6 Learn To Look Flashcards
(18 cards)
The sooner you notice you’re not in ___, the easier it is to get back and lower the ____
Dialogue
Cost
The key to maintaining Dialogue is to __ __
Dual
Process
Dual Process by skillfully observing the ___ (How it’s being said)
Conditions
People who are gifted at Dialogue keep a constant vigil on ___
When Dialogue become either forced or withdrawn, the Best ask ___
Safety
Why?
When Dialogue is Safe, you can say ___
Anything
When you fear people aren’t buying into your ideas, you start ___
When you fear you may be harmed, you ___
Pushing Too Hard
Withdraw
If you can make it safe enough, you can ___ about anything
Talk
People rarely become defensive because of __ you are saying
They become defensive because of __ & __ you’re saying it
They become defensive when they no longer feel __
What
How & Why
Safe
Is this message a sign of ___?
Does this message tell me you have ___ motives?
Disrespect
Malicious
The problem is not the Content, but the
___ of the Conversation
Condition
From the time we are quite small we conclude that you can’t be both ____ & ____ simultaneously
Honest
Respectful
The problem is that you fail to help others feel ___ During a CC
Safe
A good way to ___ your brain from spinning up stories of others’ malicious motives is to give it a different problem to focus on. Like this one: “Why would a __ __& __person say this?”
Distract
Reasonable
Rational
Decent
“To avoid overreacting to others’ stories, stay __
Curious
Actively retrace the other person’s __ __ __until you see how it all fits together in a way you would find reasonable, rational, and decent.
Path to Action
Once the __ that fuel emotions are released, they hang around in the bloodstream for a time—in some cases, long after thoughts have changed.
So be __
Chemicals
Patient
Now that you’ve begun with an attitude of __ curiosity,
it’s time to get to work.
Your goal is to help others retrace their __ _ __
Path to Action
