Loneliness

Question 1

Remember that next time you feel alone

Answer 1

A season of loneliness and isolation is when the caterpillar gets its wings

Question 2

Nearly half of adult Americans feel lonely.

Answer 2

You are definitely not alone.

Question 3

People with lots of good friends

Answer 3

still get lonely

Question 4

People in the healthiest and longest-living regions, “Blue Zones,” have __________________.

Answer 4

“rituals of connection,” repetitive social activities, i.e., long social dinners.

Question 5

Explore loneliness…

Answer 5

…instead of numbing it with comfort-seeking, this makes you a happier and more whole human.

Question 6

Fear of loneliness keeps us in toxic situations.

Answer 6

When you stop molding yourself to others’ expectations, the positive feedback stops, and you lose “friends.” You might feel unsupported, and it’s tough to walk away. It’s one-hundred percent worth it in the long run.

Question 7

Embracing our humanity is powerful.

Answer 7

If this is a feeling that I have, this is definitely a feeling other humans have. We are all human beings, not superhumans or machines, and our vulnerabilities bring us closer.

Question 8

It takes great strength to be willing to be lonely for growth.

Answer 8

For people who look down on me when I’m alone on a Friday night, I realize how uncomfortable they must be for being unable to accept aloneness. They must be even more uncomfortable than I am.

Question 9

We all feel lonely.

Answer 9

Many of us feel very lonely. People who deny this or look down on loneliness are not people you want in your life anyway. Pretending to be a perfect human does not lead to real friendships.

Question 10

Vulnerability is courageous.

Answer 10

Telling the stories that only we can tell leads us to healing, forgiveness, and love. Embracing all emotions — even the awkward, uncomfortable ones — makes us great artists and great humans.

Question 11

You deserve to be with people who are …

Answer 11

…more concerned with loving you than afraid of losing you.

Question 12

People in toxic situations stay for so long…

Answer 12

…not because, deep down, we feel we deserve it. Being in toxic environments makes you feel worthless.

People don’t leave because they don’t have the support and fear the loneliness. These experiences are growing pains that lead to freedom.

Question 13

You will not always be lonely.

Answer 13

Healthy relationships take time to grow.

Question 14

The more we can let go of our unhelpful conditioning, own our fullest selves, and channel our unique frequencies, the more we will…

Answer 14

…the more we will find and be capable of deeper connections.

Question 15

How I’m learning to overcome loneliness:

Answer 15

1. Acknowledge that loneliness sucks and is often real physical pain.
2. Remember that you are not alone in your loneliness.
3. Release your stories and judgments about the situation and be very clear about who’s opinions actually matter.
4. Embrace loneliness as part of growth and transformation.
5. See the opportunity to connect with and own your whole Self.
6. Visualize the types of relationships that you want, including the relationship with yourself.
7. Have faith and be open to support and ideas from unexpected places.

Question 16

You will find people who care about you, accept you, and empathize.

Answer 16

Those people will be much closer to the right people to be in your life.