Test 2 Chapters 2-3 Flashcards
(36 cards)
The questions you get asked in an interview reveals a great deal about what?
The Pastor and the problems they have experienced with past staff members
The most important questions are?
Those that clarify expectations
The relationship between associates and senior Pastor has a lot of parallels to what?
The marriage relationship
When is it time to leave your church position?
When you can no longer be his cheerleader
It may seem that the Pastor gets all the respect, but what is the flip-side to that?
They are the ones who get shot down first and they catch the most flack
Like a marriage, church staff relationships must all be based on what?
Trust
Name 3 ways to betray your pastors trust
- Take your choir to Las Vegas
- Challenge His leadership publicly
3 Don’t follow through on assignments or projects you are asked to do
It is vital for Pastors and associates to do what together?
Pray
What does praying together do for Pastors and associates?
Helps you see the Pastor or associate as more than just department heads
No matter how good the relationship is, you MUST accept what?
Criticism
Name three things you can do to avoid your Pastor being jealous of you and your success
- Express your support for them
- Complement them
- Make sure they know you are apart of the team
Name three options you have when having relationship problems
- Confront without being confrontational
- Stay put
- Leave
Quote Romans 8:28
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose”
Whatever option you choose, do it ______ and ______
God will give you the grace
Carefully, Prayerfully
Quote Colossians 3:23
“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;”
People are very fragile, what is something people work a lifetime to attain?
Self-esteem
Even confident, overachievers can actually have a very thin veneer that is often ____ and easily ______
Brittle, Shattered
Good, competent, talented singers often asses what about themselves?
That they have less music ability than they actually do
There is nothing more emotionally transparent than the ____
Voice
Cultivating excellence in music is a worthy goal BUT…
It must not take precedence over the people who make the music
Quote Richard L. Evans
“People need people who believe in them, trust in them, and expect much of them”
What is the challenge when dealing with people-related problems?
To correct the problems without alienating that person
We never have the right to _____ embarrass someone in order to ____ their undesirable behavior.
Publicly, Curb
What are four ways to stay out of the middle?
- Recognize psychological games
- Pray for wisdom
- Know where your loyalties lie
- Encourage face-to-face discussion
