- “We” statements frame situations to create a shared experience.
- They subtly imply a couple dynamic and foster a sense of unity through language.
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How should you approach touching in Phase 1?
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- Use touch sparingly and playfully, adhering to Phase 1 rules.
- Initiate light touches early in the interaction, such as on the shoulder during introductions or laughter.
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Why is showing vulnerability important in Phase 1?
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- Showing vulnerability allows you to appear authentic and confident.
- It helps build trust and connection by sharing personal experiences or thoughts without shame.
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What are some indicators that trust has been earned in Phase 1?
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- Engaging in playful banter without skepticism.
- Allowing light physical touch comfortably.
- Displaying a friendly vibe and reciprocating interactions positively.
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What advice should you follow once trust is established in Phase 1?
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- Avoid lingering too long in Phase 1 to prevent being perceived as just a friend.
- Transition to Phase 2 for further escalation while maintaining a balance between intent display and trust-building.
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Why is Goal C important in Phase 1?
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- Goal C focuses on creating sexual tension and desire within the woman.
- Without sparking sexual tension, the interaction may remain platonic, leading to a friendship rather than romantic interest.
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What is the purpose of The Boomerang Technique?
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- The Boomerang Technique aims to make the woman invest in you emotionally.
- By temporarily withdrawing attention, you create a sense of absence, prompting her to seek your attention and validation.
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What are the steps involved in The Boomerang Technique?
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- Take away the good feelings of interaction by temporarily withdrawing attention.
- Preoccupy yourself with something else, allowing her to feel the absence of your presence.
- When she begins working to win back your attention, reward her investment by returning your focus to her.
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How can The Boomerang Technique be misinterpreted?
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- It’s crucial to avoid blatant disregard or intentional neglect, as this can be perceived as being disrespectful or uninterested.
- The technique should convey a subtle absence rather than deliberate indifference.
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What message does The Boomerang Technique convey about your life?
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- By boomeranging away, you signal that you value your life outside of the interaction with her.
- It suggests that you have a fulfilling life and other priorities, making you more desirable.
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How can The Boomerang Technique be applied in Phase 1?
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- Use The Boomerang Technique at the peak of the conversation when she’s engaged and enjoying the interaction.
- Temporarily withdraw attention to create a sense of absence and prompt her to seek your validation.
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Why is it important to integrate The Boomerang Technique into Phase 1?
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- Integrating the technique helps maintain a balance between displaying intent and allowing her to invest in you.
- It creates a dynamic interaction where she actively participates in building desire.
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How can you use The Boomerang Technique nonverbally with touch?
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- Choose moments to withhold touch to avoid predictability.
- For example, if you’ve touched her shoulder after her first joke, withhold touch after subsequent jokes, then bring it back as a reward for her investment.
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How can you use The Boomerang Technique nonverbally with your whole body?
- Alternate between engaged body language (facing her, leaning in) and disengaged body language (angling away, focusing elsewhere).
- When you return your focus to her, she'll respond positively, feeling rewarded for her investment.
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What is the strategy for using The Boomerang Technique verbally?
- Alternate between sharing about yourself, asking about her, and bantering/joking.
- Reward her investment by asking about her when she initiates conversation or asks questions, then switch topics to maintain intrigue.
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How can you use the Surprise Technique nonverbally to create desire?
- Surprise her with unexpected touches, such as checking if she's ticklish or briefly pulling her close around her waist.
- Maintain a balance between excitement and respect by escalating touch gradually without crossing boundaries.
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How can you use the Surprise Technique verbally to create desire?
- Insert brief, playful sexual comments into nonsexual conversation, then return to normal conversation.
- Maintain a lighthearted tone and playful demeanor to intrigue rather than threaten.
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Why is the element of surprise important in creating desire?
- Surprise keeps interactions exciting and maintains her interest.
- It demonstrates your willingness to push boundaries within a respectful and playful context.
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What are some signs that indicate a woman is enjoying your interaction?
- She touches you back when you touch her.
- She leans into you.
- She becomes more talkative or excited about the conversation.
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How should you interpret shyness during interaction?
- Shyness, indicated by behaviors like crossed arms, is acceptable as long as she maintains eye contact, smiles, and stands close to you.
- These signs suggest she's nervous in a positive way.
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- Shyness, indicated by behaviors like crossed arms, is acceptable as long as she maintains eye contact, smiles, and stands close to you.
- These signs suggest she's nervous in a positive way.
- She backs away from you.
- She frowns.
- She looks around the room frequently.
- She becomes more serious, uses short answers, or changes the subject.
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How can you tell if a woman is hooked on your interaction?
- Her eyes light up when she looks at you, resembling the excitement of a puppy dog.
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What are the potential reasons for a woman pulling back from your advances?
- She may not be feeling the interaction, or she may need more from you to be comfortable with escalating.
- Assess whether to exit gracefully or hold back until she's ready to move forward.
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How should you adjust your approach based on her response?
- If she's not ready to escalate, return to Phase 1 and engage in casual banter until she's more open and responsive.
- Navigate your flirting to identify what she needs more of, such as learning about you, building trust, displaying masculine behaviors, or engaging in playful banter.
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What should you do if you don't see positive signals from a woman during interaction?
- Exit gracefully by saying something like, "Hey, it was good to talk to you. Have a fun night, stay out of trouble!"
- Maintain your dignity and confidence, as it's common for a girl to become more interested after you make your exit, especially if she sees you talking to other girls afterward.
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What are some common reasons for not receiving positive signals from a woman?
- She may already be seeing someone.
- She could be dealing with stressful life situations.
- She may have specific preferences regarding the qualities she's looking for in a guy.
- She might not be interested in men romantically.
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What are some body language cues indicating a woman is almost ready to move to Phase 2?
- She's partially facing you, even if not directly.
- She stands close to you when you talk.
- She makes a lot of eye contact.
- Her arms are open, and she may have a hand on her hip.
- She maintains good posture, smiles, and may fix her hair.
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What body language cues suggest a woman is ready to move to Phase 2?
- She focuses more attention on you, even if there are distractions.
- She engages in more physical flirting, such as touching your arm, nudging you, or fixing her hair.
- She may step away briefly to freshen up her appearance.
- She exhibits fidgeting behavior, like adjusting clothes or jewelry, while maintaining eye contact and smiling.
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What are some verbal cues from women that indicate interest?
- Asking questions about you and showing genuine interest in the answers.
- Playfully teasing or challenging you during conversation.
- Engaging in banter that goes beyond pleasantries, indicating a desire for more than just rapport.
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How can you differentiate between playful flirting and genuine interest from a woman?
- Genuine interest is often accompanied by talk about future plans or asking about your plans.
- Strong reactions to your opinions or attempts to seek your validation.
- "Cry for help" scenarios where she finds excuses to ask for your assistance or input.
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What do mixed messages from women typically indicate?
- Flirting for fun without intending for it to progress.
- Fear of rejection, leading to hesitation in expressing genuine interest.
- Genuine ambivalence about their feelings towards you, resulting in inconsistent signals.
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How should you respond to mixed messages from a woman?
- Test out Phase 2 interactions and gauge her response. If she doesn't reciprocate, she may not be interested in advancing further.
- Be aware that some women may flirt for amusement, so don't take it personally if it doesn't lead to further interaction.
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What should you remember to do when sharing?
Share who you are while maintaining an air of mystery
