Chapter 5: Romantic Love and Positive Families

Question 1

What is the hormone that increases the affection of love?

Answer 1

Oxytocin

Question 2

Oxytocin creates an _ motivation to seek out social support.

Answer 2

Increased

Question 3

_ _ are involved with social affiliation, diminishing stress.

Answer 3

Endogenous Opioids.

Question 4

What is the need for affiliation?

Answer 4

The need to feel like you belong

Question 5

What was Baumeister and Leary’s belongingness hypothesis?

Answer 5

We have a need for long-lasting, positive and meaningful relationships.

Question 6

Married people are _ satisfied in life than _ people, in general.

Answer 6

More, single

Question 7

Quality of marriage is a _ predictor of well-being, especially for women.

Answer 7

significant

Question 8

What predicts quality of marriage?TCC IES

Answer 8

Trust, communication, conflict management
Interactions, expressiveness, sharing

Question 9

The effect of marriage on well-being is stronger for _.

Answer 9

Men

Question 10

Being married seems to improve _ health, as in lower _ pressure, lower _ to negative interactions and more _ health indicators.

Answer 10

Physiological
Blood
Reactivity
positive

Question 11

Positive marital relationships lead to more…

Answer 11

Longevity (live longer)

Question 12

What is the two factor theory of love made of?

Answer 12

Passionate and companionate love.
All varieties came from these two elements.

Question 13

What is passionate love in the two factor theory?

Answer 13

Intense longing for union with another, joyful emotional union and sexual fulfillment, terrible despair in rejection

Question 14

What is companionate love in the two factor theory? What are its four parts?ACFC

Answer 14

Affection when life is deeply intertwined.
Affection, companionship, friendship, long term commitment

Question 15

What are the three parts of Sternberg’s Theory of Love?

Answer 15

Commitment, intimacy, passion

Question 15

What is the ideal love, according to Sternberg?

Answer 15

Consummate love

Question 15

How do the pieces of Sternberg’s love fair over time?

Answer 15

Passion tapers off
Intimacy increases steadily over time
Commitment starts low and increases until highest point

Question 16

What are the 7 types of Sternberg loving?

Answer 16

Liking (int)
Empty love (commit)
Fatuous love (pass+commit)
Infatuation (pass)
Romantic love (int+pass)
Companionate love (int+commit)
Consummate love (int+pass+commit)

Question 17

What are the four things that attracts us to someone according to the slides?

Answer 17

Proximity
Physical attractiveness
Attitude similarity
Reciprocity

Question 18

What was the Festinger et al (1950) study and what did it find?

Answer 18

More likely to be close to immediate neighbours and like people functionally close

Question 19

What is the matching phenomenon?

Answer 19

Men and women to choose partners who match them in attractiveness

Question 20

What is the attachment model of love? What are Bartholomew and Horowitz’s attachment styles in adulthood?

Answer 20

First relationship predicts all other relationships.
Secure, dismissive, preoccupied, fearful

Question 21

What are the two indicators of what attachment style will be?

Answer 21

Self-image and image of others

Question 22

What seems to be a big predictor of relationship satisfaction?
It matters less how much you talk and more…

Answer 22

Communication
What you talk about

Question 23

What did John and Julie Gottman recommend for relationships? (2)

Answer 23

Turn towards each other more often and seek small gestures of attention, affection, humour or support.

Question 24

What are bids for attention?

Answer 24

Small interactions that allow for another to respond with love and support.

Question 25

How you respond to bids for attention add up over time. How should you respond?

Answer 25

Positively.

Question 26

What is capitalization in a relationship?

Answer 26

Sharing positive events with others and seeing how respond

Question 27

What are the dimensions on how you can respond to good news?

Answer 27

Active/passive Constructive/destructive

Question 28

What are the four responses to capitalization?

Answer 28

Active constructive (best) Passive constructive (good but not elaborate, understate) Active destructive (worst) Passive destructive (bad, not even acknowledge good)

Question 29

What is self-disclosure?

Answer 29

Revealing intimate aspects of oneself to others.

Question 30

What are the three important parts of self-disclosure?

Answer 30

Transparency, allowing people to see our whole self Disclosure reciprocity, disclose equal amounts over time Caution, decide appropriate time to share

Question 31

How do you make a stable relationship (4)?

Answer 31

Friendship Culture of appreciation Marry older, higher incomes, education, religious Self-confidence and nurturance

Question 32

What are the 5 components of the minding model?KAARC

Answer 32

Knowing and being known Attribution Acceptance and respect Reciprocity Continuity

Question 33

Who created the minding model?

Answer 33

Harvey and Omarzu

Question 34

What is acceptance in relationships?

Answer 34

A realistic acknowledgement of one's partner with honesty

Question 35

What is the self-expansion model?

Answer 35

A person expands their self-concept by incorporating qualities of those close to them.

Question 36

Frequency of cuddling, kissing, caressing and sex is associated with...

Answer 36

Greater relationship satisfaction for all

Question 37

Cuddling does what in a relationship?

Answer 37

Builds positivity, feeling cared for and nurtured

Question 38

What can lead to tenderness?

Answer 38

Watching a romcom

Question 39

Children have _ impact on marital satisfaction.

Answer 39

Little

Question 40

What about having children can cause problems?

Answer 40

Stress, affective forecasting, unrealistic expectations

Question 41

Parenthood can _ life satisfaction.

Answer 41

increase

Question 42

What is the best amount of kids?

Answer 42

3

Question 43

What is the best person to have a child?

Answer 43

Married, 30s, middle class, college educated

Question 44

There seems to be a psychological boost from parenting, for _ more than _.

Answer 44

Women, men

Question 45

What are the four vital characteristics for a flourishing family?WDRR

Answer 45

Warmth and respect Democratic>authoritarian Rules and practices encourage childrens autonomy and maturity Friendly and constructive relationships with other families and wider community

Question 46

What are the parts of authoritative parenting? (4)RDCW

Answer 46

Reasonable rules High Demands High Communication High warmth and support

Question 47

Children of authoritative parents are better _ and experience greater self-_.

Answer 47

Adjusted Actualization

Question 48

Resilient families are...

Answer 48

Healthy families that flourish after challenges

Question 49

Resilient families require _ and _ coparenting or marital relationships.

Answer 49

Secure and loving

Question 50

Family centred positive psychology tells us how to work with _ and _ and promote their _ and _.

Answer 50

Kids Families Strengths Capacity

Question 51

Family centred positive psychology focuses on...

Answer 51

Strengths and assets

Question 52

Marital satisfaction _ after kids.

Answer 52

Decreases

Question 53

Satisfaction is _ during the initial years of marriage.

Answer 53

High

Question 54

Marital satisfaction drops until children are in _ _, but satisfaction as parents and family increases.

Answer 54

Young adolescence

Question 55

How can you not be less happy in your marriage after kids? (2)

Answer 55

Stay attuned to each others lives, view parenthood as a collaboration

Question 56

How many good things to bad things do you need in the ratio?

Answer 56

5/1

Question 57

Conflict is the primary cause of _ and communication problems are the top issue there.

Answer 57

Divorce

Question 58

What is the demand withdraw pattern?

Answer 58

Four step pattern, Gottman four horsemen. Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, withdrawal

Question 59

What is stonewalling?

Answer 59

When withdrawal turns into withdrawing attention to punish the other person`

Question 60

How did Gottman predict divorce 90%?

Answer 60

Four horsemen, demand withdrawal

Question 61

What are the seven principles that make marriage work? LFT ISGM

Answer 61

Enhance love maps Nurture fondness Turn towards rather than away Let your partner influence you Solve solvable problems Overcome gridlock and move towards dialogue Create shared meaning

Question 62

What are the 5 magic hours per week?

Answer 62

5 hours per week, work daily, improve relationship satisfaction