Chapter 6 - Interdependency

Question 1

Interdependency

Answer 1

You need the rewards that they offer, they need the rewards that you offer

Question 2

Codependency

Answer 2

Unhealthy reliance on partnership

Question 3

Examples of a “dependent” relationship that is not codependent (2)

Answer 3

taking care of an ill/disabled family member, or parent-child

Question 4

Characteristics of codependency (2)

Answer 4

-Lower self-concept / self-esteem
-Only viewing yourself in relation to your partner.

Question 5

Is interdependency dynamic or static?

Answer 5

Dynamic, you can go through periods of codependency that are only temporary

Question 6

social exchange

Answer 6

2 people provide each other with benefits/rewards that the other wants

Question 7

Factors of social exchange (3)

Answer 7

-Rewards + costs
-Expectations
-Alternatives

Question 8

Outcomes = ___ - ____

Answer 8

rewards - costs

Question 9

Potential outcomes of a relationship (positive and negative) (5)

Answer 9

-abuse
-companionship
-equity/respect
-Living location
-Divison of labour

Question 10

rewards

Answer 10

gratifying experiences/commodities we get from people.

Question 11

2 types of rewards

Answer 11

-Impersonal benefits
-Personal intimacies

Question 12

Impersonal benefits

Answer 12

Anyone could do it (helping you with something, etc.)

Question 13

Personal intimacies

Answer 13

Specific person can only give it to you (their sense of humor, etc.)

Question 14

Costs

Answer 14

punishing or undesirable experiences/commodities we get from people.

Question 15

Comparison Level (CL)

Answer 15

value of outcome that we expect or think we deserve when dealing with others

Question 16

Where is the CL point on a continuum from misery to joy

Answer 16

Neutral

Question 17

What level is the “bare minimum” we expect

Answer 17

Comparison Level (CL)

Question 18

satisfaction or dissatisfaction = ____ - ____

Answer 18

outcomes - comparison level

Question 19

Comparison level for alternatives (CLalt)

Answer 19

How we would fare if with someone else or alone.

Question 20

What level is the lowest we would actually tolerate

Answer 20

CLalt

Question 21

dependence or interdependence = _____ - _____

Answer 21

outcomes - CLalt

Question 22

being dependent on a relationship means…

Answer 22

Not better to be alone or with someone else (CLalt is lower than CL and outcomes)

Question 23

being interdependent on relationship means….

Answer 23

could be with others or alone but independently choose to stay

Question 24

4 relationship types

Answer 24

-Happy and stable
-Unhappy and stable
-Happy but unstable
-Unhappy but stable

Question 25

A relationship is happy when

Answer 25

Outcomes are better than CL

Question 26

A relationship is unhappy when

Answer 26

CL is better than current outcomes

Question 27

A relationship is stable when

Answer 27

Current outcomes are better than CLalt

Question 28

A relationship is unstable when

Answer 28

CLalt is better than current outcomes

Question 29

Happy + stable

Answer 29

Current outcomes + CL is higher than CLalt

Question 30

Unhappy but stable

Answer 30

Comparison level and current outcomes are higher than CLalt

Question 31

Happy but unstable

Answer 31

CLalt and current outcomes are higher than comparison level

Question 32

Unhappy + unstable

Answer 32

CL and CLalt are better than current outcomes

Question 33

Are comparison levels dynamic or static

Answer 33

dynamic

Question 34

What makes your comparison levels change

Answer 34

outcome experiences overtime

Question 35

What happens when you take a relationship for granted?

Answer 35

You get used to your outcomes meeting or exceeding your CL, so your CL becomes raised

Question 36

Factors that can influence expectations in a relationship (3)

Answer 36

-Social Media -Movies -Online dating

Question 37

When it comes to outcome experience, do positive or negative experiences matter more?

Answer 37

Negative experiences matter more

Question 38

Do rewards and costs ever cancel each other out

Answer 38

No, we are always aware of both and trying to attain rewards while avoiding costs

Question 39

Approach motivation

Answer 39

Pursuing pleasure

Question 40

Avoidance motivation

Answer 40

Seek to escape punishment

Question 41

A relationship is flourishing when

Answer 41

approach and avoidance motivations are fulfilled

Question 42

How does a flourishing relationship feel?

Answer 42

Safe and secure

Question 43

A relationship is boring when

Answer 43

Approach motivations are not fulfilled, but avoidance motivations are fulfilled

Question 44

How does a boring relationship feel?

Answer 44

safe but dull

Question 45

A relationship is distressed when

Answer 45

Approach is not fulfilled, avoidance is not fulfilled

Question 46

How does a distressed relationship feel

Answer 46

too many costs and not enough rewards

Question 47

A relationship is precarious when

Answer 47

Approach is fulfilled, avoidance is not fulfilled

Question 48

How does a precarious relationship feel

Answer 48

many delights and many dangers

Question 49

Relational turbulence

Answer 49

As partners spend more time together, they disrupt each other's routines

Question 50

What can happen when partners adjust to a new interdependency

Answer 50

A lull in the relationship

Question 51

When are perceptions of turmoil highest in a relationship

Answer 51

between casual dating and serious involvement

Question 52

When does increasing interpersonal satisfaction in a relationship experience a slower rate

Answer 52

Right after casual dating, as serious relationship develops

Question 53

Exchange relationships

Answer 53

People do favours for others and expect to be comparably repaid.

Question 54

Communal relationships

Answer 54

Partners do things for each other out of concern for the other person's wellbeing, without expecting anything in return

Question 55

A relationship is most satisfying when it is

Answer 55

equitable

Question 56

An equitable relationship

Answer 56

each partner gains benefits that are proportional to their contributions

Question 57

Equality

Answer 57

Equal benefits regardless of needs/wants

Question 58

Equity

Answer 58

Modifications that are specific to the goals/needs/wants of both partners

Question 59

Justice

Answer 59

Removable barriers that prevent equality/equity.

Question 60

Commitment

Answer 60

desire for a relationship to continue/willingness to maintain it

Question 61

Characteristics of committed partners (4)

Answer 61

-Expect the relationship to continue -Are future-oriented -Are attached -Tend to be more tolerant of "lulls" in the relationship