Psy 220 Final Flashcards
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Interpersonal relationships
social and emotional connections we form with people. Extended attachments between two or
more individuals due to bonds of
friendship, family, love, respect, or
hierarchy
Studying relationsips
difficult to study due to self-selection. cannot experimentally assign to bonds.
relationships- animal research monkey
Harlow Monkey experiment- Moneky is seperated from their parents and were either give a cloth or a piece of wire to act as their mother. Both figures give them food but the cloth mom was also comforting. Moneky showed a stronger preferance to cloth mom. This experiment shows how animals also need emotional connection early on which was given by the warmth of the cloth mom
relationships- animal research elephant
Elaphan babies were raised in isolation, they were grown to be socially dysfunctional and displayed severe psychological issues. Shows the need for interaction
Importance of relationship
- stress reduction. stressful situations motivates us to affiliate with those who are in a similar situation. We want to reach out and be with others who understand the situation to help and reasure us. Stressful situations that trigger fear making us not want to feel alone and feel like we belong by being around those who faced similar threats
Importance of Relationships
- Cognetive Clarity. When faced with uncertain or challenging circumstances we seek support from others. Getting different perspectives from others helping us come to an answer- thinking of starting a new job reaching out to someone who has been through this so they can help guide you and provide insight on their experience. Helps us uncover our thoughts, talking about them helos us clarify and understand out feelings. friends and family can help us come to a deeper understanding by challenging our thoughts. Bring in new perspectives
Importance of relationships
Shyness- People who are painfully shy are at risk for loneliness, a feeling of isolation, and social deprivation. Sometimes people crave social interaction but anxiety and fear may be holding them back , this can lead to an unrewarding social environment. Shyness can make someone hesitant to engage and when they do engage it may not be rewarding leading them to not want to engage in the future. This can be emotionally taxing and social deprivation impacts mental and physical health. Relationships are not just a luxary but a fundamental biological need to feel belonging
Need to belong
social belonging is a biological need.
5 criteria of a need:
1. evolutionary basis- social belonging is linked to survival and reproduction.
2. universal- all cultures have similar types of social relationships and dynamics- need to belong sseks out relationships that contribute to identity
3. Guides social cognition- social relationships guide how we see ourselves, others and our surrondings. e.g. feel accepted and values in a group we will feel good about ourselves. Exclusion can lead to negative views of our selves.
4. Satiable- Relationship are something we desire when we
don’t have them, but like hunger, the need for relationships can be satisfied by finding new relationships
5. Profound consequences without relationships- Being cut off from others is bad for mental and physical health. without close connections we seek them out, once they are established we do not feel a constant urge to form new social connections. If the need is not met and we do not find a strong set of connections there can be negative consequences- if we are cut off or feel lonely we can have mental and physical health consequences- increased rates of anxiety and depression and weaker immune system. Being cut off completely has the same impacts as smoking
Costs of social rejection
people who feel more socially
isolated report higher levels of chronic pain, ailments, and pain during childbirth
Feeling socially rejected causes feelings of shame and distress.
Impair our ability to regulate our behaviour- harder time with impulse control, concentration and more aggressive to others
Ways of relating to others
- Social Exchange Theory
- when evaluating relationships were doing it on social costs and benefits of the relationship, what we are putting in versus what we are getting. if the benefits are less than costs we consider leaving or we do leave
comparison level- comparing our standard of what we think we deserve to what we have
comparison level for alternatives- Do we think we have other better alternatives? constantly assessing the standards of what we believe we deserves, id they fall short we might feel disappointed or not fulfilled if we think nothing better is available we stay in the relationship - Equity theory
fairness in relationship, happiest when there is a sense of balance between what we and our partner is giving. Not just about the total benefits or costs but if each of the persons contribution is equal. If one thinks that they are getting to little it can lead to tension and dissatisfaction.
How to maintain relationships?
Equity/ equity theory- Short term relationships often look at a fair distribution of rewards and costs. you make sure that what you are getting ang giving is equal, believe benifits should be reciprocates. In long term relationships, which are maintained you give and recieve based on the needs of the other in the relationship and you do not keep score. Less concerened with the immediate return.
Attachment theory
looks at how our early bonds and attachments with caregivers shape our future and form our relationships over time. Evolution plays a role in shaping humans to develope strong parent- offsprings bonds. Infants are born with traits that make parents want to connect with them, e.g. having big eyes. parents also have traits that make their infant attatched to them
Test of infant attachment
An infants reaction is observed after the mother leaves the child in a room with a stranger and then returns to the room. child and mother play and the child settles down, a stranger enters and sits in a chair reading a magazine, after a couple of minutes the stranger interacts with child, soon after the mom leaves the room, stranger tries to comfort child, the mother enters the room again, Second part- stranger leaves, soon after mom leaves too and the baby is on its own and then the stranger comes back in, the mom comes back in. Lisa showed secure attachment.The child was comforted by the parent showing secure attachment.
60-70% demonstrated secure attachment- showed distress when left but comfort when she came
10-15% anxious- highly distressed when the mother left, but ambivalent when the mother returned, resisting comfort
15-20% avoidant - ignored or avoided the mother when she returned show little emotional response to her absence or presence
Attachment Styles
- Secure-feel secure in the relationship, comfortable with intimacy (letting others depend on you and being dependant on others), desire to be close to others during times of stress (seek closeness, understand support is a vital part of maintaining a relationship, easy in building trust). In future it will be easier for the to handle ups and downs in their relationships. Most stable attachment style with the most positive consequences.
- Anxious-Insecure- insecure in relationships which can lead to emotional roller coaster. Compulsively seeking to feel close to someone and seeking connections but always worried about the relationship. feeling that the partner will leave. when stress hits instead of leaning on other they will double down the efforts, they will seek reassurance and validation that is more overbearing, cling to relationship rather than connect. creates strain on the partner, might feel overwhelmed of having to constantly reassure their partner. Feels insecure in relationships, compulsively seek closeness but constantly worry about the relationship.
- Avoidant-insecure- feels insecure in a relationship and feels the need to be self reliant. Distances themselves from others in stressful situations. rather than seeking closeness and reassurance, they lean into self reliance, rely only on themselves to feel better, believe that depending on others will resolve in disappointments or rejection, find it deeply uncomfortable to relay on others. When closeness is often expected they may pull away and feel uninterested.
- Disorganized- less common, contradictory desires, wanting closeness but feel uncomfortable, mix associated with early experiences of trauma, abuse and neglects, approach avoidance- as soon as intimacy become available they push it away even if they wanted it. Trust is shakey. difficult time in regulating their emotions, extremes- very close to the person or very fare, switching between the two. Often linked to trauma or neglect in early life.
Attachment in Adulthood
-Securely attached least likely to have a breakup (25.6 percent), then anxious (43.6 percent), then avoidant (52.2 percent), across a 4-year study
secure attachment will likely have better more effective communication leading to fewer marital problems.
Anxious attachment involves more fear and sadness during temporary separations
Avoidant attachment involves seeking less physical contact from partners
Anxious/avoidant pairs do especially poorly
People with anxious attachment styles are more likely to have problems with drug abuse,
alcoholism, and eating disorder- this correlation can be linked to intense insecurities they feel in relationships - maladapting in coping mechanisms
Rules of Attraction
Physical proximity- geographical nearness and functional distance predics liking. house for american military members- asked people in the house to name 3 people who they socialised most with- distance influenced the connection with people
Proximity effects
- Availability and proximity- more often we see someone, more opportunities to interact with them- easier to form a bond, making it more likely to have a relationship with them
- Anticipation of interaction
we know we will meet someone, the expectation that we are going to meet and interact with them gives an assumption that they will be nice- encouraging us to approach them more positively - Mere exposure- Greater exposure to a stimulus leads to greater liking of that stimulus, including other people
Mere exposure and liking (experiment)
The idea that repeated exposure to a stimulus such as an object or a person leads to greater liking of that stimuli. Rats were either raised on Schoenberg or Mozart. They listened to the music of one of the artists. Rats who listened to Mozart prefered Mozart and vice versua. This could mean they associated this stimuli with safety as they knew it thus making it good and increased liking. Them picking the artist they were exposed to shows how mere exposure can cause liking.
fluency- Easier to process information about familiar stimuli
Pleasant feelings associated with more fluent processing
Similarity
Friends and romantic partners tend to be similar in beliefs and other characteristics (attractiveness, intelligence, socioeconomic status, and so on) A study of romantic couples found that couples were more similar on 66 of 88 different traits than people paired at random.
Similarity and attraction
- Social Validation- We like people who agree with us, and generally feel uncomfortable around people who challenge our beliefs. our own perspectives and beliefs conformed making us more connected creates a sense of harmony, being around those who challenge us can make us uncomfortable
- More fluent interactions- Interacting with people who are more similar to us is often easier. There is less conflict over which activities are desirable, and greater ability to understand other person’s choices and perspective. interaction will be easier, smoother, less frictions, more agreement (activities, beliefs…) more easily relate to the others persons perspective, no explanation necessary from us.
Dissimilarity
Dissimilarity can increase disliking. 1. False consensus bias- most people see the world the way we do, if someone challenges our view of the world makes us like them less
2. Attitude alignment- individuals adjust their attitudes to align with others, makes interactions smoother, but if this does not happen it drives people further and further apart creating disliking
different beliefs or values can create a sense of frictions
Opposites
Can opposites attract?- (complimentary)- the tendency to seek out others with characteristics that compliment their own.
1. status exchange hypothesis- social status- high social status seeking someone more nurturing and lower social status gets to admire- offers something to partners they both can desire
Competence
Being close to competent people is
rewarding. if they are more competent than we are in areas that matter to us and therefore make us feel incompetent and
inadequate by comparison, their
attractiveness will be diminished.
Competence, pratfall experiment
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