Purpose Flashcards
(30 cards)
Goals
Think Big
Have life goals for home and work
100k pa for 2 days work per week
Country home with garden
Nice office with library
Time to grow spiritually
Nice car with garage
Do healing work with hands and psychotherapy
Have three holidays per year
Have considerable resources
Have a man and a woman I am close to.
Have a dog
SPVM
GOals
Scary
Positive
Visual
Measurable
Enjoyment Present
Achievement Future
Time Specify
Visualise daily
Work
Enjoyment Present
Achievement Future
Home
Enjoyment Present
Achievement Future
Progressing
Self-development
Don’t creep (boss)
Be T shaped
You are only as good as what’s in your head
Have successful friend
Read books that create success
Be T shaped
Be general
Have a ( or two) specialist niche (s)
Self -educate
Remove Unimportant
Learn to say ‘no’
NCP - have a no crap policy
Say no to little things: 1hr/wk = 1 wk per year
Balance with overall happiness
Realise Everyday counts
Negotiate
Do some things less well
Don’t feed the be perfect driver: push back
Overcome personality drivers - hurry up driver
and people pleaser driver - stress driver
Drivers ruin holidays
Delegation
Every hour per week is 1 week per year
Time per hour evaluation
Life is too short to do some things
If it is routine - delegate
If a person can do it 80% as well - let them do it
Self-discipline
Procrastination
Write it in your diary
Make it visible - shoes by front door
Break it into chunks
Do the hardest thing first
Fitness priority - helps energy
Reward yourself - and stick to it
Get a nagger - accountability
Build up picture of how good & how bad it could be
Self-Care
Get exercise
Make regular times and days
Get a buddy
Get to bed early some nights
Target your interest (TV)
Destress yourself - reading
De-stress
Write everything down
Have a master list
Say no
No multi-tasking
Beat procrastination
Build in time buffer
Be assertive
Do meditation - use a calm mantra
Organisation
Master List
Create a daily list every day
Move across doable items from Master to daily
Home and work in one diary
Google diary
Take half an hour thinking time - prioritise yourself
Leave space for emergencies
Log agree deadlines
Environment
Tidy desk
Look organised and image
Declutter Environment
Several Gant charts on the wall
Promotion
Pear
Positivity
Easy to work with (low maintenance)
ask yourself - ask your colleagues
Appearing in control
good voicemail
organised desk
Stick to promises
be punctual
be reliable
write everything down that’s agreed
Repeaters
Problems that keep repeating
Nail it
Have a system
Everything should have a place
Get to the root cause of the problem (5 why’s)
why did it happen?
what contributed to the problem
dig and dig to the route cause
Positivity
CEO
Money isn’t the solution
Never retire and never have fun
Always jammed tomorrow and never get there
Entrapreneur
build and sell a company
Find a job that makes you happy
Law of diminishing returns
Is the price worth it?
life is too short not to have the perfect job
always keep looking and thinking
Something you like?
What are you good at?
Something you get paid for?
Ask other people what they think?
Be careful of hobbies becoming a chore
False Promises
of
Negative Emotions
Expectations
Happiness is already there
Reduce negative emotions
What are the pay-offs from negative emotions?
andrew - stronger - NOOooo!
worry - take action / prepare Nooo!
Guilt - gives permission to be flawed
I
AM
RESPONSIBLE
FOR
MY ACTIONS
takes away negative emotions
Change what you think…
Change what you feel… (devil)
Change what you do… (angel)
maybe choose both options - balance
ALways have
POSTIVE SELF-TALK
MANTRA
Life scripts are self-belief
Impatient script etc
Everything you say to yourself should be positive
Use the present tense
Use the paint metaphor - adding paint to change colour
3 pOisitive things
Mastermind Group
Impressive group
Reap what you sow
Give specialist skill
Be NICE! - thank, complement, offer help
Push out of your comfort zone
tell people you are going to do it, pay in advance, get somebody to work with you.
Inner Game of Tennis
COMPETITION is not the answer
Happiness - expect to loose half your matches
MASTERY - never will master it
Enjoy the game - play
DABBLE badly rather and enjoy
Suck out the juice
- Assertiveness
You have the right to be you and feel OK
Most people self-conscious about appearance /voice
Feel ok as a person - that’s the starting point
Standing up for own rights and the rights of others
The right to say and the right to be heard
Watch how you are teaching others to treat us
Learn to say no - no crap policy
840 months - don’t waste your life
Decide what you want
Assertiveness
FOur step process
I understand…but… acknowledge the situation
Say how you feel…this makes me feel
Say what you want…would it be possible?
Ask if that is reasonable…
Go back on not keep promises
Re-loop the process
Aim for the ione-off then the habit
Never too late to go back
Assertiveness
vs
Negotiation
Trade rather than conceed
Don’t open first
Ask for more than you expect
- Influencing Others
Being liked - to be good influencer
Be a good listener- give importance the other
Maintain good connection and body language
Eye contact
Ask questions for common ground
Complement something
Adapt to their style
Working with others and difficult people
minimise enemies
