Mindset Sunday Jan 13 Flashcards
How Can you Have a Growth Mindset?
It’s your Choice.
Step 1. Learn to hear your fixed mindset “voice.” This is the voice in your head that tells you that you can’t do it or you will fail or everyone will think you are stupid or …..
As you approach a challenge, that voice might say to you “Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don’t have the talent.” “What if you fail—you’ll be a failure” “People will laugh at you for thinking you had talent.” “If you don’t try, you can avoid being made fun of.”
Is this you?
As you hit a setback, the voice might say, “This would have been easy if you really had talent.” “You see, I told you it was a risk. Now you’ve gone and shown everyone you can’t do it.” “ It’s not too late to back out, make excuses, or get angry and blame someone or something else.”
What about this? Is this you?
As you face criticism, you might hear yourself say, “It’s not my fault. It was something or someone else’s fault.” You might feel yourself getting angry at the person who is giving you feedback. “Who do they think they are? How could they not say I’m right…even if I’m wrong.” The other person might be giving you good and positive feedback, but you might be hearing them say “I’m really disappointed in you. I thought you were capable but now I see you’re not.”
Step 2. Recognize that you have a choice.
How you view your challenges, setbacks, and criticism is your choice. You cansee them in a FIXED mindset such as signs that your fixed talents or abilities are not good enough. OOOOORRRRR you can interpret them in a GROWTH mindset as signs that you need to try another way or sequence. You can stretch yourself, and expand your abilities. It’s up to you.
Step 3. Turn the negative fixed mindset into an awesome GROWTH mindset.
THE FIXED-MINDSET says “Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don’t have the talent.”
THE GROWTH-MINDSET answers, “I’m not sure I can do it now, but I think I can learn to with time and effort.”
Try this…
FIXED MINDSET: “What if you fail—you’ll be a failure”
GROWTH MINDSET: “Most successful people had failures along the way.”
and this…
FIXED MINDSET: “If you don’t try, you can protect yourself and hide.”
GROWTH MINDSET: “If I don’t try, I automatically fail. How is that good for me?”
this too!
FIXED MINDSET: “This would have been a snap if you really had talent.”
GROWTH MINDSET: “That is so wrong. Basketball wasn’t easy for Michael Jordan and science wasn’t easy for Thomas Edison. They had a passion and put in tons of effort.
Yup, this also…
FIXED MINDSET: “It’s not my fault. It was something or someone else’s fault.”
GROWTH MINDSET: “If I don’t take responsibility, I can’t fix it. Let me listen—however painful it is– and learn whatever I can.”
Step 4. Take the growth mindset action.
Over time, which voice you listen to becomes pretty much your choice. Whether you
- take on the challenge,
- learn from your setbacks and try again
- hear the criticism and still do your best…It’s up to you.
Practice hearing both voices, and practice acting on the growth mindset. See how you can make it work for you.
