Relational Needs

Question 1

Provision

Answer 1

Having adequate food, clothing and shelter

Question 2

Security

Answer 2

Feeling safe in a relationship: physically, emotional

Feeling safe in my environment

Question 3

Consistency

Answer 3

Having life in order, responding with self control, knowing what to expect from the behavior of others

Question 4

Belonging

Answer 4

Feeling that I am a part of a group, knowing I am accepted even when my behavior is less than perfect.

Question 5

Valued

Answer 5

Someone taking an interest in what I am doing. Someone appreciates the person I am.

Question 6

Comfort

Answer 6

When I am hurting having someone express genuine care and concern, acknowledging what I am feeling with words or appropriate touch.

Question 7

Recognition

Answer 7

Words of thanks\acknowledgement; Having someone regard me highly for what I accomplish, being respected by others. Feeling honored in the relationship

Question 8

Affection

Answer 8

Having someone show appropriate non sexual, physical touch someone saying, “I love you.” showing me they care about me.

Question 9

Encouragement

Answer 9

Someone acknowledging my attempts to reach new goals or to do the right thing.

Question 10

Support

Answer 10

Having someone gently help me with a problem or struggle, giving me appropriate assistance.

Question 11

Ten Relational Needs

Answer 11

Provision
Security
Consistency
Belonging
Valued
Comfort
Recognition
Affection
Encouragement
Support