Chapter 11-13 soc Flashcards
Homogamy
people enter into relationships with others who are similar to them on a range of important social and demographic dimensions like social class, education, occupation, race, and religion
- preserves group identity and values and prevents economic loss
- Dissimilarity leads to lower quality and shorter relationships
What keeps us from dating outside of race/social class/etc
- Group pressures prevent people from crossing socially recognized boundaries, like pressure to not marry outside of your religion or race, or pressure against “dating down” with someone from a lower socioeconomic status.
- We are more emotionally attached to “sameness,” perhaps because people similar to us share our values and attitudes
- There are important material and financial considerations in relationships tied to education, income, and prestige
Mate selection
- For heterosexual women, studies indicate that men who show more dominance, and who are taller and stronger partners—those who are better able to protect mates and accrue and defend resources—are viewed as more attractive
- For heterosexual men, fertility is a key biological and evolutionary factor. Youth, lustrous hair, good teeth, smooth skin, a curvy figure, and good muscle tone are outward indicators of fertility and genetic suitability for mating.
- While evidence shows that mate selection can be tied to biology, cultural, psychological, and social factors are equally, if not more, important.
Monogamy
The practice of marriage or sexual practices with one person at a time
- Love often frames what an ideal intimate relationship should look like: closeness, intense feelings, sexual attraction, and monogamy
Polygamy
Having more than one partner at a time
Progression of mate selection
- Enlightenment ideals of individual liberty and the pursuit of happiness promoted individual freedom and choice and threw off the yoke of family and social control that had limited personal freedom in mate selection. This was especially true for women
- Previously, mate selection was beholden to traditional family and economic structures, and romantic love was a deviation from traditional norms. Only since the late 18th century has romantic love become a central feature of private relations between people in Western society
- It’s been a long process, however, and it took until the end of the 20th century for people to declare love to be the most important factor in mate selection.
Assortative mating
The non-random matching of people into relationships.
- Leads to homogamy
- People still tend to form relationships with those of their own racial and ethnic background, notwithstanding greater social acceptance of interracial relationships
- Moreover, less similarity between partners has been shown to lead to lower quality and shorter relationships
Pure relationships
relationships defined by the interests and needs of each partner rather than by laws, traditions, or necessity
Assortative mating is therefore fostered by assortative meetings
Where the pool of available partners is shaped by social arrangements, like where you live and work, and these arrangements constrain the types of people with whom you form romantic relationships
Mere exposure effect
You are more likely to be attracted to someone simply because you are around them more frequently and are more exposed to them. And this exposure is often controlled by geographic or social arrangements that favour homogamy.
Marriage market
- In Canada, the marriage market is a colloquialism for the idea that we use assets like attractiveness, income, or education to attract desirable mates.
- Arranged marriages in some countries achieve similar ends by controlling mate selection, all but ensuring homogamy.
The idea that love drives attraction
We may very well be hard-wired to be attracted to some people and not others, and we may very well follow our hearts and fall in love, but we do so in contexts that are shaped by relatively predictable social and cultural forces.
LGBTQ and dating
- Young people are more likely to experience harassment, rejection, discrimination, and possibly violence. All of these factors create challenges for LGTBQ youth on the verge of beginning romantic relationships.
- Adolescence is a time of conformity to social norms around gender and sexuality, and sexual minority youth—those from the LGBTQ community—experience pressure to conform to heteronormativity to avoid rejection
- Dating relationships for same-sex young people have been shown to increase self-esteem, lower depression, and reduce the internalization of homophobia
Hookups
- When asked about hookups, young adults report behaviour that ranges from kissing only to sex, and 80% of university students who reported engaging in hookups did so less than once a semester
- When people do engage in hookups, their partners are often friends rather than strangers, and repeated hookups are usually with the same person rather than with different people, what some call “friends-with-benefits.”
- About one-third of people who engage in sexual intercourse in a hookup report that it makes their relationship closer, and a similar proportion hopes that the hookup will lead to a more conventional dating relationship, particularly those hooking up with friends
- It’s also important to note that while hookups represent one form of intimacy engaged in by young people, they have not replaced committed romantic relationships among teens and young adults
Do men equate sex with love?
We often think that women are more likely to connect sex with love, but there are few differences between men and women, and most men also connect sex with love. Indeed, a third of young men who have had sexual experiences outside of a relationship express a desire for their partners to become their girlfriends
Online dating
- Dating apps provide a richer dating pool in a generally safe and more discrete environment.
- almost 50% of younger people (aged 18–29) have used online dating, including 22% of those in high school or lower
- One possibility is that new technology can promote diversity in romantic relationships because of increased contact with a larger and more diverse pool of people, and the reduction of the third-party influence of friends and family
- Increase inter religion dating, but not interracial or inter social class
- They are less constrained by norms around assortive mating because their sexual minority status is itself non-normative, making gays and lesbians more likely to date across race
How we date online
- Women online continue to adhere to gender scripts around passivity and dating, sending fewer messages to prospective dates than men and often waiting to be “approached” online with messages . That said, many women report more satisfaction with online platforms because they are safer and offer more control over partner selection.
→ This sense of empowerment allows women to shape the nature and direction of their dating, and in doing so has reversed some gender scripts. In one study of Tinder users, women reported a higher number of casual sexual partners than men
Family
a social institution consisting of a socially recognized and intimate primary group usually joined by blood, marriage, cohabitation, or adoption that serves as a cooperative and economical unit.
- how families are defined has varied by culture and over time.
Kinship:
one of the most fundamental human relationships and often centers on the family. In general, we establish kinship ties in three ways:
- through blood, such as the kinship between a parent and child,
- through affinities, such as kinship ties with people not related by blood, like partners or spouses
- through social ties with those not connected through blood or partnership, such as through religious affiliation or community membership
- Creates cooperative social relations, identifies how we are related to others, which is especially important for marriage and procreation, defines legal and social obligations, like obligations to children, and it helps people relate to one another in society as family, friends, neighbors, or even outsiders
Nuclear family:
family of a mother, father, and children, the “ideal” family structure in Western society.
- This family structure was prominent during the “baby boom” period after World War II when economic and labor market conditions allowed a family to be supported on a single income, and where there was a rapid increase in marriages and fertility
- The prominence of the nuclear family model also ignores and diminishes a variety of family types in Canada
Extended family
Includes aunts, uncles, grandparents and other relatives
Census families
Married or common law couple and their children living in the same home
- Can be remarried or common-law couples with children, lone parent, or complex stepfamilies with step siblings or blended families
- A census family is always an economic family, but economic families aren’t always census
Economic families:
Household of two or more people related by blood, marriage, cohabitation or adoption.
- Can be two siblings that live together, a person with foster children, or census family arrangements
Indigenous families
- Indigenous families, for example, often have unique and varying family and household structures that may seem ambiguous to non-Indigenous people, reflecting cultural nuances and different child rearing practices
- In some Inuit communities, for example, “uncle” is a general term referring to many people in the community rather than to a blood relation like your mother or father’s brother, as is more typically the case in Western understanding of family. Overall, Indigenous understanding of family is evident in household membership, caregiving, kinship systems, and mobility.
- There is also a higher presence of skip generations where children are raised by grandparents without the presence of parents.