Self Improvement

Question 1

When feeling an urge

Answer 1

1. KEY: I want to become more governable
2. Nothing tastes as good as willpower feels
3. Go to the willpower gym! Exercise your willpower and grow it!

Question 2

When facing a problem / challenge / mistake

Answer 2

1. KEY: I know that I have, I can, and I will
2. I focus on the solution
3. Every problem and every challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow

Question 3

When feeling stress

Answer 3

1. I perform the stress response: deep breathing.
2. I act strategically.
3. Is [acting stressed] in your core interest? (of becoming a calmer, better, person).
4. I move from where I stand.
5. I remember the diving board (feelings =/= reality)

Question 4

When feeling negativity toward others:

Answer 4

1. KEY: is [thinking or acting negatively] in your core interest? (of becoming a calmer, better person)
2. I show compassion (compassion to others = compassion to self)
3. I focus on the solution (negativity solves nothing)

Question 5

When blaming / attacking myself:

Answer 5

1. You are all you have: build yourself up, don’t break yourself down
2. Is [thinking or acting negatively] in your core interest? (of becoming a calmer, better person)

Question 6

When working, I am the following:

Answer 6

Nice
Concise
Hard working
Thorough
> Explore over ignore
Proactive
Ends focused
Solutions focused
Patient
> There is time enough and space
> Taking time saves time
Common sensical
Tonally appropriate
Strategic
> Contributions on calls
> Situation of tasks
> Effecting of tasks

Question 7

What is your self concept (work)

Answer 7

A competent and self-assured (soon to be) senior associate

Question 8

When self-assessing

Answer 8

Focus on the game, not the score.

Question 9

When feeling pain or aversion

Answer 9

Lean into the pain! Pain is a sign you are pushing your boundaries!

Question 10

When feeling like things have “gone wrong”

Answer 10

Begin again - move from where you stand.

Question 11

When feeling distracted / unfocused / unproductive

Answer 11

1. KEY: focus on one thing at a time
2. Begin again
3. Move from where you stand

Question 12

When feeling socially anxious

Answer 12

Anxiety is not adaptive: you are not going to be sacrificed to King Kong

Question 13

When thinking about breaking habits

Answer 13

When you play yourself, you play yourself.
Remember Communist Propaganda: form > weight

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1. Core interest = becoming a calmer, better person
2. Feeling =/= reality
3. Becoming a calmer and better person comes > any immediate goal

Question 14

When moping

Answer 14

• Begin again
• Is moping in your core interest? (of becoming a calmer, better person)
• Know that you have, you can, and you will
• Every depression is an opportunity to develop the will to power!

Question 15

When feeling fear

Answer 15

Fear is not adaptive: you are being chased by an email, not a tiger

Question 16

When feeling anger

Answer 16

1. KEY Anger is not adaptive: you are not in the jungle you are posting online
2. Angry and frustrated communications are provably less effective.

Question 17

When receiving feedback

Answer 17

A draft is not your baby, it is a work in progress
You are not a baby, you are a work in progress

Question 18

When starting a task / when unsure how to action a task

Answer 18

1. Make a plan
2. Record steps taken

Question 19

When “looping” (drafting)

Answer 19

1. One thorough check
2. There are many good ways to achieve the same thing
3. When stuck on form:
   > Consider strategy
   > Consider substance
4. Avoids wasting time
5. Builds confidence
6. Creates time to practice other things (e.g. 8 reps > 1 rep, even if you spend days thinking about how to make that 1 rep the most amazing rep ever!)

Question 20

When actioning an objective

When thinking about emails “on the clock”

Answer 20

When actioning an objective: 100% focus on the objective

When on the clock: no need to even think about emails - just focus on the task at hand

Question 21

When thinking negatively about myself

Answer 21

1. KEY: I know that I have, I can, and I will.
2. I remember the diving board (feeling =/= reality).
3. Is thinking or acting negatively in my core interest? (of becoming a calmer, better person)
4. Be compassionate to yourself - you are your own good friend

Question 22

When finding it hard to action a habit

Answer 22

Your willpower is a muscle - use it to grow it

Question 23

When you give yourself advice about the right course of action (especially advice based on experience)

Answer 23

Listen to your own wisdom!

Question 24

When feeling threatened by self improvement

Answer 24

Self improvement is an opportunity over a threat: (a) the surest way to fail is not to know or to try; and (b) you cherish becoming a better person.

Question 25

When successful

Answer 25

1. Congratulate yourself. 2. Accept your success. Remember, congratulating yourself on your victories and your willpower, helps builds the power for future success!

Question 26

When feeling like you’re “taking damage” from having many tasks to do / doing tasks

Answer 26

The natural state is a state of motion. You are not doing tasks so you can cease to do tasks.

Question 27

When deciding what to do

Answer 27

The main thing is keeping the main thing the main thing Core interest is becoming a calmer, better person

Question 28

When feeling something you are saying / doing is wrong

Answer 28

When you see a brick wall, don't walk into it Willpower won't make a duck into a horse