Terminology Flashcards
(47 cards)
Agreement/Alignment
Is a context in which everyone is going to same place. Alignment is a context in which everyone is coming from the same source”
listening bias
When you already decided that you know how somethings going to go it’s a pre-existing beliefs and interpretations that shape, color and influence the way people experience people, circumstances, and themselves
- Body language rolling your eyes
- That little voice in your head, the voice of your imagination, and the interpretations its constantly making
Aliveness
An occurrence when you get yourself in the game instead of spectate, and the big I takes over the little I
- you’re aware what you are doing at that moment you experience a sense of presence with yourself the big I
At effect.
To be a victim of circumstance or to depend upon them for success. “at the effect of [some circumstance]”
The Newtonian model of reality I am because of that, the quantum model of reality I am that - that exist because of me on
Authenticity.
When one is being consistent with how they portray themselves to others that is in alignment with their core values.
Breakthrough.
When your free from a limitation, it allows you to leap in performance and quality of life
- When “the light bulb clicks on in your head” and you “get it” and it causes a discrete change in behavior
Breakdown.
When things don’t go as expected A breakdown happens when some possibility, intention or commitment is frustrated, stopped or thwarted, or when you don’t do as you said you would – “not keeping your word” – , also known as a loss of integrity, a loss of workability
Complete
When one is complete with any aspect of the past and therefore the past has no constraint on who one is being or how they are acting in the present. In communication, being complete is one being left with no lingering resentments, regrets or “unfinished business.
Cost.
(as used in Rackets. The impact of one’s reactive ways of being and acting. The costs of rackets are love/affinity, vitality/well-being, self-expression, and satisfaction/fulfillment, all of which fall under aliveness.
Change.
(versus transformation). Change begins with something that is made different in distance (from here to there), time (from now to then) or form (for example, from a square to a circle). An aspect of the nature of change is that change causes the persistence of the something being changed.
Change is a gradual continual shift.
Transformation.
The invention of a new realm of possibility for yourself and your life. is a discrete jump. A caterpillar transforms into a moth or butterfly, but the metamorphosis that happens in the cocoon is change. Improvement and evolution are in the world of change. Transformation is about something new, different, a creation. Change = a+1 , Transformaton = before was A, now is B. AnyTDorH
Choosing vs Deciding
Deciding is related to other “*cide” words (suicide, insecticide, genocide), and is the result of applying reason to eliminate alternatives, effectively killing them. Usually a single thing is left and that becomes the decision.
Choosing is about making a choice purely for the sake of choosing, not applying reason, not applying logic, not removing or disqualifying the other choices. Everyone likes to use reason, but ultimately, at the bottom of every decision or proofs, is either fundamental choice or reason: “I choose to believe …” or “I choose to trust …” adding “because” makes it a reason. By using reason, one then absolves oneself from responsibility for the choice, it becomes the fault of the reason or the reasoning process if it fails. Choice demands responsibility for making the choice
Clearing
Clearing The most common analogy is of a field, and removing the stories, beliefs, Concepts whatever obstacles are in the way, that interfere with functionality and wellbeing to create a space where possibilities can be created. The clearing is like a vacuum, and can draw things towards it. If “I’m no good” is in the clearing you will draw “I’m no good”. If you want the possibility of contribution to the world to be in your clearing, to draw that possibility and opportunity, then you need to remove the “I’m no good” thing from your clearing
Box theory/Context.
is your occurring world; the total of how the world around you, and the people and things in it show up for you. Nearly all context in which humans live is created. As a “meaning-making machine”, it forms the setting and the background of your story and you tend to take actions based upon it in response. And you take it for granted and don’t realize it: the one thing your occurring world doesn’t automatically occur for you as is context. For example, for a fish, water is a major part of his context. A fish has no appreciation of water, it’s just there, life consists of dealing with it all the time, he ‘swims in it’. No other fish has ever been out of water for any length of time and come back to tell him what it’s like, so the fish doesn’t know anything but water, and nothing else is possible to him. (The difference is, the fish’s context of water is beneficial to him, and he can’t overcome it and survive. You, however, might “swim in” a context that isn’t altogether beneficial to you, and that you can overcome. By contrast, responsibility is an empowering context.) When your life sucks, when you’re in a negative or disempowering context; the way to break out of it, to overcome the negative or disempowering context, is to distinguish something (see Distinguish, Distinction). Then you can see your disempowering story as a story, and take new action in alignment with reality; or take on one or more new ways of being that might work better for you.
Distinction.
Distinction. A distinction is a linguistic phenomenon that brings something into being as a presence, for which previously there was no presence. grantlam
The idea of a distinction comes from Taoism, when you name something as beautiful, not beautiful comes into existence as well. It also comes from sublanguages created to facilitate an area of thought or information – the example of physics used above. A distinction is simply a term, a word, used to name something to facilitate the abstraction, discussion and/or use of that thing
Distinguish.
Distinguish. To take something from an undifferentiated background and bring it to the foreground.
Empty.
Empty. Not real, made up, no substance. Generally used in conjunction with “meaningless”
as in “empty and meaningless” see “meaningless” below.
Enrollment.
Enrollment. A kind of sharing that causes a new possibility to be present for another such that they are touched moved and inspired by that new possibility. This is not to be confused with Registration
Force. (versus power
Access to the distinction between force vs. power, lies in the outcome, the result. Power produces
outcomes that will fall into place without a whole lot of resistance, and that once in place will stay in place indefinitely. Force can produce outcomes, but force nearly always meets with resistance. Force frequently produces outcomes other than what the person applying the force wants, or had in mind. Force produces unintended consequences. No one likes being forced, after all, and most anyone will seek ways to thwart whatever or whoever is trying to force something on them. And when force produces an outcome at all, that outcome will stay in place only for as long as the force can continue to be applied effectively. Once the force goes away, or is removed, or is met with an opposing force; once someone who is unhappy with the outcome produced by force comes up with a way to get around the force, or force back, or to evade the punishment that it threatens, the outcome produced by force is going to unravel. Power is, by its nature, successful. Force, by its nature, isn’t successful, and certainly isn’t powerful. Access to power lies in force-free communication.
I
What people tend to think of, in its capacity as an identity, as being a collection of
characteristics, attributes, and experiences from the past.
Identity.
A story that we invented about ourselves. The process of inventing an identity began in childhood, as we gradually adopted ways of being and acting to deal successfully with things that didn’t quite go the way we thought they should.
Informative learning.
Learning that increases what people know and adds to their skills by bringing new knowledge to an existing worldview and frame of reference. Compare to transformative learning
Integrity.
a state or condition of being whole, perfect, complete and unimpaired, in perfect condition. For a person, integrity is a matter of a person’s word. The extent to which who you are reflects the person you intend to be.The more workable, the more integrity, the less workable, there is a loss of integrity. Keeping ones word is associated with integrity – agreeing with common usageNot keeping your word, means you were inauthentic about your word. Inauthenticity leads to unreliability, which reduces workability which can lead to incompleteness, which reduces workability. Thus a lack of integrity, a loss of integrity, or simply, no integrity
Life,
as in “yourself and your life.” Our entire set of relationships with people
