Positive Disciplining

Question 1

If CHILD’S Goal is: “If the PARENT/
TEACHER feels:” “And tends to
REACT by:” “And if the CHILD’S
RESPONSE is:” “The BELIEF behind the
CHILD’S BEHVIOR is:” WHAT THE CHILD NEEDS (Hat Messages) AND WHAT ADULTS CAN DO TO ENCOURAGE

Answer 1

And if the CHILD’S
RESPONSE is:” Stops temporarily, but later resumes same or another disturbing behavior
WHAT THE CHILD NEEDS (Hat Messages) AND WHAT ADULTS CAN DO TO ENCOURAGE
“The BELIEF behind the
CHILD’S BEHVIOR is:” I count (belong) only when I’m being noticed or getting special service. I’m only important when I’m keeping you busy with me. Notice Me-Involve Me. Redirect by involving child in a useful task.”I love you and _.” (Example: I care about you and will spend time with you later.) Avoid service. Say it only once, then act. Plan special time. Set up routines. Take time for training. Use family/class meetings. Touch without words.

Question 2

If CHILD’S Goal is: Undue Attention(to keep others busy or to get special service
“If the PARENT/
TEACHER feels:” •Annoyed •Irritated •Worried •Guilty

“And tends to
REACT by:” RemindingØCoaxing ØDoing things for the child he/she could do for him/herself

Question 3

5 techniques

Answer 3

Redirection: what they can rather than can’t do
Positive Reinforcement: always
Time-In: instead of time out
Single-Word Reminders: teeth
Selective Ignoring: spilt milk