Questions for change talk (DARN - Desire, Ability, Reason, Need) Flashcards
Explore someone's reasons for making a change in their life (20 cards)
wish / change?
Questions about desire: Uncover what the person wants or hopes for in making a change.
What do you wish could change for you in this situation?
look / step?
Questions about desire: Uncover what the person wants or hopes for in making a change.
How would you like things to look if you took this step?
enjoy / happen?
Questions about desire: Uncover what the person wants or hopes for in making a change.
What’s something you’d really enjoy seeing happen?
dream / shift?
Questions about desire: Uncover what the person wants or hopes for in making a change.
What do you dream of experiencing if you make this shift?
change / daily life?
Questions about desire: Uncover what the person wants or hopes for in making a change.
How do you hope this change could improve your daily life?
capable / forward?
Questions about ability: Assess the person’s confidence and capacity to make the change.
What do you think you’re capable of moving forward?
strong / tackling?
Questions about ability: Assess the person’s confidence and capacity to make the change.
How strong do you feel about tackling this right now?
skill / help?
Questions about ability: Assess the person’s confidence and capacity to make the change.
What’s one skill you’ve got that could help with this?
believe / pull?
Questions about ability: Assess the person’s confidence and capacity to make the change.
What makes you believe you can pull this off?
(When you pull something off, you succeed in doing something difficult or unexpected.)
*It was a difficult project, but we pulled it off. *
prepared / try?
Questions about ability: Assess the person’s confidence and capacity to make the change.
How prepared do you feel you are to give this a try?
Why / better?
Questions about reason: Help the person articulate personal incentiv
Why do you think this might make life better for you?
good thing / gain?
Questions about reason: Help the person articulate personal incentives for change
What’s one good thing you’d gain by making this change?
pushing / want?
Questions about reason: Help the person articulate personal incentives for change
What’s pushing you to want this for yourself?
shift / help?
Questions about reason: Help the person articulate personal incentives for change
How could this shift help the people you care about?
Why / worth?
Questions about reason: Help the person articulate personal incentives for change
Why does this feel worth it to you?
Why / wait?
Questions about need: Bring urgency or importance to the surface. What’s at stake if no change happens?
Why do you feel this change can’t wait any longer?
happen / peace?
Questions about need: Bring urgency or importance to the surface. What’s at stake if no change happens?
How much do you need this to happen for your own peace?
What / essential?
Questions about need: Bring urgency or importance to the surface. What’s at stake if no change happens?
What makes this feel so essential right now?
happen / soon?
Questions about need: Bring urgency or importance to the surface. What’s at stake if no change happens?
What might happen if you don’t take this step soon?
critical / well-being?
Questions about need: Bring urgency or importance to the surface. What’s at stake if no change happens?
How critical does this feel to your well-being?
