Exam 3.1 Notes Personality and Interpersonal Needs

Question 1

what are interpersonal needs

Answer 1

the needs in relations to other people, they stem from/occur w/in the context of social interaction

Question 2

what is need

Answer 2

need is the concept that a condition must be actualized or realized or there will be undersired consequences

Question 3

needs must be _________

Answer 3

balanced.

filled but not over filled

Question 4

what are the 3 interpersonal needs

Answer 4

1. inclusion
2. affection
3. control

Question 5

define inclusion

Answer 5

to feel like you are a part of something

Question 6

define affection

Answer 6

desire to have satisfactory relationships w/ others in terms of love

Question 7

define control

Answer 7

power and sense of control in our lives; desire for respect.

Question 8

What are two elements of all three needs

Answer 8

1. expressed - what you actually do (behavior)

2. wanted - internal desire

Question 9

what are 3 interpersonal communication motives

Answer 9

1. pleasure - initiate comm w/ ppl when you want to have fun
2. relaxation - catharsis for example
3. escape - helps take worries off our mind

Question 10

what are the four motives that are positively correlated with communication satisfaction

Answer 10

1. pleasure
2. affection
3. inclusion
4. relaxation

Question 11

different attachment styles might promote different ____________ motives

Answer 11

interpersonal communication

Question 12

what are personality traits

Answer 12

natural way in which ppl differ from each other

Question 13

what is the implicit personality theory

Answer 13

• we have beliefs that others have the personality traits we think they have
• may/may not be accurate
• not a good predictor when we pair w/ specific situations

Question 14

what is interactionism

Answer 14

-very little predictor of behavior, but when paired w/ specific situation, can aid

personality + context = predicts behavior

Question 15

what is the selection bias

Answer 15

ppl will match their situations w/ their personalities

Question 16

what is a communicator style

Answer 16

viewed as a trait, as part of our personality

-the way one verbally/nonverbally interacts to signal how literal to be understood

Question 17

what are the three communicator styles

Answer 17

1. open
2. attentive
3. dramatic

Question 18

what is the open communicator style

Answer 18

• process of transmitting info about self, signal that msgs we communicate are personal, private, unambiguous
• take us seriously

Question 19

what is the attentive communicator style

Answer 19

• posture, restate what other person says to us.
• direct gazes
• attentiveness to indicate interest (nodding head)

Question 20

what is the dramatic communicator style

Answer 20

• manipulates msgs w/ exaggerations, stories, metaphors, etc.
• highlight/alter the actual meaning

Question 21

what are the 2 dimensions of the different social styles

Answer 21

• assertiveness - ppl willing to make claims, argue point of view
• responsiveness - show that you are listening, making it clear you understand

Question 22

what are the 4 different social styles

Answer 22

1. analytical
2. driver
3. amiable
4. expressive

Question 23

what is the analytical social style

Answer 23

• not making lots of claims
• not arguing point
• also looks like not listening
• could be interpreting, in deep thought
• low response, low assertiveness

Question 24

what is the driver social style

Answer 24

• high in assertiveness
• low in response
• can be argumentative
• make claims
• talking but not listening

Question 25

what is the amiable social style

Answer 25

- low assertiveness - high in response - attentive, listen, ask questions - wont refute anything you say

Question 26

what is the expressive social style

Answer 26

- high assertiveness - high in response - make lots of claim - argumentative - listens really well too. - high in both

Question 27

what are some commitment concerns

Answer 27

partner's beliefs about whether their relationship is likely to continue over the long run

Question 28

many operationalize commitment as the ___________

Answer 28

likelihood of marrying the partner

Question 29

what are attributions in marital relationships

Answer 29

- a type of cognition that represent explanations for why things occur. - style varies as a function of whether a marriage is distressed/nondistressed

Question 30

what is a distressed marriage

Answer 30

- a big positive becomes less positive | - thing that are less negatives become big negatives.

Question 31

what is a nondistressed marriage?

Answer 31

- little positive enhanced into big positive | - big negative viewed as small negative

Question 32

what are the 4 steps couples can do to fight fairly

Answer 32

1. soften the way you make your approach 2. learn to make/receive repair attempts (jokes) 3. soothe yourself & each other 4. learn to accept partners faults, find compromise

Question 33

in fair fighting, what is it called when not every conflict in a marriage is solvable

Answer 33

perpetual problems

Question 34

what's the ultimate secret to a relationship

Answer 34

friendship connect in little ways