10 - Relational Transgression, Repair and Reconciliation Flashcards
Examples: Ways in which people hurt eachother
- Relational transgressions
- Hurtful messages
- Deception
- Infidelity
- Jealousy
- Unrequited love (not returned)
Define: Relational transgression
- Violating relational rules
- Hurtful messages
- Sexual activity with someone else
- Wanting or dating others
- Deceiving about something significant
Examples: Types of hurtful messages
Evaluations:
- negative judgements of worth, value or quality
Accusations:
- charges about a persons faults or actions
Informative statements:
- disclosure of unwanted information
- Most harmful when intentional
Examples: Responses to hurtful messages
Active verbal:
- Confronting the partner through positive or negative communication
Acquiescent:
- Giving in and acknowledging partner’s ability to hurt you
Invulnerable:
- Acting unaffected by the hurt
Define: Deception
- Intentionally managing verbal and/or non-verbal messages to make the receiver believe something that is false
- Computer mediated = deception about physical appearance and interests
Examples: Types of deception
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- Lies
- Equivocation
- indirect, evasive and ambiguous information - Concealment
- relevant information is omitted - Exaggeration
- Understatement
- certain details downplayed
Define: Motives for deception
- Partner-focused (avoid hurting other)
- Self-focused (avoid hurting self)
- Relationship-focused (avoid hurting relationship)
Examples: Types of infedelity
- Sexual
- Emotional (in love with someone else)
- Communicative (engaging with other to send message to partner)
- Online (to violate faithfulness)
Define: Jealousy
Feeling or showing an envious resentment of someone or their achievements, possessions, or advantages
Define: Romantic jealousy
- When an individual worries that a rival could interfere with the existence or quality of his/her relationship
