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The problem is the thinking that created the condition

Quote from Michael

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At some point I realized that ALL of my clients problems were simply metaphors

Milton Erickson

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If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but your own estimation of it, and this you have the power to revoke at any moment

Marcus Aurelius

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I have a policy, I never listen to anyone explain why they can’t do something, b/c I don’t wanna be convinced by it

Michael Caine

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Every time you tell your story you grow into it

Give up arguing for your limitations

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Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right

Henry ford

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You get what you focus on so focus on what you want

Energy flows where attention goes

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Where there is negative thinking, let there be reflection on the contrary

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Perception is projection

Fact

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Time, location, mood, meta programs, language, memories, decisions, beliefs, values, identity

Filters

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We delete, distort and generalize based on our

Filters

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Change a problem to a challenge and then the challenge to an opportunity

Reframe

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Mind/body is a

Psycho cybernetic system

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Always know your outcome, take real action, pay attention to your results(sensory acuity) l, be willing to change (behavioral flexibility), focus on excellence(physiologically and psychologically), always live with gratitude and integrity

Six principles for success

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Goal implies something you haven’t achieved, it’s always right in front of you

NLP focuses on outcomes

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Resistance in a client is a sign of a lack of rapport

There are no resistance clients, only inflexible communicators

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People are not their behaviors

Accept the person, change their behavior

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The map is not the territory

An NLP presupposition

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There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states

People have all the resources they need to succeed and achieve their desired outcomes

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There is ONLY feedback

There is no failure, only feedback

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The meaning of communication is the response you get

Presupposition of NLP

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The law of requisite variety

The system/person with the most behavioral flexibility controls the system

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All procedures are designed to increase choice

Presupposition of NLP

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Prime directives of the unconscious mind

Preserves the body, runs the body, stores memories, is the domain of the emotions, organizes all memories, represses memories with unresolved negative emotions, presents repressed memories for resolution, is symbolic, takes everything personally

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Prime directives of the unconscious mind (cont.)

Works on the principle of least effort, does not process negatives, may keep the repressed emotions repressed for protection, is a highly moral part of you, enjoys serving and needs clear orders to follow

Prime directives of the unconscious mind (cont.)

Controls and maintains all perceptions, generates stores distributed and transmits all energy, maintains instincts and generates habits, needs repetition until a habit is installed, is programmed to continually seek more and more, functions best as a whole integrated unit

Typical therapy works with only the conscious mind. Hypnosis works with only the unconscious mind

Only NLP strives for total concious-unconscious integration

NLP doesn’t ask why

The more reasons they tell you, the more stuck they will get

Most times when someone has a problem it’s b/c their conscious and unconscious mind are not aligned

Behaviors or thoughts that run unconsciously need to be interrupted

The interrupt becomes part of the pattern

Memory is state dependent

Sensory acuity

Skin color, muscle tone/skin shine, breathing rate, breathing location, lower lip size, eye focus, pupil dilation

Biological manifestation of an internal response

Anytime you ask someone about a past time - it will lead them into that stste

Words are 7% of communication Tonality is 38% Physiology is 55%

93% of communication is energy

Physiology (55%) Posture, gestures, facial expressions/blinking, breathing

Rapport

Tonality (38%) Voice tone(pitch), tempo(speed), timbre(quality), and volume(loudness)

Rapport

Words (7%) Predicates V,A,K Key words Common experiences and associations Content chunks

Rappot

Internal feeling Color shift They say something (optional) You lead, they follow

4 indicators of rapport (Bc of the mirror neurons in your brain)

Matching one part of the body with another part (match breathing with finger tapping)

Cross mirroring

Manipulation is win/lose, rapport is winning

You can not DO rapport to someone, your mirror neurons are firing off too

You can tell HOW people are thinking by watching their eye patterns

By changing the sub modalities, we change what that thought means, and that changes the way we feel about those things

Techniques: contrastive analysis, mapping across, swish pattern, dissociative techniques, perceptual positions (A, B, C)

Location and association are usually the most important submodalities

Anchoring is heavily kinesthetic Submodalities are highly visual

Black and white or color? Near or far? Bright or dim? Location? Size of picture? Associated/dissociated Focused or defocused Focus (changing/steady?) Framed or panoramic? Movie or still?

Visual submodalities

Location Direction Internal or external Loud or soft

Auditory submodalities

Location Size Shape Intensity

Kinesthetic submodalities

Using specificity/ambiguity in language (chunking up/down) Hypnotic language patterns (Milton model) The agreement frame The purpose frame The what if frame The backtrack frame

Masterful language patterns

The relevancy frame The contrast frame Use words that create positive I/R’s - say it the way you want it Conditional close Tag questions

Masterful language patterns (cont)

“I wanna go running BUT it’s raining tonight” changes to “it’s raining tonight BUT I want to go running”

Flip the “but”

If you speak and they don’t get it then you aren’t communicating - take a different approach

You are 100% at cause for communication

Have you stopped beating your dog yet?

Either answer assumes you have beat your dog

Adjectives describe a thing

Adverbs describe actions (read quickly)

MM Mind Reading

“I know that you’re wondering…?”

MM lost performative

“And it’s a good thing to wonder…”

MM Cause and effect

“Because when you wonder, you dream…”

MM Complex Equivalent

“And that means…”

MM Presuppositions

“You are learning many things…”

MM Universal Quantifiers

“And all the things, all the things…”

MM Modal Operators

That you CAN learn

MM Nominalizations

Verbs or processes frozen in time by turning them into nouns

MM Unspecified verbs/predicates

“And you can wonder…”

MM Tag question

“Can’t you?”

MM Lack of referential index

“One can, you know…”

MM Comparative deletions(unspecified comparison)

“And it’s more or less the right thing”

MM pacing current experience

You are sitting here, listening to me, looking at me

MM double binds

“And that means you can learn this easily or without any effort at all. It’s totally up to you”

MM Conversational Postulate

“Would you feel more comfortable if your eyes were closed?”

MM Extended quotes

Quoting a person, who quotes another, who quotes another, etc

MM Selectional Restriction Violation

“And I wonder how your ears feel, having heard such a thing…”

MM Ambiguities

Hear and here They are visiting relatives The old men and women I want you to notice your hand me the glass Can you please pass out (pause) the flyers

MM Utilization

Using what the client has said, done or experienced thereby matching their model of the world in order to gain rapport.

MM Analogical Marking

Marking out words with V, A, or K to communicate with unconscious mind. “My mother used to bake cookies from SCRATCH, I wonder if YOUR mother KNOWS.

The things and events in the world around us have no meaning themselves. Things have meaning bc we attach meaning to them

Reframing separates intention from behavior

A part is a part when it is part time OR conflicted

A conflict is a limiting decision when it is full time AND congruent

Time integration for maximum empowerment

TIME techniques

You use one emotion to push another one down

Anger Sadness Fear Hurt Guilt

A string of memories collected or strung together of a particular emotion

Gestalt

Most negative emotions are first experienced

Between 0-7 y/o

Anxiety is a warning from your unconscious mind to focus on what you want

The reason we feel anxious about something is because we project failure into a future event

Pendulum works with idiomotor response. Unconscious mind makes micro movements for yes or no

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